In 2009, in a village in Henan, families from each family gathered for a reunion dinner. After the death of Yang Suo's parents, a lonely person was alone. Cousin Yang Deyu remembered the lonely Yang Suo and specially brought some hot rice and hot dishes from home to visit him. Unfortunately, Yang Deyu still came late.
When Yang Deyu pushed open the door, his cousin Yang Suo was stiff, and the person had already lost his breath. Yang Deyu was startled and rushed to the police. How could a young man die at home? The police came to the scene, conducted a series of surveys, and found no signs of a fight.
After forensic identification, the deceased Yang Suo starved to death! Such a result, Yang Deyu did not feel strange, sad and helpless in his heart, he said to the police at the scene: "My cousin is in good health, and no one will deliberately harm him!" ”
Now that our country has solved the problem of food and clothing, how can anyone still starve to death in the 21st century? Yang Deyu said that he was lazy to die, what is this? Yang Suo, a young man in Henan, with sound limbs, why did he starve to death at home after his parents died of illness?
Hanmen "Takako"
In ancient times, people knew: "Parents love their children, but they have far-reaching plans for them, and their habits are like killing children." The modern French thinker Rousseau also said: "Do you know how to make your children unhappy?" That's to be obedient to him! "The views of the ancient Chinese and modern thinkers are surprisingly similar, but modern parents do not know this.
The following story is based on true events...
Henan Xinyang Baoan Village is an ordinary village, there are several families surnamed Yang living here, most of them are thick and simple, relying on farming for a living. Yang Jichun is one of the families, the family is poor, because he can't get the money to marry his daughter-in-law, the marriage has been delayed until the age of 30. After many years, Yang Jichun's daughter-in-law became pregnant, which was a great joy for the family.
That year, Yang Jichun was 46 years old, which can also be regarded as "old and old". In the countryside, most people will have a preference for sons and daughters, saying that raising children to prevent old age. In order to keep their son by their side forever, Yang Jichun and his wife named him "Yang Suo", hoping that their son would not leave for the rest of his life, just like a lock. And Yang Suo's fate is also like his name, it is indeed a lifetime of locked.
After Yang Mu finished sitting on the confinement, she took care of Yang Suo wholeheartedly. In order to give the family a better life, Yang Father worked harder, and the family's life had a run with the arrival of Yang Suo, and Yang Father and Yang Mother were more motivated to work. Yang's mother held her son in her arms every day, and there was nothing wrong with it, but when Yang Suo was one or two years old, other people's children could already walk, and Yang Suo was still in his mother's arms.
When Yang Suo grew up to be three or four years old, he was still in his mother's arms, and he had to be held by his mother everywhere he went, just like locking on his mother. The villagers couldn't help but ask, "My children can play soy sauce, why can't your children walk?" Is there anything wrong with that? ”
When Mother Yang heard this, she said angrily: "People are not the same as people, your child is no better than the locks of the Li family, what if he walks and falls?" Li and Old Yang are going to die of heartache. Holding and not getting tired, it didn't hinder your family or anything. ”
After the neighbor was intimidated, it was not easy to say anything. Since then, more and more villagers have been talking about it, and they predict that Sooner or later Yang Suo will lose at the hands of his parents, so old that he can't walk, and there will definitely be great problems in the future. Yang's father and Yang mother also heard the sound of the wind, but looking at their son who was sleeping in his arms, he was still reluctant to let him down.
Yang Suo grew up to be six or seven years old, still in the arms of Yang Mother, other people's children are bouncing on the street at this age, Yang Suo almost does not touch the ground, it is difficult to walk smoothly, let alone run. Yang Suo's mother also wanted Yang Suo to walk on his own, but Yang Suo just got down to the ground and took a few steps, so he asked his mother for a hug.
Yang Mother has always been responsive to her son's needs, and at this time, Yang Mother has been difficult to hold Yang Suo for a long time. Mother Yang came up with a way to put Yang Lock in a basket and carry it with a flat shoulder. In this way, you can still work and it does not affect the children. There are many villagers who can't stand it, most of the families in the village are farmers, and Yang Suo's family is no exception.
As a child of a farmer, at a very young age, he should be able to do all kinds of farm work, collect cow dung, burn firewood, take care of livestock... I had never seen a child like Yang Suo. People say that the children of the poor have long been in charge, but Yang Suo is "a noble son out of the cold door". Yang's father and mother often carry their sons on the path with a large basket, which has become a "beautiful landscape" in the village.
Yang's father and yang mother spent 10 years to cultivate their son into the "first lazy person"
The villagers kindly persuaded Yang Suo that Yang Suo's father and Yang Mother were also moved, and tried to let Yang Suo come down and walk on his own. After all, Yang Suo's limbs are sound, and he can already walk on the ground on his own. When he was playing games with other children, his parents found that Yang Suo's reaction was much faster than other children. This made Yang's father overjoyed, thinking that Yang Suo must have a future appearance and be more doting on his son.
The conditions of Yang Suo's family are not good, but as long as there is anything delicious in the family, his parents will give it to him, so Yang Suo's mouth has also been raised. In order to make Yang Suo happy, Yang Suo got up early in the morning and walked more than ten miles to the town to buy chicken legs and snacks for Yang Suo. If the family has always been coarse tea and light rice, Yang Suo will not always be noisy to eat chicken legs.
Yang Suo only ate the chicken legs in the town once, and after that, he clamored to eat chicken legs at every meal, otherwise he would not eat. Murakami's relatives held a happy event to eat a banquet, which was originally a happy thing, and Yang's father took Yang Suo to dinner. After Yang Suo came to his relatives' house, he did not know how to greet people, and many elders intended to get close to him, and Yang Suo never paid attention.
Yang Suo sat on the wine table, there were fish and meat, and there were also chicken legs. People have not yet sat together, Yang Suo picked up the chicken leg with one hand and ate it. After all, he was a child, and everyone could understand it, but they didn't say anything. Yang Suo tasted a chicken leg, found that there was no good food bought by his father in the town, and began to cry, clamoring for his father to buy chicken legs.
At this time, the adult sitting next to him couldn't help but say: "Habits are like killing children, and if you continue to be accustomed like this, geniuses will also become stupid." The little doll still has so many things, and she is hungry if she doesn't like to eat. Father Yang said embarrassedly, "I am an old man, and this boy begged the bodhisattva to come, and he was reluctant to let him go hungry." Unlike your dolls, there is only one male doll. ”
Yang's father couldn't help Yang Suo, borrowed a bicycle from a neighbor and rushed to town to buy several chicken legs. By the time Father Yang returned, the banquet had almost eaten, and only two or three people were nagging. Father Yang bought chicken legs, Yang Suo clamored to feed, and Father Yang skillfully fed Yang Suo. This move stunned the people in the village, and they all expressed their incomprehension, so big, do you want people to feed them?
Father Yang explained with a smile: "From birth to now, it has always been fed by them, otherwise the children will not eat." They are used to it, and it doesn't take much time to feed, after all, children will also open their mouths to eat. "There is no longer a second child in the village like Yang Suo, who is six or seven years old and still needs to be fed.
When Yang Suo was playing with the children, he learned that others would help the family collect firewood and burn the fire. After Yang Suo returned home, he suddenly had a lot of energy and offered to help his mother burn the fire, but Yang Suo rejected him after listening to it, and said: "Manly people can't enter the kitchen, but don't tire of the family lock, you can go to play, you don't have to care about the family's affairs." Since then, Yang Suo has never mentioned that he wants to help with housework.
At the beginning, Yang Lock was among the children, and the game was more powerful, so many children liked to play with him. His parents obeyed Yang Suo's words and obeyed him in everything, and under the influence of his parents, he had a "pretentious" mentality, which made him lose his friendship.
Yang's father and Yang mother saved money and changed their tricks to buy good food for Yang Suo. Once Yang Father bought a kind of lard steamed bun, and the children in the village had hardly seen such food, and they all drooled and watched him eat. Yang Suo tasted it, didn't like to eat it, and spit it out in disgust.
The child drooled and said to Yang Suo: "You don't like to eat, you can give us a few points, our parents have never bought us such a fragrant cake." Yang Suo did not pay attention, complaining in his heart that his father bought a "bad" cake and came back, threw the remaining cake on the ground, and stomped on it fiercely. Yang Suo said to the children with a stinky face: "This is mine, if you want to eat, pick it up from the ground and eat it." ”
The children watched Yang Suo throw the cake on the ground, and he was angry, saying that he wasting food, and no child was willing to play with Yang Suo after that. Yang Suo didn't think anything of it after listening to it, and walked home with his own care.
Yang Suo's parents died one after another due to illness
Yang Suo is 7 years old and has reached the age of primary school. Yang's father and mother yang have high hopes for him, they think that their children are smarter than other children from an early age, and they will definitely get ahead in the future. Yang Suo studied at a local primary school under the expectations of his parents, but the reality was contrary to the ideal.
After Yang Suo came to the school, his personality was "distinct", he did not obey the teacher's discipline, and he did not even bother to open the books in class. Not long after the school started, Yang Suo became the most troublesome student in the class, and no classmates in the class were willing to make friends with him, and he always spoke to others in a commanding tone, as if the whole world should revolve around him.
Yang's father and Yang's mother kept telling Yang Suo at home that he was a little genius and the smartest of the children. Yang Suo also thinks the same thing in school, saying to many people that he is a "genius" and does not need to study. After the teacher understood the situation, he took the initiative to communicate with Yang's father and Mother Yang, hoping that they could persuade Yang Suo to actively study.
The teacher was bitter, and Mother Yang did not understand, but said: "You have so many dolls to teach, don't keep staring at the family lock, assign so much homework every day, what is the use of writing?" What should I do if I exhaust my doll? After listening to Mother Yang's words, the teacher was very surprised, she had seen doting children, and had never seen such doting!
The teacher felt helpless, and in order not to let Yang Suo disturb the other students' learning during the class, he moved his desk to the corner of the last row and did not care about his homework anymore...
Yang Suo is carefree and responsive under the wings of his parents. Under the protection of his parents, Yang Suo became unreasonable and liked to provoke his classmates. Many parents complained to their teachers and demanded that the school expel the student. The teacher had no choice but to come to Yang Suo's home again and inform him of the actual situation, hoping that Yang Suo's parents could restrain him.
Yang's father, Yang's mother, took the teacher's hand and talked about how well-behaved and cute Yang Suo was when he was a child, and in their eyes, Yang Suo was a doll who could not be beaten and scolded. The teacher has nothing to do about this, Yang Suo is naughty in school, the teacher does not train a few words, Yang father and Yang mother will run to the school to find the teacher "theory".
In the hearts of other children, primary school is undoubtedly the happiest school time. But for Yang Suo, going to school is as boring and torturous as going to jail. Other children's school bags are full of books, but Yang Suo's school bags are all snacks and toys brought from home. These are all prepared for him by Yang's father and mother, so that he can play in the school with peace of mind.
Yang Suo is a kind of torment in school, and after graduating from primary school, he refuses to go to school again. Nor did the parents force their baby son to sleep at home. A few years later, Yang Suo has become a standard "waste man", and his sound limbs are like decorations. His parents tried to get him up and do something, but unfortunately Yang Suo could not accept a little preaching, and took his parents' words as a side note.
The life of a parent is also limited, and they cannot accompany their children for a lifetime. Yang Father Yang Mother did not consider this problem, if he is not there, how can the son who is lazy and lazy survive? Yang Suo's excessive pampering of Yang Suo's father and mother made Yang Suo's personality become very irritable, he hated his name, always thought that he was a true dragon Tianzi, and wanted to change his name to "Yang Delong".
In 1999, an accident occurred, Yang Suo's father was working in the field, his abdomen was incessant pain, and he vomited up and down every day. In the first few days, in order to save money, Yang Father endured pain and did not go to the hospital. A few days later, the condition worsened, and Yang's father finally couldn't stay up and go to the hospital for examination. Father Yang thought that he could go home by prescribing some diarrhea medicine, and after the last series of examinations, the doctor found that Father Yang was already in advanced stage of liver cancer.
For Yang Mu, it is undoubtedly a thunderbolt on a sunny day. In order to continue Yang Father's life, Yang Mother took out the family's savings, still to no avail, And Yang Father died of illness not long after. After his father's death, Yang Suo cried for a long time at his father's funeral. After his father was buried, Yang Suo, as usual, ate, drank and had fun, and he couldn't see that his mother was busy at home.
From childhood to adulthood, Yang Suo has been in contact with his parents the most, who has never received the correct education, and he has basically no concept of family and friendship. Yang Suo is already a 1.7-meter-tall guy, doing nothing every day and never sharing the pressure for his mother. Mother Yang looked at the children of the same age in other people's families who were very sensible and very envious.
Mother Yang seemed to realize that the previous education method was not right, and she said to her son with tears in her eyes: "Son, your father is no longer there, this family is left with our mother and mother, you can no longer do nothing like before." Yang Suo was silent after listening to it, and he didn't know what he was thinking, and after a while, he ran to the courtyard to play.
The mother shook her head when she saw that her son was still the same as the child. Mother Yang went to town to work during the day, and when she returned at night, she had to prepare her son's meal for tomorrow. When the family was finished, Mother Yang still had to go to the field to cultivate the field. In the long run, Yang Mu became ill with overwork, and one evening, she fell in the field.
Fortunately, the villagers passing by saw Yang Mother who had fainted on the ground, and quickly informed Yang Suo, and with the help of everyone, sent Yang Mother home. The villagers told Yang Suo to take good care of his mother.
Where will Yang Suo take care of people, after her mother slept, she wanted to drink some water and asked Yang Suo to help her take it. Yang Suo didn't listen to it at all, and the first thing he said to his mother was: "I'm hungry, why don't you cook?" Yang Mu's heart suddenly reached the freezing point, and Yang Mu lit a fire with tears to cook. During this period, Yang Suo constantly complained that he did not sleep well and eat well, and constantly asked his mother to do this and that.
Mother Yang realized that this was not the way to go, and said to her son in a serious tone: "Son, after I go to the field, you will also go with you and learn to cultivate the land." In the future, when your mother is gone, you can also support yourself. Yang Suo said that he did not want to go, and his mother scolded Yang Suo for the first time. Yang Suo was almost never scolded from childhood to adulthood, where he could bear to be angry, he picked up the bowl and chopsticks on the stove and threw them at his mother, just hitting his mother's forehead.
Yang Mu did not expect that her precious son actually beat herself mercilessly, and the tears could not stop flowing. After a few days of rest at home, Yang's mother went to town to work during the day and went home to farm at night to take care of her son.
Yang Mu was losing weight day by day, and her body was already overwhelmed.
One day, Mother Yang was washing clothes at the head of the village. After squatting by the river for too long, after washing, I got up, my eyes were black, my legs could not stand up, and I fell into the pond. In the afternoon, villagers passing by found Yang Mu's body. Yang Suo was very wooden about his mother's death, and there was no expression on his face.
The villagers pitied Yang Mu as a hard worker when she was alive, and then shared such a son, and spontaneously held a funeral for her, so that Yang Mu could be buried in the ground.
After the death of his parents, what happened to Yang Suo?
Yang Suo has been doted on by his parents for more than ten years, and he will not do anything, or even establish the correct three views. Villagers grew up watching Yang Suo, and they all thought that after the death of Yang Suo's father and mother, Yang Suo should always be self-reliant and learn to be independent. This is not the case...
After Yang's mother's death, the meager savings in the family fell into the hands of Yang Suo, who did not want to work at all, but took the money left by his mother to eat, drink and drink, and lived a very elegant life. Since there was not much money in the family, it didn't take long for Yang Suo to run out of money, and when he was hungry, he went to someone else's house to ask for food.
Cousin Yang Deyu did not want to see Yang Suo idle every day, relying on the charity of others to survive, helping him find a relatively easy job on the construction site, and playing behind the master. Although it doesn't make much money, good villains can eat and learn from experience. Yang Suo couldn't accept it, he couldn't stand the scorching sun and discipline at all, and he silently ran home.
After the cousin Yang Deyu knew, he did not fight a place, this job was also entrusted to the relationship, and some people wanted to learn from others who were not necessarily willing to take it. After Yang Suo returned to the village, he made a living by begging. If any villager gave him something he loved to eat, he would always rely on it. Later, many villagers were afraid of this "lazy man".
The kind villagers saw that Yang Suo was not able to go down like this, and sent him to the hotel as a waiter. But he couldn't even do this job well, often lazy, and stole the dishes of the guests. The shopkeeper couldn't stand him and dismissed him. In order to make Yang Suo support himself, the cousin introduced him to many jobs, and finally Yang Suo could not last for a few days.
The villagers and cousins were eager to beat him up, and really hated that iron was not steel. The people in the village were reluctant to take out food to help him, and Yang Suo did not realize that the people around him were helping him, but instead resented them. Some villagers kindly came to Yang Suo's home and persuaded him to go out to find a job, and Yang Suo grabbed the noodle bucket next to him with one hand and threw it over.
After that, most of the villagers were reluctant to take care of Yang Suo's work and never stepped into Yang Suo's house again. Some well-meaning villagers are still worried that Yang Suo will starve to death, so they put noodles and rice in front of their homes, and for several days Yang Suo did not bother to take them, unwilling to cook for themselves, and the food was moldy there. Yang Suo did not want to work, and wanted to eat chicken legs, so he sold all the valuable furniture in the house at a low price.
Yang locked in the home, a person lazy to the extreme, lazy to wash his face, brush his teeth, and dirty every day. Over time, Yang Suo's nails were long and dirty, and his cloak was emitted all day, and his body was full of odors. When the villagers saw him, they would take a detour.
The rural toilet is close to the vegetable field, Yang locked the toilet and did not even want to go a few steps, it was convenient to get out of bed directly, and then buried it on the spot. In winter, the quilt at home has not been sunburned, it is very humid, Yang Suo in order to keep warm, will burn everything that can be burned in the home, in the room to make a fire for warmth. His cousin Yang Deyu often came to see him and brought him food and clothes.
Yang Deyu repeatedly persuaded Yang Suo to support himself, and Yang Suo stared at a place in a daze as if he had not heard. The house that could still be lived in was upside down by Yang Suo, and it no longer looked like a place where people lived, and it was a mess. Yang Suo's intelligence was not a problem, and his limbs were sound, but he was too lazy to do anything.
At the end of 2009, the village was full of new atmosphere for the New Year, Yang Deyu and his family were gathered around a table to eat a reunion dinner, and suddenly remembered Yang Suo. Yang Deyu took the bowl and filled some meals, and wanted to send food to Yang Suo. As soon as I opened the door, I found that Yang Suo had frozen to death at home, and the police determined that Yang Suo was starving to death after identification!
Yang Deyu saw the rice and noodles he had sent not long ago at Yang Suo's home, and did not move at all. Yang Deyu was very sad, where his cousin was starving to death, he was simply lazy!
Yang Deyu took care of the aftermath for his cousin, and Yang Suo was only 23 years old that year. Yang Deyu recalled that when a large family was a child, Yang Suo was born the best, with a height of more than 1.7 meters and a flexible mind. Unfortunately, he was taken care of too well by his parents and had raised Yang Suo into a waste.
In modern China, many parents have given life to their children and fed them with materials, but they cannot give their children the correct education spiritually. More than a decade ago, Lu Xun once asked with sadness: "How do we become fathers now?" "It's still deafening. The ancients knew that "habits are like killing children", how can they forget it in modern times?