There is a saying that there is a bear parent behind a bear child, although it cannot be generalized, but some examples tell us that there are really such children and parents in real life.
5-year-olds, if their parents show them how to wear clothes, they can learn to wear them themselves. However, there was a 5-year-old child in some place who could not even lift his pants, and when he returned home, he complained that the teacher was unwilling to lift his pants for himself.
Parents of children do not reflect on their own educational methods, and they also find trouble with teachers. He did not ask the teacher what was going on in private, but questioned the teacher in the parent group, and then angered the teacher, with an arrogant attitude and no respect for the teacher.
Originally, it was reasonable, but it was believed that others were wrong, and I wanted other parents to judge, but I was criticized by other parents, resulting in laughter and generosity. Chat history was posted on the Internet by other parents, causing a hot discussion, let's see what is going on?
Parents ask teachers: Why don't you lift your children's pants?
The parent group was originally a place for teachers and parents to communicate and interact, but Xiaotong's mother used it to vent her emotions.
She didn't teach the child to lift her pants, but she wanted to prick the teacher. Regarding the problem of children lifting pants, if you communicate with the teacher privately, you can communicate clearly, but she asked Teacher Liu in the group, why don't you lift your children's pants? He also said that this was the second time that the teacher was reluctant to lift the child's pants.
The teacher reminded Xiaotong's mother to talk about this problem privately, but the parent insisted on speaking in the group and asked other parents to come out to evaluate the reasoning. It can be seen that Teacher Liu is a little helpless, seeing that Xiaotong's mother is so insistent, she satisfies the requirements of Xiaotong's mother and explains this matter in the group.
The teacher patiently explained, but the parents could not listen
Teachers to establish a group, all hope to have positive interaction and communication with parents, some of the rules of the group, but also need each parent to abide by, if it is a private issue, parents communicate with teachers alone, is the way of mutual respect, with this foundation, parents and teachers can form a good communication.
For this point, Teacher Liu stressed it again in the group. However, in the eyes of Xiaotong's mother, she felt that the teacher was saying that she did not know how to respect people, and said bluntly: "If you are not willing to lift your child's pants, I will find you trouble." ”
Teacher Liu's next words pointed out the problems of Xiaotong, among all the children in the class, only Xiaotong could not lift his pants, lacked basic politeness, wanted to let the teacher help, but even the teacher did not shout, and his temper was still very stubborn.
Although Xiaotong has these problems, Teacher Liu still gives Xiaotong pants, so it is not like Xiaotong told her mother that the teacher does not mention pants for herself.
This also tells us that if the child is a child, parents still have to think rationally and analyze, and they cannot feel that the teacher is wrong as soon as the child files a complaint, so they openly question the teacher in the group, which is not considered.
Judging from the words revealed by Teacher Liu, after 10 minutes, no parents stood up to help Xiaotong's mother speak, which actually showed the attitude of the melon-eating masses to this matter.
However, Xiao Tong's mother did not forgive, and when she saw that she was unreasonable, she said that the teacher was calculating with a child. Then he came up with more reasons, saying that his child was born prematurely, and then said to the teacher: "If you feel wronged, you can not do this job." ”
Perhaps, in the eyes of this parent, no matter what, the teacher is wrong.
However, Teacher Liu is not accustomed to this parent, although he understands that Xiaotong is a premature baby, but what he said to this parent hit the pain point.
When Xiao Tong was 4 years old, he could not eat by himself, and the child became a little prince, which was inseparable from the mother's education and accommodation.
In fact, we can think of it, a class in a kindergarten, there are twenty or thirty children, the teacher can not only take care of one child, the child to master some basic life self-care ability, the child at the age of five will not lift their own pants, indicating that the child has been doted on by parents since childhood.
I thought that when she said this, Xiao tong's mother could accept it when she saw it, but what she said next, she didn't know how to respect the teacher at all, and didn't put the teacher in her eyes.
Xiao tong's mother said, say it's good, you're a teacher, say it's not good, you're the nanny...
Finally, I would like to ask, what is the meaning of your existence here?
Questioning for Kirito's mother.
Teacher Liu said that kindergarten children, the teacher will teach them to understand politeness, not to be biased and not picky, as well as to learn to make beds, dress and take care of themselves.
Xiao Tong did not learn anything, does not mean that the teacher did not teach. Teacher Liu's words can be described as loud, rational and restrained.
To tell the truth, Xiao Tong's mother only wants to be happy and happy, regardless of the feelings of others. It is easy to offend others by talking like this in life.
Xiao Tong's mother said more and more outrageously, and was invited out of the group by the teacher
In the argument and dialogue with the teacher, Xiao Tong said something disrespectful to the teacher.
For Xiaotong's mother's unreasonable ridicule and self-righteousness, some parents finally couldn't help it, stood up to defend the teacher, and bluntly said that Xiaotong's mother's words and deeds were not what high-quality parents should look like.
Before, Xiaotong's mother wanted parents to stand up and reason for themselves, but now she is criticized and educated by other parents. She became angry and embarrassed, and the kind advice of others could not be listened to, and instead angrily scolded other parents, calling other parents pugs and slapping horses without a bottom line.
Because Xiaotong's mother said more and more outrageously, she was finally invited out of the group by Teacher Liu. In this regard, other parents have expressed their support.
Behind the bear children, there are strong bear parents
The dialogue between Xiaotong's mother and Teacher Liu, netizens as bystanders, actually see it very clearly, and their evaluation is more objective and fair.
A netizen said that there are strong bear parents behind bear children. Some netizens said bluntly that when this child grows up, the mother will know that she regrets it. A parent who disagreed with Xiaotong's mother said that he asked the kindergarten teacher to teach his children how to do it, especially not to feed.
Looking at the views of these netizens, we know how outrageously wrong Xiaotong's mother is. Doting on the child yourself, but also let the teacher also dote on the child.
Kindergarten teachers, educating children who are only a few years old, are actually very hard, there is a netizen, know how to understand the hardships of kindergarten teachers. For what Xiaotong's mother said, some netizens pointed out that in their dictionary, there is no word "reasonable".
Most netizens think that the teacher is right and support the teacher. The merits and demerits of the curve are clear to everyone. This time, everyone was on the side of the teacher.
epilogue
I watched a documentary video abroad in which mother bears climb steep snow-capped mountains with bear cubs, and they must climb to the top of the mountain to enter a forest.
The mother bear was strong on all fours and soon climbed to the top of the snow-capped mountain. But the young bear has short limbs, and climbing snow-capped mountains is an extremely difficult thing for it.
Although the bear rolled down from the snowy mountain many times, the mother bear did not take the initiative to help, nor could she provide help, and could only anxiously wait for the bear to climb up on its own at the top of the mountain. After unremitting efforts, this little bear finally climbed to the top of the mountain by itself, and this scene touched countless netizens. It is reported that the documentary has been played as much as 20 million.
Why doesn't Mother Bear help The Bear? Because she knows that if she is gone one day, and the bear lacks the ability to survive independently, it will starve to death, and only by exercising the bear's ability to overcome difficulties can it help it improve its survivability.
In terms of educating children, it is actually the same. It is not difficult to understand that parents and teachers disagree, and parents like Xiaotong's mother always feel that everything they do with their children is good for their children.
As everyone knows, the more you dot on children, the worse your child's ability to take care of themselves in life, and the more dependent they are on others in life. Children who lack independent ability will not grow up after all, and even if they go out of society, they will be considered by others to be incompetent.
If it is really for the good of the child, you may wish to learn from the mother of the bear, do not spoil the child, let the child be strong and brave, cultivate the ability to take care of life, the ability to live independently, and know how to overcome difficulties from an early age, which is the right way for the child to grow and become a talent.
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