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Insights into life's experiences determine what kind of life we can live.
A person who does not believe in love will be more inclined to choose material security when choosing marriage. When he loves himself and his partner, he will be more inclined to love himself.
A person who is full of expectations and enthusiasm for love meets a person who does not believe in love, and is doomed to have no way to harvest the happiness he wants.
There are many people in this world who believe in love, and there are many people who do not believe in "love" at all.
Xu is because "love" is too heavy, so he chooses to shield; Xu is because love needs to pay too much, so he is stingy to pay; Xu is once in love and fell on his head, losing confidence in love.
Everyone has the freedom to choose whether to believe or not to believe in love, but if we still have expectations for love, then we must learn to stay away from those who despair of love.
People who are desperate for love generally find it difficult to give you the feeling of love, he will only close his own true heart, and will only use your existence as a tool for a functional attribute.
Don't expect too much from this kind of person, don't overestimate your own particularity, because once some people are disappointed in love to the extreme, then they really won't believe in love anymore, and it is impossible to give you the marriage you want.
In the "Foreign Daughter-in-law Local Lang" series of Liejia Village, Li Yiyin is a very lazy rich second generation, who stretches out his hands in clothes and opens his mouth with rice, which is a proper old man.
His father (Uncle De) had a stroke that needed to be taken care of, and he didn't even bother to do the housework, and even asked his father who had suffered a stroke to help him pack three meals.
Ah Jiao knew the news of Uncle De's stroke, so she asked her eldest daughter Dajiao to help Uncle De's house to help with the housework, because Uncle De had given them some furniture when they moved to Liejia Village.
Although Dajiao's appearance is not satisfactory, she is proficient in housework and cooking, and her personality is also very good.
Therefore, in the few days when Dajiao came to help, Uncle De intended to let his son have silver to marry Dajiao.
Youyin was opposed to Uncle De's idea at first, but considering that the two men really needed to be taken care of, he could only actively pursue Dajiao.
Uncle De said to Youyin, "Do you want to live in the garbage heap for the rest of your life?" Big petite can do anything, such a good woman, you don't want to be a treasure. Hurry up and get her done, so that they can become the permanent free "nannies" of our family. ”
As soon as Uncle De's words came out, he knew that he did not believe in love, and he let his son marry Dajiao because he looked at dajiao's attributes of "virtuous wife and good mother" and wanted to let Dajiao be a long-term nanny.
In real life, men like Uncle De abound. Some men marry not because of love, but because they want to find a free nanny.
In fact, men do this to you, not because of love, but want to marry you home as a "nanny".
First, you must be a good wife and mother
If a man wants to marry you because he is in love with you, he will not ask you to be what you must be, instead he will only want you to be as you are.
Because he loves you, he is more willing to give and is more willing to take the initiative to take the responsibility of taking care of you.
On the contrary, when a man's goal in marrying you home is not because of love, then he will definitely ask you a lot, will hope that you can become a good wife and mother, and even strongly demand that after marriage, you must give up your career for the sake of the family and become a full-time wife.
Such a man has a very strong sense of purpose for you, that is, you must take care of him.
A woman whose brain can't turn a corner, at this time, it is easy to think that men will hope to be able to get her careful care because they love her deeply.
But in fact, this is not the case, women should remember that if a man loves you and he wants you to take care of your heart more than he wants you to take care of him, he will not know that you are enterprising, and force you to sacrifice your career to achieve his "expectations." ”
Countless times and with you to stress obedience to his parents
If a man doesn't love you, he will ask you to be obedient, sensible, and obedient.
If a man marries you home and just wants you to be able to take on more functions, he will definitely oblige you to "obey" his parents and take on the responsibility of taking care of his parents.
The so-called obedience is not filial piety, but the meaning of obedience.
Every daughter-in-law does have the obligation to honor her in-laws, but if a woman is required to obey her in-laws regardless of right or wrong, it is a subordinate relationship.
If a man stresses to you many times that you should be good to his parents and listen to his parents, then it means that he married you home just hoping that you would be able to be a nanny and be a marionette for his parents.
A man who loves you, he will not say to you "I hope you are good to us", because he loves you, so believe that you can treat his parents well, naturally do not need to open their mouths to emphasize.
Third, the issue of "money" is always clear
A man who only wants to marry you home as a free "nanny" then he will be sensitive and calculating about the money problems between you.
He will give you a clear attitude: my money is my money, and our respective money cannot be confused.
He naturally enjoys spending money on him, but he can't spend money for you very freely.
Of course, some men will act willing to spend money and spend money generously on you.
However, it will also show the horse's feet, that is, he can spend money on you, but his money is his money, and you can't share it with him.
To give you an example: a man who loves you is not very calculating in front of money, and will even save money with you, and after marriage, he will have money to spend together, regardless of you and me.
However, a man who doesn't love you and just holds the idea of marrying a woman home as a nanny, then he will definitely have a prenuptial agreement with you that does not allow and cannot accept his money as community property.
A man who wants to marry you with a purpose will appear "selfish", he will ask you everything, but he will not think about what to give for you.
If a man has these three "demands" on you, it means that he doesn't love you and just wants to use you as a free babysitter.
If a man is together because he sees what benefits you can bring to their home, it means that he only wants to use your value, and has nothing to do with love.
If you meet such a man, please stay away as soon as possible, and don't feel that you have the ability to change him because of love.
Every woman is "golden" and doesn't have to waste her time because of an unworthy man.
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