Children are the biggest concern of parents, children from kindergarten, parents are more worried about one thing, worried that their children will be bullied by others, become a "soft persimmon" at the mercy of others.
Lin Lin is a junior high school student, he is a relatively introverted child. But in his home, his parents always quarreled, quarreled very fiercely, he could only stay in the corner silently, and the atmosphere did not dare to come out. In school, he was also a taciturn student and did not perform well academically.
It was another weekend, Lin Lin went home and quickly took off the school uniform, put it in the washing machine to wash, washed it for half a day, and there were still many places on the back with carbon stroke patterns, most of which were some turtle shells, and some messy pen prints. This is the third one, and his mother asks him, and he doesn't say who did it.
The first two times my mother had found the school, but he couldn't say who did it, and the classmates didn't admit it, and the teacher taught the children a few words, and it was over to unite and love. This child is so weak and deceitful, it is definitely not good in society, and his parents also criticize him, and if he is bullied again, he will beat him up.
Lin Lin, a weak child, has a pair of strong parents, so it seems that it is really not a genetic reason. Children's personality growth, and family education is inseparable, there are these kinds of parents, seemingly unintentional, but it is easy to raise weak and bullying children, often bullied by others.
First of all, the relationship between husband and wife is not good, and the child has an introverted and inferior personality, and is easy to become a person who is bullied
Mom and Dad often quarrel, and the impact on children is great. Mom and Dad are a safe haven for their children, and those children whose parents are very loving have a stronger sense of security in their hearts. And those children whose parents have bad relations and often quarrel at home will feel that their living environment is threatened at any time, and they will be afraid and insecure.
Mom and Dad often quarrel, and children don't dare to stand up and speak. Therefore, such children are prone to form an introverted and inferior personality, and most of them choose to tolerate in the face of bullying people.
The relationship between parents should not affect the child, and giving the child a warm family is the best education that parents give to the child. Especially in front of children, parents should not always quarrel, which will be very detrimental to the growth of children's personality.
Secondly, parents who are particularly doting on their children and raise their children into flowers in the greenhouse may be weaker.
From the time the children go to kindergarten, those children who have strong self-care ability in life generally have a more independent and brave personality. And those children who can't do anything, the interpersonal relationship is relatively poor, and the children are together, there will also be a comparison, those who do nothing, often look down on, be bullied.
We have some parents who are very doting on their children, and they want to do everything for them, and as a result, they raise their children like flowers in a greenhouse. Such children do not dare to face the disputes of the outside world on their own, and when they are bullied, most of them choose to escape and tolerate. We can't be with the child forever, nor can we always clear the way for him, and the child's affairs still have to be faced by himself.
Finally, those parents who often scold their children tend to develop their children into weak characters
Some parents like to educate their children by beating and cursing, but the scolding of parents is the greatest harm to children. If classmates and teachers beat children, children can still go home and cry with their parents, but if parents beat children, children can only choose to endure this road. If the parents always scold the child, the child is easy to accept this way of communication, and when others scold the child, he also chooses to be patient and will not resist.
Educating children is not as severe as possible, we can have time to criticize children, but also there should be times to affirm and encourage children. Parents should also learn to use scientific methods to criticize and educate their children, when the child makes a mistake, there is an appropriate punishment method, punish him for standing, punish him for doing housework, and so on.
Parents with low self-esteem are prone to raising cowardly children.
Some parents' personality is relatively cowardly and inferior, and when encountering things, the attitude and practice of parents to tolerate will also be passed on to their children. Children who encounter similar situations will use the same method to deal with them. Therefore, we should pass on positive energy to children, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, we must face up to their own strengths and weaknesses, and be a strong and confident person.
Parents who are too frugal are prone to raising children who are cowardly and inferior.
When the child is slightly older, the parents should give him some pocket money. There are often children in schools who, in order to beg for a little snack or stationery, make a very pitiful appearance and wait for others to give alms. We can't cultivate children to be extravagant and wasteful, but we also can't be too critical of children, and parents who are too critical of the door will make children feel inferior to others and become cowardly and unconfident.
Character determines destiny, we want all children to be kind and brave, there is no more violence and bullying in this world.