Life is a long run, and children should win slowly

Children's early education will affect the child's future learning habits, attitudes and ways of thinking, etc. Is important, but if the early education is not properly guided, it will make the child tired of school, and even cause some adverse consequences.

Therefore, no matter what kind of early education method is adopted, or what kind of educational concept is chosen, the fundamental starting point is to guide children to become the masters of happy learning. On the one hand, he wants to let his child surpass his peers as much as possible, and on the other hand, he uses some of his children's achievements to show off and satisfy his vanity, which is also a mistake in the educational methods of many parents.

There is a popular slogan nowadays: don't let your child lose at the starting line. In response to this sentence, parents have formulated various learning plans for their children, asked tutors, enrolled in training classes, attended aristocratic schools, scrambled, and were very busy.

There is also a saying: No matter how poor you are, you cannot be poor in education, and you cannot be bitter to your children. Therefore, no matter how hard they work, parents must try their best to do all the advanced education for their children and let their children have a good start.

Educating children is indeed a big thing, and the parents' mood of hoping for their sons to become dragons and their daughters to become phoenixes can also be understood. Educating children well and giving children a good start is indeed a very important thing. But parents try their best to let their children learn according to the various models set by adults for them, to participate in various learning classes that they like or hate, so that the education of quick success will definitely give children a good future?

Some parents say, "No way." If we give him a happy childhood, then I can't give him a good future. "The heart of fist and fist makes people feel a lot of emotions. But the personalities of children are very different, what kind of results will be produced by such education, and people can't help but wonder: Will it be promoted by this? Will this kind of education allow us to get the results we want in the first place?

A few years ago, I read in the newspaper that children could remember hundreds of digits after Pi. At that time, I thought that the child was very remarkable, but now that I think about it, I feel sorry for those show-up educations, and think about how much time he must have sacrificed the play time that children should have had to remember the irregular numbers that are meaningless and I can never remember? On the one hand, it wants to make the child more likely to surpass his peers, and on the other hand, he uses some of the child's achievements to show off and satisfy his vanity, which is also a mistake in the educational methods of many parents.

In real life, many children with a high starting point do not necessarily run in the front after that. Many times, they even run behind a large number of children.

Wang Anshi told the story of a genius child who eventually became no different from ordinary people in his "Wounded Zhongyong". In fact, many children now grow up in a similar way to Zhongyong. When a child is first born, parents are often proud of his every point of growth, afraid that he will be frustrated. When he was a little older, his parents always spared no effort to make countless assumptions for his future, and did their best to clear even the slightest obstacle on his way forward. As everyone knows, the result of this is often counterproductive.

The road of life is not the smoother the better, nor is it the higher the starting point, the better. "Wood shows in the forest, the wind will destroy it", the start is too fierce, the starting point is too high, the more setbacks encountered. Some children have not encountered any setbacks because the front is too smooth, and they have little experience in dealing with setbacks. When difficulties come, they often don't know how to deal with them, and as a result, they are crushed at once and never recover.

Two people went to the desert to plant trees. When the trees were planted, one of them watered the tree at first, but after a few days of watering, he left it alone and let the tree grow on its own; while the other man had been carefully managing the saplings he had planted, watering the trees every day and fertilizing the trees regularly. The tree planted by the latter man grew very well, and he often laughed at the other tree planter, because the tree planted by that person grew very slowly and appeared very short.

However, in the summer, a strong wind suddenly blew. After the strong wind, all the carefully maintained trees were uprooted, while the trees planted by another person were very little damaged.

The person who usually planted the trees carefully was surprised, so another person told him: "Because the trees I planted are not watered normally, in order to find the water needed for growth, they desperately stick their roots all the way to the ground, so the wind can't blow them down." ”

Can parents teach their children to learn from the experience of planting trees in the desert? The process of growing up is a gradual process, not the sooner the better. To grow into a towering tree, you have to experience the wind and rain of nature. The flowers and plants cultivated in those greenhouses, or the trees that are well managed by hand, often appear weak in the face of wind and rain. There is an old saying that "the big instrument is late", which is very scientific. Many people who have become masters are not born with outstanding talents, nor do they rely on others to give him a high starting point, most of them rely on themselves to step by step.

(Editor-in-Charge: Li Donghai)