My niece stayed at my house during this time, watching the weather so cold, and it took my niece more than 10 minutes to walk to school, so I pushed the electric car out and drove her to school.
On the way, my niece said to me: "Uncle, I usually take a big run to school, and now I have to take an electric car, you can just drop me in front of the school, I don't want my classmates to see me in an electric car." ”
This is a personal experience of colleagues in the department, he is very emotional, the current children, young, the material requirements are too high, and the comparison, vanity is too heavy.
In fact, from the beginning of a child's contact with society in kindergarten, he especially cares about his own image in the minds of others, likes to compare his classmates with himself, and compares his classmates' parents with his parents.
When a child sees that others have it, but he does not have it, he will be full of doubts and run to his parents and ask, "Why do others have beautiful clothes but they don't; why do other people's parents drive and pick them up and they don't?" ”
How to answer such a question as a child can not only solve the child's questions, but also educate the child and cultivate the correct values of the child, thus affecting the child's future path.
Parents should not blindly cry poor, after all, poverty is only temporary
I remember when I was young, my mother often said to me: "It is not easy for us to earn money, you look at me and your father, even reluctant to buy clothes, especially your father, a dress for many years." ”
Under my mother's nagging for a long time, I did not dare to make my own request. The shoes were worn out, and he continued to wear them to school, not daring to ask for new shoes. My shoes were broken, and I usually went to school fine, but the day I had physical education class was the day I didn't want to go to school.
In physical education class, you first have to run around the playground twice, and your shoes are broken, and you can't run at all. I used to pretend to be sick to escape in order not to go to physical education class.
Now that I'm older, my knot still hasn't opened. Although I can earn my own money and can afford to buy the shoes I wear, I know that what my mother said when I was a child has taken root in my heart, buying things only for the cheap, not buying the best for me.
It can be seen that parents blindly cry poor for their children's questions, which is not the best answer.
Parents can talk to their children and establish the right values
Professor Li Meijin once said: "When a child compares the garage, all his performance is basically a refraction, reflecting the level of his parents." ”
No matter how young the child is, he also has his own vanity, and the child's comparison psychology stems from the influence of the family environment on him.
In fact, the gap between the rich and the poor is not a real gap, and the gap in education is the real gap.
We must pass on the correct values to children, rich and poor can not represent everything, everyone's wealth is earned through their own efforts, through their own efforts, strive for their own career success, is the most important, parents can do this.
1. Parents lead by example and help their children eliminate the psychology of comparison
The more parents like to compare, the more children they raise will love to compare. As a child's first "teacher", do not have a comparative performance in front of the child.
Take the situation encountered by colleagues, the child is accustomed to family luxury car transfer, accustomed to the envious eyes of classmates, suddenly replaced, her classmates daily carrying electric vehicles, there are great changes in their hearts.
In fact, the child's behavior precisely represents the usual behavior of the child's parents. In the eyes of parents, as long as there is money, there is a superior psychology, and there is a big run at home, which is superior to classmates.
2. Live your own life and achieve success in learning
Guide your child not to compare yourself with your classmates. The most important task for children at this stage is to do a good job in learning. Life is like this, one link buckles one link, and the existing link is done well, in order to better enter the next ring.
If one link is missing, the next link will have to work twice as hard to catch up.
Living your own life and grasping everything you have is the most important thing. After all, other people's things are also obtained by others' efforts, and it is better to retreat to the net, so that it is possible to live the life they want.
Written in the end: the child's growth is inseparable from the parents, the child has doubts, parents should guide correctly. From kindergarten children to college students, they all have their own values and vanity, and parents combine the actual situation of their families to teach their children to look at it correctly. (The picture is from the network, if there is infringement, it must be deleted)