Facing a husband who is on his knees begging for forgiveness, the wife is unmoved. Even though she was four months pregnant at this time, Chen Hong still insisted on divorce.
What happened between the two of them that made Zhao Hong disregard the children in her womb and so determined to divorce her husband?
It turned out that a few days ago, her husband Chen Ming actually beat her. At that time, Zhao Hong was more than three months pregnant, and her husband Chen Ming was tall and fat, and a few slaps came over to make the thin Zhao Hong unable to resist at all. Zhao Hong could not stand it, he believed that once there was a first time, there would be a second and a third time. But what made her even more angry was that the reason why her husband did it to herself was because of a word from her mother-in-law.
It starts with a plate of walnuts. Because she was pregnant, Zhao Hong was seriously embarrassed, and one day he saw a plate of walnuts on the table, and when he suddenly had an appetite, he took it back to his bedroom to eat. However, such a trivial matter was very ordinary, but it caused the dissatisfaction of the mother-in-law. The mother-in-law believes that the walnuts were bought by herself, and the daughter-in-law took them without her consent, which is very excessive, and the daughter-in-law has never bought anything to honor her. Zhao Hong thought that her mother-in-law was clearly deliberately looking for fault, so she argued with her. But what she did not expect was that her husband Chen Ming did not stand on her side, and she joined her mother-in-law to count down her own not, and even beat herself.
Zhao Hong ran back to her mother's house for a moment, in the face of his wife's accusations, Chen Ming did not refute, he told the mediator that his wife and mother had friction at both ends for three days, so that he was very embarrassed in the middle of the two, on the one hand was his wife who slept with him, on the other hand was his mother who gave birth to himself, no matter which side he favored, he would provoke another person to be unhappy.
Later, he said that the reason why he would do something to his wife was because she was too willful and did not know how to respect her elders. Once, the mother came back from farm work in the field, tired, full of pesticide smell, wanted to wash the clothes on her body, and at this time, his wife Zhao Hong was washing clothes, so she wanted to let her carry it, but who knew that the wife directly refused, and said that the clothes could not be washed at all. But who knew that after the wife said this, she went straight back to the house and took a sheet to wash. Chen Ming believes that his wife just said that she can't wash her clothes more, and now she has gone to get a sheet, which is clearly that she doesn't want to wash her mother. For this matter, Zhao Hong is also a grievance, he said that he had asked his mother-in-law whether to wash clothes before washing clothes, but his mother-in-law said that he did not change his clothes, so he asked his mother-in-law to help take care of the children and wash some clothes himself. But who knew that when the mother-in-law heard this, she immediately changed her mouth and said that she still had a lot of clothes to wash. The sudden change of mother-in-law's mouth made Zhao Hong very dissatisfied.
Zhao Hong believes that her mother-in-law always reverses black and white, deliberately finds trouble for him, often complains to her husband because of some trivial matters, and her husband Chen Ming never changes the right or wrong of things, only knows that blindly favoring his mother, chen Ming thinks that his mother is an elder and must respect him, so he often advises his wife not to worry about his mother. But Chen Hong was not happy, she thought that if she blindly tolerated it, it would only be exchanged for her mother-in-law's unscrupulous stubble.
Zhao Hong told reporters that in fact, her relationship with her husband has always been very good, but her mother-in-law has a strong personality and always wants to let herself follow her wishes. In fact, at the beginning, Zhao Hong also let her mother-in-law many times, thinking that she was an elder after all, but she did not expect that her repeated compromises would be intensified in exchange for her mother-in-law's change, and some small things with large sesame seeds should also be asked.
If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are under the same roof, can they really not live in peace? What will be the outcome of this contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
In the face of the miserly mother-in-law and the ruthless husband, Zhao Hong burst into tears. He told the mediator that during the Spring Festival in the first year of marriage, he needed to send a New Year gift to his mother-in-law's family, but his mother-in-law only prepared five pounds of eggs for her parents. Zhao Hong felt very shabby, but she didn't say anything and silently accepted it. In the second year, Zhao Hong proposed to buy two pounds of meat and two bottles of wine, but her mother-in-law was not happy, saying that she did not know how to live a life. In order to avoid conflict, Zhao Hong proposed not to give gifts to parents this year, but to give 200 yuan directly. The husband felt that this was also very appropriate, but when he gave gifts, he told Zhao Hong that he must not tell his mother about this. Zhao Hong can't figure it out, why can't some small things be decided by yourself, send something to your parents during the New Year's Festival, and sneak around, look at your friends around you, which one is not spoiled by your mother-in-law? But what annoyed Zhao Hong even more, her husband Chen Ming did not have any opinions at all, and listened to her mother-in-law in everything.
Once, a piece of land in Zhao Hong's mother's family needed to be sprayed with pesticides, and the Zhao family's father could not get off the ground with back pain, so Zhao Hong asked her husband to help, and Chen Ming agreed. But who knew that the mother-in-law had blocked her son and did not allow her son to help, and said that if she went, the neighbors would not laugh to death. In the end, Chen Ming listened to his mother's words and did not help the old man to work. Zhao Hong's husband's approach made Zhao Hong very cold, feeling that her husband did not put himself in his heart at all, and always helped his mother-in-law to work against himself.
After a long time, Zhao Hong had the idea of divorce, she thought that she had no status in this family at all, and her mother-in-law looked down on herself in her eyes, and the reason why her mother-in-law looked down on herself was that she hated herself for not giving birth to a big fat boy to the old Chen family.
Zhao Hong's first child was born with a daughter, but since the birth of her daughter, her mother-in-law has never given her a good look. During confinement, the mother-in-law even instigated her husband not to give her and urine, so that Zhao Hong spent a month in the foul smell.
And this is not nothing, there is a custom in their local area, that is, whoever adds Ding imports, the mother-in-law has to make a new futon for the child, but Zhao Hong's mother-in-law prepares an old futon for her granddaughter. When doing the full moon, relatives and friends asked about this matter, Zhao Hong is both embarrassed and aggrieved, Zhao Hong believes that the mother-in-law is disgusted with her first birth is a daughter, in the future days, the mother-in-law never help to take care of the child. In the face of her daughter-in-law's accusations, Zhao Hong's mother-in-law said that it was not that she did not want to take care of her granddaughter, but that since her daughter-in-law entered their house, she had been angry with herself many times and wanted to hug her granddaughter, but she was rejected by her daughter-in-law. Zhao Hong's mother-in-law also said that her daughter-in-law not only did not let her granddaughter get close to her, but she could not even talk. Seeing her granddaughter look like a stranger to herself, her heart is also very unhappy. But Zhao Hong said that things are not as the mother-in-law said, as long as there are only two people left in the family, she and the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law will ignore herself and the child, and once the husband returns, she will begin to kiss and hug the child. The mother-in-law's duplicitous approach made Zhao Hong very angry.
What happened next completely angered Zhao Hong, and a few months ago Zhao Hong was in a hurry to go to the toilet, so she asked her mother-in-law to help take care of the child, but her mother-in-law said that she did not have time. Zhao Hong had to leave the child aside and let him play alone. But I didn't expect the child to be burned because he overturned the warm water bottle without being cared for. Zhao Hong saw the situation and quickly picked up the child and rushed to the hospital. Looking at the child who was crying and tearing his heart and lungs, Zhao Hong's heart was broken, and the resentment in his heart for his mother-in-law was a little more. I thought that my husband would be on his side this time, but I didn't expect my husband to defend her mother-in-law, saying that she was an elder and should be considerate of him.
After this incident, the relationship between Zhao Hong and her mother-in-law fell to a freezing point, even if she was pregnant with the second child, the relationship between the two could not be eased, and the husband also moved against her because of the mother-in-law's complaint. The husband's incomprehension, the mother-in-law's contempt, so that Zhao Hong has no nostalgia for this family, he took the child back to his mother's house to live in a huff, but what made him more chilling was that he lived in his mother's house for more than 20 days, and the husband and mother-in-law had never seen himself and the child in the future, and the husband did not even have a phone call.
After a long time, the people in the village began to talk about it, saying that Zhao Hong's mother-in-law did not want this daughter-in-law and let her son divorce her. After hearing these gossip, the Zhao family was even more angry, resolutely letting their daughter clean up the children in her womb and then divorce Chen Ming.
In order to resolve the contradiction between the two families, the mediator went to persuade Zhao Hong's mother-in-law to interfere with the affairs between the couple as little as possible in the future. After all, it is Zhao Hong who lives with her son, and it is impossible for her to guard her son for a lifetime, and maintaining family harmony is the ultimate goal. For the mediator's words, Zhao Hong's mother-in-law agreed, saying that he did not want to see his son and daughter-in-law take the step of divorce, and he was willing to make changes in order to let her daughter-in-law go home.
Subsequently, Chen Ming and his mother, accompanied by a mediator, went to Zhao Hong's mother's house, and when Chen Ming saw his wife who was pregnant with Liujia, he immediately fell to his knees in front of him and asked for her forgiveness. But in the face of her husband who could not repent, Zhao Hong was not moved. Zhao Hong believes that the root of the contradiction between the two mother-in-law. But the mediator persuaded Zhao Hong to find the reason from herself. Since she married into the Chen family, she has been facing her mother-in-law, and has never thought about how to alleviate the contradictions with her mother-in-law, resulting in deeper and deeper contradictions between the two sides. Under the persuasion of everyone, Zhao Hong finally agreed to go home with her husband, and her mother-in-law also said that in the future, they would interfere less in the affairs of their little two.
In fact, every family will have some bumps, as long as each other understand each other, tolerate each other, these contradictions will no longer exist.
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