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Text | Miki porridge
I have a point of view that marriage is not a matter of one person, it is a matter of family.
Therefore, it is best to marry someone who is right at home. The living standards of the two families are similar, the four-dimensional relationship is quiet and quiet, and without the troubles of the seven aunts and eight aunts, the marriage is easier to be long-lasting and happier.
Similarly, school choice is not as simple as simply looking at the quality of a school, but paying attention to a suitable one.
The family is a Puwa, I have to make up money to buy a school district house, but also to send him to Haidian Chicken to fight qingbei... The child's pressure is not enough to explode, only strange.
Strong twisted melon, not sweet.
So when I met a parent who asked me how to choose a school, I first asked the family and the child what the situation was.
If you search for 200,000 a year and send your children to private schools, my advice is best to go to public schools.
The teaching level of public schools in Beijing is really not bad, and the teachers have also passed the qualification examination and trial PK, so there is no need to use three packs of pickles a day to change the child to a private school to read.
Even if the educational concept is good, it is worth letting the parents work hard to make cattle and horses. This is not education, this is competition. What era, the bitter love drama has long since disappeared from the market.
But if you ask, it is usually like buying LV bags, buying cabbage, and smashing 1 million into Chanel's shop every month to fill the inner emptiness of parents, then I will also advise not to hesitate to choose the most expensive private one for children.
One is to leave more public opportunities to others and accumulate virtue and do good; the other is to enjoy a sense of seniority in private and realize three guarantees of service.
01
School choice issues may seem complicated, but most of them are money-making. Have money, choose more, no money, how much room can be tangled?
Last year, I chatted with an old expert of an international school and asked about the loss of students, the epidemic has made studying abroad worse, and it is inevitable that it will affect international schools. He said that there was a departure, but he did not turn, just transferred to the public international department, not dissatisfied with the school, or simply no money, the children's tuition fees were cut off.
At that time, I didn't care, because I had analyzed in "Escape from International Schools" before that there were more companies that had closed down under the epidemic, which inevitably hit some families who attended international schools, especially many children.
When you have money, you always want to raise a few more, and you can earn a fight for it. But when the economy is not good, raising a hundred thousand is a small mouth waiting to be fed.
However, I found that I still thought this matter was simple. Dropping out of school is definitely no money, but Weibo saw @ Xicheng Aunt analysis of the reasons, really gossip is worth tasting -
Some are fathers who have problems with their business, and they certainly can't be supported according to the international route, but they haven't bought school district houses, and they can only transfer to small vegetables;
This is the reason I took it for granted before, I can fully see the perspective of my view of the world, always based on family as a unit, based on harmony.
No money to buy a school district house is more miserable, because most of the families who attend international schools are free to retreat, private is only a free choice for them, and if they want to return to public homes, they will have cattle schools to catch them.
In their view, once you go to an ordinary school, you will expose the shortcomings of your educational resources, and in the circle of parents of the elite class, you can't hang on to your face.
There are also married people's mothers did not look at the cash flow dad, things happened that everyone understands, although the divorce is not a lot of points, but the money in the hands after the hand is dead money, there is no income, the international route of millions or heartache, can only save the point;
This reason is actually not very valid, it is likely that the married person's mother did not get the money or did not want to raise a baby for her father. Because as long as the divorce can get money, they can rely on money to make money.
However, this poses a new challenge for the full-time wife, who also has economic knowledge and financial management ability, and at least knows which company to find to help with the divorce to get the money.
Many rich fathers always have several married mothers in their families. Children are standard, the house is not lacking, that is, there is no name, floating at home and abroad.
Such men are usually not satisfied and are always desperate to find a new marriage partner mother. Before the gossip group, a single mother accompanied her friend to see the house and was targeted, promising a set of tens of millions of overseas villas. As a result, I bumped into a girl who was already rich and had seen the world, and she was completely a local tycoon who was a floating cloud and did not want to look at it more.
Explanation of terms: The mother of the married person, who marries for the benefit of marriage, does not necessarily look for a rich person, is not satisfied with her life and the original family, or has higher requirements and wants to get more benefits through marriage.
What's more, many mothers don't get a license at all.
Some say mrs. to the outside world, some say girlfriend, but the skill of giving birth to a baby is not an exclusive skill, the father has no cost to change people instantly, although the child's tuition is also willing to pay, but is not willing to raise the child's mother in vain, when the mother wants to cut out her own living expenses from this part of the money, she can only go public.
When I saw this reason, I sighed.
Because I met such a mother, there was no culture to rely on young beauty and perseverance, and I was stunned by three children who read top private schools. The child has not yet been in school for two years, and the foreign father abandons the ship.
I listened to all the worries for her, three children a year million tuition, how does she raise a fitness coach? She is particularly optimistic, and she can only try to find the next new boat for the sake of tuition...
It's also inspirational enough. I think that Hou Patzen's mother also relied on switching ferry tickets to let lovers carefully raise their daughters (very much want to spit on the three views).
02
In my opinion, a family raising a child with a working capital of about 1 million is more suitable for studying privately, otherwise, the public is really good, especially in Beijing.
Why 1 million? Some people think that I raise a child with 200,000 tuition fees a year, plus 300,000 for miscellaneous fees. This account is not correct.
When you send your children to private schools, in addition to tuition and miscellaneous fees, there are also winter and summer camps, and there are various lifestyles that are equivalent to the level of classmates.
Because the classmates will chat, some say that they have three cars at home, some go to Hainan for a week off, and the most unfortunate also go to Universal Studios to swipe the annual card... This is also because of the epidemic, so there is no geolocation from the world.
What does your child talk about? Winter vacation at home brushed two sets of Huanggang small yuan?
Raise a private baby, tuition plus broaden horizons, life consumption, 300,000 is impossible to stop, go straight to 500,000 to go.
But having 500,000 on the books is not enough, because the money spent on private schools is a part, and there is still money to support the façade.
Weibo @JJimmys said that I know a person who is almost rich, the husband is doing business, the wife is a piano teacher, the kind of 2,000 yuan a lesson.
The family just lived in the villa for the first two years, and began to think about achieving full automation of education, plus expanding the international vision, transferring children from schools within the system to newly opened international schools, with a tuition fee of 300,000 yuan a year.
300,000 for the income of 1 million, a little pressure but not nothing, anyway can make money, economic strength in, in the end is the people who live in the villa.
As a result, the outbreak of the epidemic, the entire first half of 2020 international schools did not open, 300,000 tuition fees were all on the e-learning class... E-learning lessons...
The mentality suddenly collapsed.
I especially understand this feeling. 300,000 is consumption in the eyes of local tycoons, investment in the eyes of the middle class, and what is bought is luxury goods.
What does it look like to buy luxury goods? It is inevitable to be careful to use, carry a Chanel to take the subway, and the security inspection should put a plastic bag on the bag, otherwise the second-hand price of scratching a mark will fall by thousands of dollars.
At that time, Beijing parents organized a group to refund the fee, and thousands of people were organized overnight, taking turns to dial 12345. Mothers, carrying Hermès in their hands, ran to the school to argue and beg for tuition. The reason is valid, but it has not escaped the mentality of buying luxury goods.
The mother who taught the piano mentioned above, after living in the villa, always said that she was particularly tired and stressed. Because the second was also sent to an international kindergarten, he also had to pay 200,000 a year and raise millions of children.
There are also villas at home, nannies for villas and children, and luxury lines for couples worthy of villas, armed from head to toe.
The husband is stable, but the market for business is not easy to talk about. She can only earn her own money to continue the class, and every time her friends meet, she feels tired to the rhythm of life.
Remembering the previous two days, some people said that Shunyi's mothers were selling insurance and doing micro-business, how hard and how motivated, I was very emotional: not forced by life, who wants to be versatile?
For example, a Shanghai mother I knew before had two children and two nannies. Fingers do not touch the spring water, and the husband raises the whole family on weekdays.
Suddenly, one day, the husband of the rich flower split his legs, threw the bride out of the house, and left the house clean, giving nothing (the man is really ruthless). So she embarked on the road of super hard workers-
Doing foreign trade, opening a company, it is not easy for women to start a business, and they also do micro-business part-time to sell insurance. Send two children to international school with their own strength, and earn 100W a year.
Are there any working women? Yes, labor is life.
I have a friend, a strong woman in the workplace. She can fly around the country three times a week, and the nucleic acid can't catch up with her rush, and she is a small money maker who doesn't make enough money.
I especially admire these women.
But is it the most glorious labor that inspires Shunyi's full-time wife to develop the surrounding human resources and gold mines? Definitely not.
Do micro-business and sell insurance, can you drink afternoon tea and chat about gossip incense than girlfriends? Can it be more comfortable than doing a beauty and pilates? Definitely not. Even if they want to participate in labor and physical fitness, old money wives will choose to go to welfare cooperatives to do public welfare, and making more money always creates opportunities to give back to the society.
The wives go down, do not take the high-class sense of the route, most of them feel that they are short of money.
When women are self-reliant, economic independence is necessary. This has nothing to do with the state of the family's assets, but a particularly primitive and pure sense of crisis. If you want to give your children a stable education, you must either buy a house early or hoard more grain.
Can't count on dads too much, because rich dads don't guarantee a sustainable supply.