Zeng Guofan, a heavy minister of the late Qing Dynasty, once said: "People are mainly qi. "If the body has qi, it is strong and strong, and if the spirit is qi, it is radiant." In life, there are also three qi, approachable people add harmony, do not panic in case of trouble, temper temper, and cultivate the atmosphere. Harmony is like a boat, temper is like a wave, the atmosphere is the shore, and being able to be harmonious, not to lose temper, and to have an atmosphere, can sail to the other shore of success.
First, life, win in harmony
In the "Zhou Yi", it is written: "Harmony is auspicious, and obedience is auspicious." This means that harmony can bring good fortune, and discord can bring misfortune. Harmony is a kind of wisdom in life.
I have seen a small story: in a certain vegetable market, there was a woman whose stall business was particularly hot, which caused the jealousy of others. The stall owners, whose business was inferior to hers, began to dump and sweep the garbage in front of the woman's stall consciously or unconsciously. But the woman was not angry, nor did she stop it. Seeing this situation, the stall owner next to the woman was a little confused and hugged her unevenly: "They all dumped the garbage in front of your stall, why don't you get angry and stop them?" The woman replied with a smile: In our hometown, during the New Year, we will sweep the garbage into the house, which means that the more garbage there is, the more money will enter the house. Now that money is being sent to my stall every day, how can I be angry! Besides, it's better to be angry and rich! Hurting harmony will also destroy your own fortune. You see, isn't my business getting better and better? The stall owners who embarrassed her were ashamed to know and never dumped garbage in front of her stall again.
Master Hongyi once said: "If you greet others with harmony, you will perish; if you receive things with righteous qi, you will dissipate your demonic qi; if you are in trouble with a great qi, you will be afraid and relieved; if you nourish yourself with stillness, you will dream of tranquility." "A lot of times, taking a step back is the sea and the sky. Just like the woman in the story, she copes with strife with indisputability, and responds to difficulties with kindness, seemingly doing nothing, but in fact, there is no way to win. The good is like water, and the soft kegang is the same. A lump of harmony can often dissolve contradictions and discord into invisibility.
In the "Vegetable Root Tan", it is written: "Let one step be high in the world, and regression is the zhang ben of progress; treating others with a generous point is a blessing, and benefiting others is the foundation of self-interest." The "Augmentation of the Sages" also says: "Father and son are harmonious and the family is not defeated, brothers and families are not separated, the township party is harmonious and the lawsuit is disputed, and the husband and wife are harmonious and the family is prosperous." "Peace is precious, and everything is happy."
Second, life, defeat in the temper
There is an old saying: "Words should be spoken slowly, and anger should be born slowly." "Many times, it is because we have not controlled our temper that we make a wrong step, a wrong step, and finally taste the evil consequences."
I saw a parable about a snake that climbed over a saw and was accidentally cut. The snake was very angry, and immediately turned around and bit the saw, only to cut his mouth again. The snake was even angrier, and it thought it was a saw attacking itself. So it wrapped its entire body around the saw and tried with all its strength to suffocate it. As a result, we can all guess that the snake was sawn to death by a saw. The snake, until death, did not understand that it was not the saw that killed it, but its uncontrolled emotions.
In life, it is impossible to be satisfied with everything, and there will always be all kinds of things that upset you, make you angry, and even cause trouble and contradictions because of this. Tempers are shared by everyone, and throwing tantrums won't solve anything, it will only make things worse. As the saying goes: it is easy to deal with things and add harmony, do not sharpen your temper in case of trouble, and cultivate the atmosphere.
"Cai Gen Tan" said: "Those who are irritable and careless will achieve nothing." "What kind of temper a person has, what kind of life will have, a person with a good temper, a smooth life, a person with a bad temper, it is difficult to become a big thing, and his life is even more bumpy and frank." People's pain comes from anger at their own incompetence, bad temper, in fact, incompetence. A man's temper affects his career, a woman's temper affects her marriage, and if you're right, you don't have to lose your temper; if you're wrong, you're not entitled to lose your temper. If we control our temper well, we can control our lives, and conversely, if we let our bad temper control ourselves, we will devour ourselves and even ruin our lives. Xiang Yu was able to dominate the crowd, but because of his short temper and self-sufficiency, he eventually ended up in Wujiang's self-destruction, on the contrary, Liu Bei had a gentle temper and was good at using people, and eventually ruled the world. Good temper, used for a lifetime, bad temper, a lifetime of resistance. On the road of life, only by learning to control temper and let go of anger can we go to success.
Third, life, into the atmosphere
The life of a successful person will certainly not be stuck in the camp and the work, let alone the price of the beggar and the truth of everything. There is a passage in the "History of Qin Benji" that Qin Mugong died a good horse, and the wildlings under Qixia received and ate together with three hundred people. The officials are chased away, and they want the law. Gong Yue: Gentlemen do not harm people with animals. I smell horse meat eaters and drinkers, hurt people. But they give wine and forgive them. The general meaning of the story is that Qin Mugong lost his horse, was caught by the common people under Qi, and then shared and eaten. The officials found out this truth and wanted to arrest this group of people who had eaten Qin Mugong's beloved horse and punish them according to law. However, Qin Mugong stopped the officials from doing so, and said, "A gentleman cannot be guilty of mankind for losing his cattle." I've heard that eating horse meat can hurt your body if you don't drink alcohol, so send them some more wine. ”
Three years later, Qin Mugong attacked the Jin state, was defeated and trapped, and was injured. At this critical juncture, a team like a divine soldier descended from heaven and defeated the Jin army, and Qin Mugong was defeated and won. This team was composed of local people who had eaten Qin Mugong's beloved horse, but were not punished, but were given wine. Qin Mugong's atmosphere planted a blessing for him and was rewarded at the best time. It is these qualities that have contributed to Qin Mugong's becoming one of the "Spring and Autumn Five Hegemons" and leaving behind a good name for thousands of years.
In fact, the true meaning of life is hidden in the three "qi". Treat people with kindness, dissolve all the haze with a smile, and naturally have a bright future. Controlling the temper and being the master of emotions rather than a slave is naturally not afraid of twists and turns. With the atmosphere to deal with the world, with a broad pattern and mind, naturally everything is safe. May you and I be kind and temperamental, do things happily, do not lose temper casually, use the atmosphere to highlight the pattern, and move forward steadily on the road of your own life.
"Cai Gen Tan" said: "Let one step be high in the world, and regressive is the zhang ben; treating others with a generous point is a blessing, and benefiting others is the foundation of self-interest." "Treating people with kindness is a kind of kindness; not losing temper is a kind of cultivation; being a person is an atmosphere is a kind of character." I want the road of life to be stable and smooth, temper can not have, harmony can not be lost, the atmosphere can not be forgotten. Obedience will cause hostility, and harmony will be auspicious. In this life, it is the victory in harmony, the loss in temper, and the atmosphere!
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