Every parent feels that they have brought more high-quality resources to their children and enough care for their growth, so parents hope to see their children grow up optimistic and confident, and feel that such children will be more excellent. But as the child grows up, parents will find that their personality will become very cowardly, the courage will be very small, the child's courage is too poor, this thing makes the parents very knotted, feel that they should not raise their children like this.
In fact, most of the reasons why children are too timid are caused by wrong family education, and many parents do not use the right method when educating their children. Parents' so-called education methods bring a lot of harm to children, and the direct reason for the child's diminishing courage is that parents often bully their children, causing them to lose the ability to resist. And the child's lack of understanding of their own situation has caused the phenomenon of the child's low sense of self-worth, so that they have no opinion when they encounter things and do not dare to believe their own thoughts.
What behaviors of parents can cause their children to become less courageous?
Forcing children to have good popularity
Parents have some wrong ways of education, which will indeed make children's courage smaller, for example, most parents now want their children to have good popularity, in order to make their children more popular, these parents will force their children to socialize. But such socialization will only make children have social phobia, and it is not conducive to their healthy physical and mental development.
And parents in this way will make the child feel that if you want to have a good relationship, you must please others, so that you can get the welcome of others, such a social way is wrong. It is easy for children to be suppressed and despised in social interaction, which will prevent children from obtaining true friendships.
Forcing children to learn to share
Now many parents are particularly obsessed with letting their children learn to share, sharing this thing itself is beautiful, and it also reflects a person's good qualities. People with sharing qualities can have more good friends, but if you want your child to take the initiative to learn to share, you don't have to rely on persecution, and the persecution of your parents will make your children feel that sharing this thing is very terrible.
Children who are generally forced to learn to share will become unable to protect their own interests when socializing with others, and they are more likely to be bullied by others. It is precisely because of the education of their parents that they have little courage when socializing, never dare to express their own ideas, and are always controlled by others when they get along with others.
Indiscriminately scold children
There are also some parents who are particularly impatient when educating their children, and whenever they make a mistake, their parents will indiscriminately scold their children. At this time, children have infinite grievances in their hearts, they want to explain to their parents, but their parents do not listen at all. Such behavior by parents will make the child more and more silent, and slowly the child will no longer explain his behavior to others.
This will also make them very transparent in the crowd, and they will not resist in the face of anything unfair, which will make them less courageous.
After a child is bullied because of his timidity, how should parents educate?
Care about your child's inner feelings
Due to the wrong way parents teach, children's courage becomes smaller and smaller, which will lead to their vulnerability to social bullying by others. When parents find that their children are being bullied, they should care about their inner feelings, first comfort the bad emotions in the child's heart, let the child slowly come out of the bad emotions, and then propose a solution.
But many parents have done the wrong thing at this step, and when they see their children being bullied, they will scold them, thinking that they are useless and a waste! This kind of education will only make the child's courage become smaller, and he will not dare to tell his parents after being bullied in the future.
Solve problems with children
Because the child's courage is already very small, it is difficult for them to solve the problems they encounter by their own ability, and parents can use this opportunity to take their children to deal with the problems. Let the child know how to correctly deal with the contradictions in interpersonal relationships, but when dealing with problems, parents should try to take a rational approach to negotiation through communication.
When solving problems in front of children, try not to be particularly impulsive, and do not always use violence, which is not conducive to children learning the correct way to solve problems.
Exercise your child's guts
Through the fact that children are always bullied, most parents must have understood that their children's guts need to be exercised! Therefore, parents should exercise their children's abilities in all aspects of daily life, and in this process, children need parents' encouragement, support and trust, only parents encourage them more, they can maximize their abilities.
Therefore, I hope that parents should abandon the harsh education methods they have adopted before when educating their children, and do not always criticize them, try to pay attention to their children's inner feelings, and slowly guide their hearts to become stronger.
If you don't want your child's guts to become smaller, how should parents educate their children?
Communicate more with your child
If you want to make your children more and more courageous, parents must pay attention to one thing when educating them, that is, to communicate with their children. Only communication can guide children to express their own ideas, and parents know whether there is a problem with their children's thoughts. Some parents don't want to listen to their children in life at all, only know how to output to their children. This kind of education has no effect, and it is easy to wrongfully accuse children, so that they dare not say anything after being bullied.
Lead them to socialize properly
Generally speaking, children will be bullied by others in interpersonal communication, parents must pay attention to their children's socialization, do not always force them to share. Parents should not lower their dating standards in order to make them have good popularity, and only by respecting themselves and loving themselves in social life can they get the respect of others. Before letting their children have good popularity, parents must let their children learn how to make others respect themselves.
Enhance your child's self-worth
And in the education of daily life, parents should also enhance their children's sense of self-worth, so that children can realize that they have many advantages, so that children can enhance their confidence in themselves. If parents always blame them in their daily lives, this is not done well and that is not done well, this will hit the child's heart. Slowly the child will feel that he is very bad, and will never be as good as other children, which will make the child discouraged by himself, which will make them less courageous.
summary
In order to cultivate bold children, parents need to persevere in guiding, slowly improve their own education methods, and do not treat children too harshly. Slowly guide them to the right social interaction so that their hearts will be stronger.
Today's interaction, how do you think you should make your child's courage bigger? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section.