Introduction: When the baby feels uneasy, he often shows crying behavior, and needs to be coaxed by his parents to settle down, and if the child grows up, if there is still a psychological state of insecurity, there will be some very special behavior. Many people say that if the baby often has the behavior of biting fingers, it indicates a lack of security and psychological dependence.
For children, specific behaviors can soothe their uneasy hearts, but some parents will wonder, they usually have to take care of their children at home, there is no special situation, why is my baby so insecure? In fact, the psychological development of the baby is very complicated, and many times parents will have blind spots in parenting.
The factors that lead to the lack of psychological security in children are mainly the following:
1. The influence of mothers' parenting style
Some mothers will be more indifferent in their parenting style, rarely take care of the baby's real emotions, and often just meet the baby's daily life needs, but do not take care of some of the baby's daily emotional states. Therefore, for the baby, although the mother will be around, but did not get enough emotional feedback, the emotional gap is also easy to form an uneasy psychology.
2. The baby's living environment is environmentally friendly
Some babies' insecurity may also be caused by the surrounding living environment, for infants and young children they need a quieter and more comfortable living environment, and it is easy to be frightened by some bad noise around them. Growing up in a frightened environment for a long time, the baby is also prone to a lack of security.
3. The baby's innate personality influence
For high-demand babies and low-demand babies, many mothers must have some understanding, some babies are born with a personality that is easy to be uneasy, compared to other babies, they need to have the company of their mothers. Therefore, in the daily care will show more dependence on the mother, if the baby in the process of growing up high demand can not be satisfied, it is easy to affect the healthy development of personality.
4. Parents' bad emotional expression
The psychological development of children will also be affected by the mother's emotions, and the babies are very dependent on the care of the parents, the time spent with each other will be more, and some extremely intense emotions of the parents will also affect the baby's psychology. In daily life, parents may unconsciously convey a lot of anxiety, anger, and irritability to their children, and hurt their children.
Therefore, it is not that mothers are full-time at home with their children, what meets the children can make the children get healthy growth, the baby's psychological security is the need for parents' daily companionship and continuous education and guidance. So for babies who lack security, how can parents improve their baby's sense of security?
First of all, do more high-quality parent-child interaction with the baby to improve the effect of parent-child companionship. Many parents accompany their children just by their children's side, looking at their phones or playing games. But sometimes, children need their parents to participate in their own interactions, and they want to get more attention from their parents, so they may wish to play with their babies for a while.
Second, teach children about the concept of "object permanence" and its derivation, which will help children to get more security in parent-child care. Some babies will have very serious separation anxiety, that is, they do not realize that their parents have always existed, and they will be afraid of the disappearance of their parents in their hearts, so it is easy to be uneasy without their parents around.
Finally, show your love to your child. How can a child who grows up in an environment full of parental love and attention be insecure? Therefore, parents usually have to express their love for their children more, not always "love in silence", children need to be constantly affirmed to get security.
Important note: In the process of growing up, some of the mothers' parenting methods, the state of the living environment, the baby's personal personality characteristics and some bad emotional expressions of the parents may cause the baby's psychological security to be lacking. In this regard, high-quality parent-child companionship allows children to understand the concept of "object permanence" and express their love more than once they can enhance their sense of security.
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