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Friends kept revealing year-end news in the group: his family was sick; her relatives had liver cancer; his friend had suffered a stroke; her colleague had died suddenly...
Undoubtedly, such news is too much, and it is not always a taste in my heart.
People like to hear good news, so the mood will be more pleasant, so people have the habit of "reporting good news and not reporting worry".
Perhaps, friends are conveying the intention of people to be sick, to remind us how important it is to be healthy.
This is normal and correct behavior. But sometimes, we naturally avoid this reality, thinking that if we don't see or listen, we won't get sick.
In fact, this is a kind of cowardly psychology of people. Everyone wants to have a healthy body, and they are afraid of getting sick. Not only afraid, but also afraid to hear about the topic related to illness.
This is also the reason why some people in the group object to others saying that they are sick. However, most people, just by glancing at the news, do nothing. After all, it's not about yourself. If the person who is sick is known to himself, the most he can do is to sigh and give up.
People in the world are like this, if it is not themselves or their own loved ones, they will not have too deep feelings.
As for how much pain you have experienced, in the eyes of others, it has nothing to do with yourself, at most it is just a sigh.
This is a harsh reality.
Without personal experience, people can rarely experience the pain of others.
It's not a question of compassion, it's human nature.
For example, what happened to your own parents or siblings? As a blood-linked relative, you will worry, you will grieve, this is very normal.
But if, without these relatives, when you see that others have something to do, do you have to be as anxious, panicked or overwhelmed as your own relatives?
There won't be. It's true. Because there is a difference between the two. Why do you feel for your loved ones? It's because you're related to them. Without the blood relationship, the degree of concern you will be almost meaningless.
Of course, in addition to blood, there is another relationship that may be closer than blood, that is, the relationship between husband and wife. Although there is no blood relationship between husband and wife, but living together for a long time, and having children as a bond, in fact, it is the same as relatives.
However, couples also have a characteristic, that is, they are relatives when they are good, and they may be enemies when they turn their faces. It's like a celebrity incident that has been making a lot of noise over the past two days because of divorce. Who would have thought that at one time, they would also be an incomparably loving couple!
It's just that we're not the ones involved, and we don't know the truth of the matter. No matter how much we look at it, it is just the identity of a bystander.
How to distinguish between these two people who are right and who is wrong? Hard. Simply because of a person's defense and accusation, it is too one-sided to define who is really wrong.
Therefore, except for the parties, no one can really understand what has happened in their married life in recent years.
Or, right or wrong, is in their own minds. However, in order to get more sympathy for themselves, they did everything in their power to prove their "innocence".
But what does this have to do with others? Marriage or divorce, isn't it their own business? As a melon-eating audience, they are inseparable from each other, and they have nothing to do with our lives.
However, as a party, both parties are indignant and eager to degrade the other party to nothing. How can we, as outsiders, feel their feelings?
So, what you have experienced, what I have experienced, will always be known only to the person concerned.
Say nothing, be a xianglin sister-in-law, others will never experience it. If you don't say it, others won't know; if you say it, others will just wait and see, and they won't be able to share your joys and sorrows.
Having said that, there are still so many "melons" to eat, and there are still so many emotions to pour out.
Or, venting, talking, and accusing are just an outlet. Without this exit, people's emotions cannot be vented. If you hold it for too long, you are also prone to illness.
Think of it this way, or understand it.