Lazy young people
The winter of 2009 was colder than usual.
One day in December, when Yang Deyu, who lives in Xinyang, Henan Province, was about to sit down with his family after making a good meal, he suddenly remembered his cousin who was alone at home.
Worried that his cousin had no food to eat, Yang Deyu packed up a few dishes and brought some dry food to his cousin's house.
As a result, as soon as Yang Deyu entered the door, he saw his 23-year-old cousin lying on the ground, his body was already stiff, and he did not know how long he had been dead.
This made Yang Deyu sad and angry, and he was very helpless.
Because Yang Deyu knew that this cousin was not sick or disaster-free, and no one wanted to harm him, he was lazy to die.
What's going on here?
Feet do not touch the ground, eat by feeding
In the current era of such developed technology, it is difficult for us to imagine that someone can lazily kill themselves at the age of 23, but such a thing is real.
Yang Deyu's cousin is named Yang Suo, perhaps everyone has heard of his name before, because Yang Suo is a person who has been in the newspaper, but the reason why he appeared in the newspaper is not glorious, because the newspaper used him as a negative teaching material and gave him a nickname - "the first lazy man in Henan".
Yang Suo was born in 1986 in Luoshan County, Xinyang, Henan Province, to a family that has been farming for generations and is not wealthy. Yang Suo's parents only have his one child, naturally very precious, it is simply "held in the hand for fear of breaking, in the mouth afraid of melting", hate can not enshrine him on the high platform, do not want to let Yang Suo do it himself.
The name Yang Suo was given by his father, not only that, Yang Suo also obtained a long-life lock from the elders, which shows how much the family loves him.
Unfortunately, this long-life lock did not make him live a hundred years, but silently witnessed his departure at the age of 23.
Due to the excessive love of his parents, when his peers were able to run on the ground, Yang Suo was still held in the arms of his parents, almost without touching the ground, and even walking was not conducive, let alone running.
At first, the villagers thought that Yang Suo had some congenital disease, and his parents always held him to walk, but later they saw more, and the villagers gradually realized that Yang Suo was in good health, but he was unwilling to walk by himself.
Every time he was put on the ground by his parents, he always pestered them to pick himself up again, and his parents really spoiled him and did not want him to suffer a little.
The villagers couldn't look past it and kindly reminded Yang Suo's parents, but they always said that it would be better to wait for Yang Suo to grow up a little longer, and if the villagers talked too much, they would treat it as a wind in their ears.
Usually Yang Suo said what to eat, his parents will prepare something for him, sometimes to the relatives' home as a guest, the food on the table does not satisfy Yang Suo, he will also cry loudly, forcing his parents to go to town to buy their favorite chicken legs.
The relatives were eye-opening to this scene, and Yang Suo's parents not only coaxed the child in a good voice, but also really listened to his instructions and ran out to buy the chicken legs he wanted, until he was satisfied, and then he relaxed his heart, completely ignoring the strange eyes of the relatives.
When Yang Suo grew up and his legs and feet became very sharp, it made his parents feel that his son was a genius, and he was full of expectations that his son would be able to learn and succeed in the future.
But Yang Suo's performance after going to school was just the opposite, he was accustomed to being served by his parents at home, too lazy to study, too lazy to endorse, even more lazy to write homework, and did not listen to the teacher's discipline at all, and the grades were always at the end. Other students were not accustomed to his appearance and were reluctant to make friends with him.
The teacher realized that it was not possible to go on like this, so he found Yang Suo's parents and wanted to persuade them to discipline the child well and not let him go on like this. I didn't expect a piece of kindness from the teacher, but I gained the disgust of Yang Suo's parents.
It turned out that Yang Suo always told his parents after he returned home that what he learned in school was very simple, and he did not have to learn to write homework.
Parents actually believed it, really thought that their children were very good, so that after hearing the teacher's persuasion, they felt that the teacher was making a fuss for no reason, did not believe it at all, and defended their son: "Our children are so smart, they don't need to write homework." If you have to force him to write, you will tire him out. ”
The teacher was dumbfounded by what he said, so he had to give up.
There is no cure
With his parents behind his back, Yang Suo's primary school career was very happy, every day he carried a bag of snacks and toys, came to the classroom and sat on the "special seat" specially arranged for him by the teacher, playing with his own mood, that is, not listening to the lessons.
The teacher also took him no way, control more strictly, Yang Suo turned back to complain to his parents, the parents will run to the teacher theory the next day, the number of times, the teacher is also afraid of their family, can only open one eye and close one eye to Yang Suo's behavior.
After Yang Suo graduated from elementary school, he said that he would not continue his studies.
His parents actually listened to him, and he really dropped out of school. But he does not help his parents to do housework at home, nor does he go out to find a job, he patronizes and plays with himself every day, hungry with his parents to feed, cold with his parents to add clothes, he does not have to worry about anything, very comfortable.
But of course, such happy days will not last forever, after all, everyone has a day of aging, and parents cannot serve Yang Suo for a lifetime. Of course, Yang Suo's parents are also worried about where Yang Suo will go after they grow old, but they always feel that time is still long, and they can slowly cultivate Yang Suo, who knows that the accident will soon give them a blow to the head.
In 1999, Yang Suo's father went to the hospital for examination because he was unwell and found that he had liver cancer, and it was already advanced. Yang Suo's mother tried her best to take her husband to the hospital, and most of her savings were spent, but she could still keep her husband.
On the day of his father's burial, Yang Suo, who always behaved inhumanely, cried for the first time.
His sad appearance touched all his relatives, just when everyone thought that Yang Suo might have to change this time and become a man who could take on heavy responsibilities, and as a result, the next day, Yang Suo began to live a life of wanting others to serve.
However, his mother completely realized her mistake this time, and was afraid that one day she would suddenly die like her husband, and What would Yang Suo, who knew nothing, do. She began to consciously cultivate Yang Suo's ability to take care of herself in life.
At this time, Yang Suo was 13 years old, and his size was very fast, almost catching up with his mother, but he did not even have the most basic ability to eat.
After being comfortably served for more than ten years, how could Yang Suo say that he would change it. Under the doting of his parents, he did not even establish a correct outlook on life, was indifferent to his relatives at home, and had no friends outside, but he did not care, and only wanted to live a life of clothes to reach out and food to open his mouth.
His mother coaxed him to do housework and helped herself to work in the fields, but only her son had an impatient expression. The mother had no choice but to finish all the work by herself while slowly coaxing and persuading Yang Suo, but this had little effect.
The burden of supporting the family soon overwhelmed her mother. One day, she fainted from work in the fields, and when she came home, she wanted her son to help her do the housework, not to ask him to finish it all, but only hoped that he could help herself to reduce the burden to some extent.
Who knows, Yang Suo, who usually only shows impatience, suddenly became angry this time, not only refused to do the housework, but instead hit his mother who was lying on the bed resting, almost beating her mother to a blue nose and swollen face, and then went away.
The mother lying on the bed looked at the ceiling in shock, thinking about the doting on her son over the years, and the pain that had just landed on her body, and she suddenly burst into tears and regretted it.
Unfortunately, there is no regret medicine in the world.
Human tragedy
After Yang Suo's mother was better, she returned to the previous high-intensity labor.
One day, my mother came alone to the river to wash her clothes. She had been busy all day, but in the short time she had sat down to wash her clothes, she suddenly fainted, and unfortunately fell into the river, and it was too late to be found.
The last person in the world who was willing to be unconditionally good to Yang Suo also left him, and the villagers all felt that this time Yang Suo should always learn to stand on his own, but the reality still made them break through their glasses.
After his mother died, he left a sum of money for Yang Suo, who did not go to work at all, but relied on this money to eat and drink, and still live a very comfortable life. But this money is not much, and it was soon spent by Yang Suo, but he was still too lazy to go to work, and he was still idle every day, and if he was hungry, he would go to the village to ask for food.
His cousin Yang Deyu is a kind-hearted person, and he can't bear to see his life depressed, so he wants to take him to find a job. Yang Deyu found him a job on a construction site, and the work was not tiring, but in Yang Suo's view, it was impossible to accept it, and he quickly ran home without others noticing, and his cousin was angry enough.
Later, with the help of the villagers, Yang Suo also went to work as a waiter in a restaurant, but he still felt tired, tried his best to be lazy every day, and hid in the kitchen to eat all the things prepared for the guests. The restaurant owner couldn't stand him and threw him out.
Yang Deyu also found him several jobs, but basically could not last for two days. Yang Deyu also has his own family, which can take care of Yang Suo all day. And the people in the village also realized that Yang Suo's medicine was incurable, and they were unwilling to help such a lazy man.
At this point, Yang Suo still did not realize his mistake and lived as before.
He didn't want to work and wanted to make money, so he sold everything worth in the family. Usually at home, he did not wash his face, did not take a bath or cut his nails, his head was long and oily, his whole body was smelly, and the villagers all avoided him.
Occasionally, kind villagers were afraid that he would starve to death, and would take the initiative to send him rice noodles, but Yang Suo was too lazy to do it himself, and he had to wait for these rice noodles to be broken, and he still did not touch it.
In the winter, the weather was cold, Yang Suo had no money to use heating, so he dismantled the furniture at home and started a fire to keep warm.
Gradually, under his downfall, the originally decent home became a disgrace, almost like a garbage dump. He didn't even bother to take a few more steps to go to the toilet, conveniently in place and then buried in place.
Yang Deyu would often come to see Yang Suo and persuade him to say a few words, but Yang Suo would not exist as a cousin and continue to sit bored in the messy home, looking at the sky in a daze.
Looking at his cousin who had not lived like a normal person, Yang Deyu had some bad premonitions in his heart.
It turned out that his hunch was correct, and after the cold winter of 2009 arrived, Yang Suo silently froze to death at home and was discovered by his cousin the next day. This year, he was only 23 years old.
Yang Deyu took care of the aftermath for his cousin, but looking back at the past scenes, he still could not calm down for a long time, and he sighed for this. His cousin seemed to have been well taken care of by his parents in the early years, but in fact, he had long been raised into a waste by them.
Parents can take care of their pets as if they were children, but the reverse is not.
If you treat the child like a pet, let him get used to clothes to reach out and open his mouth, it can only bring temporary comfort, sooner or later it will ruin him.