Some people say that love has a shelf life, and the length of this shelf life varies from person to person.
Some couples just start to love vigorously, but the feelings suddenly cool down or even break up at a certain inflection point; and some couples' love is like a trickle, seemingly slow and hot but with endless vitality. The reason why there are these differences is because there are some things that can be done in the feelings, some things that cannot be done, if you do not grasp this degree well, no matter how deep the affection is, there will be no good ending in the end.
It is said that women are divided into two species, one is a rational animal in the single period, and the other is a sensual animal that falls in love. When she was single, she was as omnipotent as Sun Monkey, and when she encountered things, she was as calm as Zhuge Liang; but when she fell in love, she became even the strength to unscrew a bottle of water, and she did not have the calm elegance when she encountered things.
And all this is because once a woman falls in love, she will give unreservedly. As everyone knows, it is not that the harder you love, the longer you can last. Women have to remember that no matter how much you love a man, don't do these 4 things!
1, love without self
As the saying goes: the moon is profitable, the water is full, overflowing. Love a person is the same, love to love moderately, three points to love yourself, seven points to love others, so that you will not be hurt too much.
But in reality, there are many "love brain" women, once they fall into feelings, there are only others in their eyes, and they no longer have themselves. Star Zhang Meng is like this, just because her ex-boyfriend said that her nose is not good-looking, she went to plastic surgery.
Such love is blind and dangerous, love is too full is a burden for men, and your lack of personality will also make men lose interest in you, and eventually will only push away the person you love faster.
Therefore, women must leave three points of reason in their feelings, love their lovers first, and never lose themselves for a person, so that even if you break up one day, you still have yourself.
2, everything depends on men
Some people say that strong women who meet love will also become little women. Indeed, love seems to be a barrier in the lives of many women, and once it touches love, the woman will become tender like water.
In front of men, the bird is not wrong, afraid that many women are used to dependence, no matter what they do, they need men to accompany them, and finally they live as a parasite.
Smart women will put down their strength in front of men, give enough men face, give men the opportunity to perform appropriately, and satisfy his heroic complex, but when a person is also independent and autonomous, he can carry things.
Stupid women rely on men no matter how big or small, and once men leave, the whole world collapses. May you be a smart woman, not a stupid woman.
3. "Doing" is too much
In the relationship, the woman who never "does" loves too much, which will make the man feel that he is not cared about. But women who are too "doing" will make men retreat, after all, life is tired enough, no one wants to add to their own blockage.
Therefore, a woman's "work" should be appropriate and just right. For example, if a man gets too close to a member of the opposite sex, you can throw a small tantrum to let the man know that you are jealous, and the man feels that you care about him and will pay more attention to your feelings for you.
Everything has a degree, "doing" can be, but "doing" is just right, so that your feelings will not die prematurely.
4, love without a bottom line
In feelings, everyone should have their own bottom line and principles. Some things can be forgiven, and some things cannot be forgiven.
But women who are caught in feelings often lose their minds, knowing that what men do break through their own bottom line, but they still choose to forgive, and finally let themselves be hurt repeatedly.
Therefore, women must set their own bottom line, once the other party breaks through their own bottom line, they must withdraw and leave, and do not blindly love anymore.
"Journey to the West" has such a line, "There was once a sincere love placed in front of me, I did not cherish, and when I lost it, I regretted it, and the most painful thing in the world is this."
Love in the vast sea of people is a thing that can be encountered but not sought, because it is not an exam, and it will produce results if you work hard. When you meet someone who truly loves each other, remember to cherish it.
Women in love is easy to suffer from loss, and even sometimes there will be "suspicious disease", in fact, as long as you do yourself well, make yourself more and more excellent, men will not easily "let go" of you.
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