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Nowadays, picking up and dropping off children from school every day is an extremely "Chinese characteristic" thing, and has become a beautiful landscape at the entrance of primary schools.
But many post-60s and post-70s said that in their own time, there was no need for parental pick-up and drop-off at school, and everyone was alone or traveling together. At that time, transportation was not developed, and there were no unsafe factors such as so-called traffickers abducting and trafficking in children.
Education experts suggested that primary school students "do not receive or send", saying that it is for the good of their children, which has triggered parents to recoil
Every day when going to and from school, you can see the water in front of the primary school, and parents rush to pick up their children, and the scene is extremely chaotic. Although the primary school ends relatively early and staggers the rush hour for commuting, the parents and students blocked at the school gate cannot be evacuated in time, which will still affect the traffic order.
In response to this phenomenon, experts said: parents of this "pick-up behavior" sooner or later ruined children, affecting traffic is secondary, the most important thing is that it is impossible to cultivate children's independence, he also took "Japanese primary school students go to school alone" as an example, criticizing the pick-up behavior of Chinese parents.
The parents were not calm in an instant, and directly turned back to the experts and told him to shut up.
Elementary schools in Japan are divided according to local population density, guaranteeing that most children can walk home in only 20 minutes at most, and japan does not allow cross-regional schooling, no matter how old you are or how much money you have. This division of elementary schools, which ignores hukou and the problems of wealth and poverty, naturally makes Japan's elementary schools more balanced, and parents do not have to send their children to schools far away.
In addition, there are very few traffickers in Japan, public security is relatively good, and attention is paid to children's safety precaution education. Elementary school students have alarms in their school bags, and in case of danger, they use them correctly to avoid accidents.
Times are different, and the national conditions are different, so the way Japanese students go to school is not suitable for China.
Some parents also said that they do not deny the expert's view that "pick-up and drop-off will cause children to rely on their parents and not be independent", after all, parents also hope that their children can be independent and adapt to society as soon as possible. But independence takes time, step by step.
During the school period, there are many people and many cars, the children are young, the safety awareness is poor, the self-protection ability is weak, when encountering danger, it is difficult to save themselves, and the safety of the child cannot be disregarded in order to cultivate the child's independence.
Should I exercise my child to go home alone? Experts and parents are not wrong
The expert's point of view is that today's children are too "pretentious", clothes to reach out to open their mouths, self-care ability, psychological endurance are too poor.
Want to cultivate the child's ability to be independent by changing the behavior of parents to pick up and drop off their children to and from school, the original intention is correct, but it is necessary to combine the actual situation of primary school students, they are still young, they have no ability to deal with emergencies alone, coupled with the complex traffic environment, which parent dares to joke about their children's life safety?
From the perspective of parents, it is definitely the safety of children first. The news media has repeatedly reported the abduction and trafficking of children by human traffickers, which has long made parents a bird of fright, coupled with the fact that there are now many fast cars on the road and low-quality drivers, there are too many hidden dangers for children to go to and from school alone, and parents would rather spend more time and ask for peace of mind.
In fact, parents pick up and drop off children does not mean that they will destroy children, and many slightly older children parents are also let them go to school alone, from this it can be seen that parents are not too doting on children, but they are too young after all, learning to be independent needs a process, parents can start from other aspects to exercise their children's independent ability.
How can parents develop their children's independence?
Independence is reflected in all aspects of life, such as folding quilts, tidying up clothes, packing school bags, etc., which are all cultivating children's independence.
In this way, parents do not have to worry too much about their children, and can completely let go and let the children do their own things. Parents should also encourage their children in a timely manner and give them some help and guidance so that their children can grow faster.
Many children are procrastinating in writing homework, and even getting up every day needs repeated reminders from their parents, who can make plans for them and cultivate their good habits. When children have a purpose and a sense of time to learn and live, children will naturally slowly become more independent.
Parents should find the right time to "break away", when the child's safety awareness and self-protection ability is enough, you can slowly let go, let the child go to and from school independently, if it is not time, parents can first exercise from other aspects to cultivate their children's independence.
In short, parents have less pampering and more reason, and children will grow better.
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