Lu Xiaoman's rare old photos: opium-sucking teeth are rotten, the funeral after death is miserable, and the ashes are unattended
When it comes to Lu Xiaoman, the first thing that comes to mind is the love affair between her and Xu Zhimo, and among the three women related to Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman is the most controversial.
In the hearts of many people, Zhang Youyi is a generous and kind famous girl, Lin Huiyin is a versatile pure talented woman, only Lu Xiaoman, is considered to be a social flower with a variety of styles, people who know a little more about her story, words may be more vicious, then, Lu Xiaoman is really a disaster, is it a slut? I want to cry out for her.
Lu Xiaoman, who is young and beautiful
First of all, many people deliberately ignore that Lu Xiaoman is a talented woman. She was born into a family, her father is the director of the Taxation Department of the Republic of China, her mother is also from a large family, versatile, influenced by her parents, Lu Xiaoman is proficient in poetry and calligraphy, learned English and French and other foreign languages in school, at the age of 17 began to receive foreign guests at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs of the Beiyang Government, as an interpreter, the limelight is the same, if she meets Xu Zhimo at this time, it will definitely be a beautiful talk of talent and beauty.
Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo wedding photos
Secondly, many people blame Lu Xiaoman for Xu Zhimo's death, which is actually unfair.
Xiao Man's reluctance to go north has a lot to do with the Xu family's snub and snub for her, she was born rich, talented, and used to being looked up to, but she could not get the affirmation of her husband's family, and even her real status has always been under her ex-wife Zhang Youyi, how she is willing to lower her arrogant head to coexist with her in-laws;
The purpose of Xu Zhimo's last flight was actually to rush to Beijing to listen to Lin Huiyin's speech, in which the ambiguous feelings have been diluted by friends and posterity.
After the poet's death, Lin Hui wept bitterly when he received a piece of the wreckage of the fuselage brought back by her husband Liang Sicheng, while Lu Xiaoman was stunned when he heard the nightmare, and he wanted to cry without tears, such a pain, I am afraid that only those who love deeply will understand.
Lu Xiaoman, who wears a cheongsam, has a graceful posture
In the end, Lu Xiaoman sacrificed the most for Xu Zhimo.
When referring to the three women associated with Xu Zhimo, Lin Huiyin is often raised to the height of soul mate, and is considered to be the one Xu Zhimo loves most in his life (perhaps what he does not get is always the best). But in fact, she was exactly the one who sacrificed the least for Xu Zhimo in the three.
Zhang Youyi once said in his later years: Maybe I am the woman who loves him the most - it sounds like a pity, this stoic and strong woman has loved Xu Zhimo all her life, although he divorced her, Zhang Youyi has always regarded herself as Mrs. Xu and taken care of the old people and children of the Xu family until the end.
Zhang Youyi does not hate Lu Xiaoman, who is married to Xu Zhimo, but hates Lin Huiyin, because she feels: Since you love him and promise him, you are unwilling to marry him, which is a betrayal and harm to him! This hatred actually responds to the deep love for Xu Zhimo, she loves him, so she hopes that he will be happy.
Lu Xiaoman's handwriting
Looking at Lu Xiaoman again, no matter how much she is not, but she divorced for Xu Zhimo's head, and after remarrying, she has been enduring the in-laws' sluggishness, and finally she has to bear the responsibility of widowhood, this petite woman who is spoiled in this greenhouse and is admired by the opposite sex in her life has endured too much pressure and misunderstanding, but has never had public complaints.
After the poet's death, Lu Xiaoman dressed in plain clothes for four seasons, offering flowers every day in front of her lover's large portrait, and no longer going to any entertainment venues, a year or two may be possible, but she has always achieved the end of her life. This persistence is enough to prove her feelings for the deceased.
Even after the poet's death, Wen Ruiwu, who had been in love with Lu Xiaoman for decades and took care of Lu Xiaoman in every detail, was finally only one of her companions, and Lu Xiaoman could no longer have a second person in his heart.
In Lu Xiaoman's old age, Fanghua was no longer there
In his later years, Lu Xiaoman had two things to accompany him, one was Weng Ruiwu and the other was opium.
According to a friend's recollection: "She was living in Weng Ruiwu's house at that time. After Shima's death, Little Man was poor and had nothing to lose, and Iri was living. I don't know if Weng Ruiwu has a wife and children, in short, Xiao Man lives in his house, and it is inevitable that a cohabitation relationship will occur. Xiao Man has been lying sick for many years, and yan sees that we are also on the sickbed. I remember her face, white and blue, her hair was also disheveled, a mouthful of teeth, shed essence, and there was no other pair, and her gums were also black, which showed that the addiction was very deep. However, although the sick appearance is so haggard, the old time is rich, still faintly still alive, and the money is quite gentle and courteous to pick us up. Weng Ruiwu stood in front of her collapse, frequently asking for tea and water, but also like a seed of infatuation. ”
Lu Xiaoman's attitude toward Weng Ruiwu is very clear, "I have no love with him, only feelings", and the way she chose to smoke opium to relieve mental and physical pain is also painful, which only brings her temporary relief, but brings serious sequelae, and died in Shanghai in April 1965 at the age of 63 due to ineffective medical treatment.
Lu Xiaoman's tombstone, a piece of loess, full of desolation
Lu Xiaoman has been beautiful for half a lifetime, a legendary life, but after her death, she is slightly desolate, at the funeral, there is only a pair of friends Wang Yiling's elegance: "Pushing the heart only Chicheng, people often leave a legacy in the world; how high the pen is, a lifetime of half tired smoke and clouds." After his cremation, the ashes were not claimed for a long time, and it was not until 23 years later that they were buried at the expense of his cousin. Lu Xiaoman had hoped to be buried with Xu Zhimo before his death, but in the end he did not get his wish and regretted it for life.