Zeng Guofan, a heavy minister of the late Qing Dynasty, once said: "People are mainly qi. ”
If the body has qi, it is strong and strong, and if the spirit is qi, it is radiant.
And life, there are also three qi, approachable people to add harmony, do not panic in case of temper, the sea is a hundred rivers to cultivate the atmosphere.
Harmony is like a boat, temper is like a wave, the atmosphere is the shore, people can be harmonious, do not lose their temper, have an atmosphere, in order to sail to the other side of success.
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Life, win in harmony
Zeng Guofan once said: "Harmony can dispel people's resentment, and endure enough to retreat from the disaster star." ”
As a person, if the temper is big, the harmony will disappear, and without the harmony, the temper will grow.
Therefore, if you want to achieve something, you must first learn to control your temper and cultivate harmony.
Zeng Guofan had a bad temper in his early days, but after continuous self-reflection and improvement, his later good temper was admirable.
In the siege of Qimen, Li Xiucheng led a large army to approach the camp of Zeng Guofan, and in the face of the crisis situation, some soldiers planned to escape from the battlefield.
After Zeng Guofan learned about it, he did not get angry, but ordered the announcement: "Those who have this idea can pay three months' salary in advance, and they can return again after the incident subsides." ”
Upon hearing this order, the soldiers were ashamed and never ran away again.
In fact, in the face of the rebels, Zeng Guofan could have been furious and dealt with them by military law, but he did not do so, but chose to be tolerant of others.
People often say: "Treat people with kindness and less strife, and smile more with friends." ”
It is precisely because of this kindness of Zeng Guofan that everyone can be convinced.
Many times, tolerance does not mean indulgence, forgiveness does not mean incompetence, and welcoming people with kindness is a symbol of wisdom.
In the Cai Gen Tan, it is said: "Those who have a peaceful heart and a peaceful mind, the hundred blessings are self-collected." ”
Be a person, have good intentions, be kind to others, and good luck will come uninvited.
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Defeat in the temper
"Cai Gen Tan" said: "Those who are sexually irritable and careless will achieve nothing." ”
What kind of temper a person has, what kind of life will have, people with good temper, life is smooth, people with bad temper, it is difficult to become a big thing, and life is even more bumpy and frank.
When Lin Zexu was young, he was young and talented, but because of his short temper, he was often angry because of one or two unsatisfactory words.
In order to avoid Lin Zexu's bad temper, his father told such a story:
Once upon a time, two great men escorted a young man to the church and accused him of being unforgiving and filial to the elders in the family, and this judge was impatient and had a straight temper, and when he heard this, he immediately sent someone to strengthen the young man to fifty boards.
After the execution, when he was about to leave the church, an old man came and accused the two big men of being thieves, not only stealing their own cattle, but also tying up their sons.
When the judge heard this, he was shocked and jumped up: "My temper was originally taken advantage of."
After listening to the story, Lin Zexu was deeply inspired, and immediately wrote the inscription "Control anger" and hung it in the most conspicuous place in the study.
Since then, Lin Zexu has thought twice about things, not letting his temper manipulate his mind, doing things in a disciplined manner, having a brain, and selling cigarettes through Humen, which is world-famous and has become a generation of national heroes.
In the "Vegetable Root Tan", it is said: "It is not advisable to be angry, and it is not advisable to abandon it lightly." ”
Temper is the passport for each of us to walk in the world, and if we control our temper, we can control our lives, on the contrary, if we let the bad temper control ourselves, we will devour ourselves and even ruin our lives.
Xiang Yu was talented, but because of his short temper and self-sufficiency, he eventually ended up in the fate of Wujiang's self-destruction, on the contrary, Liu Bei had a gentle temper, was good at using people, and eventually ruled the world.
Good temper, used for a lifetime, bad temper, a lifetime of resistance.
On the road of life, only by learning to control temper and let go of anger can we go to success.
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into the atmosphere
Li Si once said: "Mount Tai does not let the soil, so it can become its big; the river and the sea do not choose the fine flow, so it can be deep." ”
Throughout the ages, anyone who can achieve great things is an atmospheric person.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Gongzi Xiaobai defeated Gongzi Gui and became the famous Duke huan of Qi, who deliberately supported Bao Shuya, who accompanied him all the way.
However, Bao Shuya knew that he was not capable enough, and politely rejected the position of prime minister, and vigorously promoted Guan Zhong as the prime minister.
However, Guan Zhong had assisted Gongzi Gui and also shot the sword of the current Qi Huan Gong.
Qi Huangong was very resistant in his heart, but under the persuasion of Bao Shuya, he chose to freeze his previous suspicions and reuse Guan Zhong.
Facts have proved that Qi Huangong's decision was correct, and with the assistance of Guan Zhong, the people of Qi lived and worked in peace and contentment, happy and happy, and Qi Huangong thus became the head of the Spring and Autumn Five.
As the saying goes, "Only those who have an atmosphere can become a great instrument." ”
Being a person is not only a kind of personality, but also a unique personality charm.
The person of the atmosphere is lenient and does not care, and the person of the atmosphere has a long-term vision and is not rigid.
In life, only with humility and an atmosphere can we tolerate others and achieve our own achievements.
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"Cai Gen Tan" said: "Let one step be high in the world, and regressive is the zhang ben; treating others with a generous point is a blessing, and benefiting others is the foundation of self-interest." ”
Treating people with kindness is a kind of kindness; not losing temper is a kind of cultivation; being a person is atmospheric is a kind of character.
I want the road of life to be stable and smooth, temper can not have, harmony can not be lost, the atmosphere can not be forgotten.
Obedience will cause hostility, and harmony will be auspicious.
In this life, people win in harmony, lose in temper, and become in the atmosphere!
On the Tao