Just after the Mid-Autumn Festival, my cousin couldn't wait to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau with my cousin to get a divorce certificate, and the moment the two parties signed their names in the three-year marriage, it came to an abrupt end.
First of all, the story of my cousin and my cousin-in-law, my cousin and my cousin-in-law are free love, because my cousin's family is rural, my cousin is an urban only daughter, so my cousin's family does not agree to this family affair at all, when talking about marriage, there were a lot of disputes between the two families, as small as what color gifts to wear at the bridal dinner, as large as the problem of the caravan, the signs of the two people being unsuitable have long appeared.
Unfortunately, my cousin did not think so, and had an iron heart to marry the man, until after the marriage, my cousin gave birth to a child, and the day was not as good as a day, the man's performance really made my cousin extremely sad, and my cousin made up her mind to divorce this marriage.
After the Civil Affairs Bureau handled the divorce matter, my cousin called me as soon as possible and told me that she had divorced. After that, my cousin began to tell me thousands of times, remember that a woman's low-married marriage cannot be wanted, and I am your lesson. It can be said that girls who marry low basically do not have a good ending.
01. Men won't appreciate your efforts
Men are creatures of absolute strength, who do not sympathize with or help the weak at all, and men only appreciate favor and want to get close to the strong. Many women feel that if they marry a man who is inferior to themselves, the man will definitely appreciate the efforts paid to her, and the man will feel that you are a good woman, and you marry him just for love, he should cherish you.
Men don't think like this, men will only think that you are too weak, you can't climb up to other people, so they will choose him. And when you pay for a man, there's a good chance in his heart that this is what you should do for granted.
If this man's level of education is low, the two of you will have different educations and different ideologies.
In general, the richer the family education of the child, the stronger the dedication. The more children raised by poor families, the stronger the ideas demanded in the mind will be.
This means that you choose a man who is worse than you, and he will not only not appreciate your efforts, but also feel that you have not given enough, and even he thinks that he is poor because of you.
02. Men will look down on you
I have also had such an experience, but the conditions are actually not as good as my men, they are more critical of me, even look down on me, think I have not seen anything in the world, it is true that I came out of a small place, but I met those men who have better conditions than me, including my current boyfriend, he is a first-line local, but he has never disliked me in this regard.
Very realistic, unworthy marriage, the inferiority in a man's bones will become pride, not that he looks down on you, but he climbs you high, but he is unwilling to accept this fact, so he can only step on you in order to elevate himself.
This kind of person is poor and poor, but you women must be sober enough in marriage: if a man constantly suppresses you, then it is certain that this man is an inferior man, not that you are not good enough, but that this man is not worthy of your good.
03. The strength gap is so great that men cannot understand you
The difference in conditions between two people is too great, and it is difficult to understand each other, especially the weaker party with weaker comprehensive strength, which cannot be understood at all, or compatible with the thoughts and behaviors of the party stronger than him.
Take my cousin and my cousin-in-law, my cousin grew up with no worries, naturally spend money more casually, but also pay more attention to the quality of life, but my cousin-in-law only cares about practicality in terms of consumption, my cousin pays attention to the sense of ceremony, my cousin-in-law has been accustomed to a hard and frugal life since childhood, and I think that my cousin's emphasis on ceremony is a waste of money, so the two have a lot of disputes.
My cousin likes to read books in free time, my cousin brother-in-law said that my cousin is a nerd, only read books, it is better to learn more to do housework, women are talentless is moral, my cousin brother-in-law also said that my cousin read so many books What is the use, it is better to serve a good husband and children at home, make good meals, wash dishes and mop the floor.
My cousin herself has a job, but she also has other interests and hobbies, hoping to develop it into her own work, my cousin-in-law said that everyone is an ordinary person, and the ordinary life is just fine. My cousin-in-law has always felt that my cousin has an unrealistic pursuit of life, so he thinks that my cousin is immature in her thinking, so he always attacks and negates my cousin's ideas and values.
My cousin's life after divorce is better, although I have not yet found a new marriage partner, but my cousin has always insisted on her own life pursuits, I found that the quality of those male suitors around my cousin is far better than my cousin's brother-in-law, it can be seen that my cousin and my cousin's divorce is a very wise decision.
Therefore, it is best for women to find the right person in marriage, and the low-married bodyguard of the three-star princess has not yet achieved good results, not to mention our group of ordinary women who do not have family protection themselves?