Educate your children to do this and check out the traditional misunderstandings together

Chen Heqin, a famous educator and child educator in modern China, said: "Children are born ignorant and ignorant, and do not know what is good and what is bad. His every move can be said to be influenced by heredity on the one hand, constrained by the environment on the other hand, and governed by education. When you are young, the most important factor in the environment is the parents, and the most important factor in parenting is probably the parents. ”

He pointed out that children's "rich knowledge, whether the development of ideas or not, whether good habits are formed or not, family education should indeed bear full responsibility."

The child's heart is a pure land, and if you plant the seeds of thought, you can get the harvest of behavior; if you plant the seeds of behavior, you can get the harvest of habit; if you plant the seeds of habit, you can get the harvest of virtue; if you plant the seeds of virtue, you can get the harvest of destiny. Therefore, the fate of the child is in the hands of the parents. It can be seen that the significance of family education is great.

Misunderstanding of the concept of family education

1. Parents' excessive expectations bring hopelessness to their children.

Parents always hope that their children will become dragons and women, and this idea will bring a lot of pressure to their children. The child is an independent person, and how to live should be mainly chosen by himself. There are many parents who are like this: eager to teach their child the theory of relativity from the time he is born; when the child goes to kindergarten, parents take him to participate in various special classes; after going to school, he reads with him every day and forces his child to write homework; after school and weekends, he sends his child to various cram classes.

2. The protection of parents' transition brings about the incompetence of children.

In real life, many of our parents often lack self-control in the face of their only children. In some families, the more children are inseparable from their parents, the more satisfied the parents are, as if this is how to realize their own value. Some do not know what the outcome of the trial will be. Parents are emotional, how can children be rational? Parents are "too soft-hearted", how can children become strong?

3, parents' excessive coddling, bringing the child's ruthlessness.

Give what the child wants, do not consider whether the child really needs it, so that the child will be informed to indulge himself. If you do not fulfill your child's wishes, he will feel that you no longer love him, and then complain and even do harm to the family, resulting in serious consequences.

4, parents too much interference, bringing the child's helplessness.

Some parents do not trust their children, do not listen to their children's explanations, and frequently scold and scold the most disrespectful performance of their children. Corporal punishment may succeed in forcing children to obey the will of their parents, but it must be temporary and partial, and it poses far more problems than it solves. Sometimes they say things that hurt your child's heart. If the child is ignored, these practices are a relatively hidden form of soft violence.

5, parents too much accusation, bring the child's helplessness.

Many parents have high requirements for their children, seek "perfection" in everything, and education that focuses on picking mistakes is actually non-creative education, which is a mediocre education. The psychological basis of faulty education is fear, which is the fear that children will learn badly, which is a passive and defensive educational concept that does not come out.

Workaround

1. We must pay attention to improving our own quality.

To educate children, first grow up on their own. The higher the quality of the parents, the faster and better the child's growth!

2. Educate children with love in the process of children's growth.

Gaze at the child with the eyes of love; encourage the child with the language of love; face the child with a loving smile; mobilize the child with the desire of love; infect the child with the details of love; bind the child with the discipline of love; embrace the child with the heart of love; return the opportunity of love to the child.

3. Pay equal attention to early education and subsequent education.

4. Parents' educational philosophy should be consistent.

5. Be tolerant of children.

Children are the hope of parents and the future of the motherland, do not destroy the "genius" because of wrong ideas. I firmly believe that education is more important than talent. Family education is a very practical science, and parents should pay more attention to their children. Every child has his own brilliance, and I hope that parents can guide their children to his glorious life.

Share: 10 Modern Educational Concepts

1. Play is not only a child's way of learning, but also a child's right;

2. The premise of educating children is to understand children, and the premise of understanding children is to respect children;

3. Cultivate children according to their nature;

4． There are no children in the world who are not well educated, only parents who do not understand education;

5. Equality is the cornerstone of intergenerational communication;

6. Learn from children, and two generations grow together;

7. Learning to be a person is the core of education;

8, children also have the right to fail;

9. Cultivating children's love of knowledge is the fundamental purpose of learning;

10, the road that suits the characteristics of children is the road to success.