Feelings are a gradual process, and mastering the rhythm of feelings can make people feel a corresponding "sense of security" in their hearts.
If a relationship suddenly appears in front of you, you may be overwhelmed.
For those with an "escapist personality", the better a person is to him, the more likely they are to have a "rebellious" mentality.
This is especially evident in girls.
Why do many girls face the attitude of love, very cautious, cowering?
In the face of the boys' initiative, pursuit, enthusiasm, but they step by step backwards?
In fact, this is the attitude of girls in their feelings: step by step, step by step.
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Interaction between the opposite sex requires a "sense of rhythm"
What is rhythm?
Most love is a long stream of thin water, and it comes naturally.
Love at first sight, two feelings of pleasure, at a glance to determine the future life, such emotional experience is after all a minority.
The process of men and women getting along and generating feelings is like this.
Step 1: Get acquainted
For some reason, by some turn, two people became friends from strangers they never knew.
And in the next time, there is a certain contact, able to understand each other.
Step 2: Get to know each other and develop familiarity
If men and women want to develop feelings, adding some understanding is an essential stage.
In the process of mutual understanding, the two people will gradually expose their emotions, life, work and even some privacy.
Psychology believes that the higher the degree of "self-exposure" between the opposite sex, the higher the degree of trust between each other.
With enough understanding, the higher the level of trust between two people, and then there is a chance to have a good feeling.
Step 3: Attract and generate good feelings
The feelings between people and people are often "suddenly" generated.
Even if the two of you have known each other a lot, but the other person has not shown a point of attraction to you, your attitude towards him is still not "like".
And one day, he released a certain flash of light, just attracted to you.
At this time, good feelings arise.
Step 4: Establish a relationship and further deepen your feelings
In the relationship, most girls belong to the "passive posture".
Even if they like a boy, they will not easily show their feelings, let alone easily confess.
They tentatively waited for the boy to take the initiative to pursue her.
As long as two people have a good feeling for each other, then in the face of the boy's pursuit, the girl will go down the steps.
The determination of the romantic relationship is the opportunity for the further development of the relationship between the two people.
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Smart girls, will "step by step"
What is step-by-step in love?
To put it simply: they will not invest 10 points of love from the beginning, but will look at the boy's efforts to her and invest the corresponding chips.
From a utilitarian point of view:
This kind of love has less passion and more sanity; less sweetness and heartfelt performance, but more reliability and stability.
Like what:
Girls attach great importance to their relationship with boys and what time to do something.
Accepting hand-in-hand for a week in love, accepting hugs for half a month in love, and being willing to kiss for a month in love, these are all gradual processes.
If the girl does not feel the feeling of "being cared for, cared for, and loved" that she wants in the boy's body, then she will be ready to leave at any time.
The less you invest, the less you end up separating.
The opposite of the love attitude of "step by step" is exactly the "love brain girl".
Love brain girls, once they enter love, what performance will they make?
They will lose their minds in an instant, and devote their time, energy, and love to all their brains.
I don't care if I can have a good result with the boy, I don't care if my efforts will be cherished, and I don't care if my love gets the same reward.
The mentality of the girl in love with love is: if you love, you will not hesitate to love.
And those girls who are step by step are: your attitude and way of treating me determines my love for you.
The former is a visceral, subconscious behavior; the latter is an act of weighing the pros and cons and thinking rationally.
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If the two feelings are long, they are not in the twilight of the dynasty
Some people think that girls who take steps for the camp are more tired, and it seems to be somewhat utilitarian to take one step to see three steps of love.
But in fact, for girls who are full of responsibility and ritual in love, they will choose to take it step by step.
Unsure of whether they can have a good outcome with boys, they won't let themselves get deeper and deeper.
This is the intelligence and sanity of girls, and it is also their means of protecting themselves.
Think about it, when a girl falls recklessly in love with a boy and pours out everything she has on the boy;
As a result, the boy suddenly turned away, leaving her alone in the same place to grieve, and fell into the pain of lost love and could not extricate herself.
Essentially:
Love is the product of passion + intimacy + commitment; love and marriage are a game relationship.
In intimate relationships, whoever can grasp the sense of rhythm and seize the initiative wins.
Whether it is step-by-step love or unreserved love, the ultimate goal should be:
With the loved one, be able to go to the end.
Today's Topic:
Is your attitude in love step by step or unreserved?
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