As a teacher, we need cultivation, quality, and even more noble morality, because our work is facing the hope of every family and is a very malleable child.
When a child goes to kindergarten, he has a weak sense of self-protection, and if he encounters a teacher with moral character problems, it is simply a disaster for the child. Therefore, parents should polish their eyes and do not let their children encounter "unspoken rules" in kindergartens.
Lin Lin is 4 years old and is a child in the middle class of a private kindergarten. The mother knows that her son is lively and active, and it is more difficult to restrain, so she must instruct her son every day to listen to the teacher in the kindergarten. However, the child will be very unhappy to go to kindergarten every day, saying that the teacher criticizes him every day and sometimes punishes him.
The teacher also often leaves the mother to talk, asking some questions, for example, the child has a conflict with other children in the kindergarten today, and the mistakes are all in your child, how do you see how to solve this problem? In addition to regularly educating her own children, Lin Lin's mother could not find any other good way.
However, a kind parent reminded her: "If the teacher often looks for your problems, you have to think of a way, some children are much more naughty than your children, but they will never be called parents." ”
Later, Lin Lin's mother also heard that there was indeed a situation in the class of inviting the teacher to eat and giving gifts to the teacher, and after careful consideration, she decided to change the kindergarten for the child and would not accept such "unspoken rules".
After changing kindergartens, the children went to kindergarten every day with great interest, and the teachers also had a high evaluation of the children, and the mother found that she really made a correct decision.
Children are more naughty, which is a very normal phenomenon. If it is really the child who has a problem with himself, the parent needs to guide his own children to do their homework. If the child's problem is not very serious, and the teacher always deliberately looks for fault, we must consider whether we have encountered "unspoken rules".
These "unspoken rules" of kindergartens, others do not say, you yourself better have a number in mind, do as much as possible to avoid.
The teacher is embarrassed by the child and makes excuses to ask for gifts.
Not allowed to receive gifts from parents, red envelopes, eating invitations, etc., is a requirement that many schools will make for teachers. However, some teachers put the morality of the teacher behind their heads, and there are only interests in front of them. If they want to get gifts from their parents, they will also have some bad means.
For example, if you are picky about your child's various reasons, so that parents feel helpless, you need to ask the teacher for more help, and you are willing to be generous to the teacher. After the teacher's purpose is achieved, the child has no problems, which is typical of making excuses to ask for gifts.
Teachers treat children more "double standards", and children are treated differently.
In the eyes of parents, children are the most adorable to their own children. The teacher is facing dozens of children in the class, and they should all be the same in the eyes of the teacher. However, there are some teachers who always look at their children with "colored" glasses.
Children of rich and powerful families are all fragrant in the eyes of teachers, and children of ordinary people will often be looked down upon. Especially when there is a conflict between children, the teacher's differential treatment will often cause great harm to the child's mind.
The teacher can't control the child and wants to dissuade the child.
Some children are really not easy to manage, and if they are more responsible teachers, they will try different ways to discipline children. But some teachers will also choose the method of "dissuading" such children, if the teacher always says to the parents, "It is better to try other kindergartens and see if it is more suitable for the child." "Once the teacher says such a thing, he basically does not want this child, and it is best for parents to be mentally prepared."
How can we avoid children encountering "unspoken rules" in kindergarten? Parents also need to do this.
Before children go to kindergarten, cultivate children's self-care ability.
When children go to kindergarten, parents need to make some preparations in advance, such as exercising their children's self-care ability, teaching children to wear and undress on their own, and training children to eat, drink, go to the toilet and so on. Children have strong self-care ability, life and learning in kindergartens will be smoother, and teachers will like such children more.
Teach children to follow the rules and solve problems in words.
Children go to kindergarten is not like at home, children should abide by some rules of kindergarten, learn to get along with children. When at home, children should develop the good habit of eating, sleeping regularly, treating people and things, being civilized and polite. Children learn to communicate with children and teachers in language in order to better adapt to kindergarten life.
Choose a kindergarten with a good reputation and communicate with teachers.
To help children choose a better kindergarten, parents need to pay more attention. A kindergarten's reputation is good or not, do not just listen to the publicity, but also ask the parents of the children who are studying. If you find that your child is not suitable for kindergarten, or if the teacher has some unacceptable problems, you should stop the loss in time and change the child to a kindergarten.
The kindergarten stage is a critical period for the formation of children's personality and habits, and parents must not be sloppy, they must polish their eyes.