Wen | Xiao Kang
On December 15, the internet post said that "Chengdu Wai Chinese Primary School is too rolled, yesterday a class kicked and lost, parents looked for Li Boqing, Ma Mingyu, Wei Qun to shoot a blessing video..." triggered "the school is too rolled, parents post resources" and other discussions. The cover news reporter learned from the primary school concerned that the parents of some children spontaneously recorded this video in order to cheer up the children who lost the ball, and encouraged the children in the class group, without intentionally spreading it to the outside world.
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Children lose a game, parents invite celebrity friends to record videos to comfort, although there is some "adult social" shadow, but it may be for some parents with resources, this is normal, and it is indeed out of a heart for the sake of children.
But some big coffee that has nothing to do with the game and some children don't know, is their comfort effective for children? These are more like the blessing videos shown at the company's annual meeting, the source and display of the social relations of the adult world, whether it is to comfort the children or to reflect the ability of the family, this is easy to confuse, in the field of public opinion will be interpreted.
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What public opinion is more worried about is actually the values that parents export to their children through education. Many netizens believe that when primary school students lose a ball game, parents have to work hard, and such a practice seems to be unable to lose. In other words, in the face of failure, it is actually not calm enough, and it does not really stand in the perspective of children, understand their emotions, but it is very likely to bring the social field into the children's world early.
This in turn makes us think about how to make children accept failure. In the past, teachers often taught that winning or losing is a common thing for soldiers, and although they have worked hard, they will still be honored, and it is better to continue to work hard and win back next time. After all, a life that can only accept success is thin, and failures and lows are necessary links to meet growth and should not be missed.
#Chengdu class lost the game to get the big guy comfort # caused a hot discussion
Such use of social resources to comfort young minds is actually glorifying failure, and it is not advisable. If children are wrapped in all aspects and have not experienced self-reflection after failure, they are more likely to lay hidden dangers for their future lives.
Losing is only a small setback, and there will be even bigger setbacks in the future. How to let children digest life on their own is also worth thinking about. Capable parents always hope that with their own experience and resources, their children can experience less wind and rain. In such a cramming education, parents intervene too much, and children are often absent.
But parents' cognitions, opinions, and beliefs, based on their own life experience, may not be able to keep up with the pace of the times in which children live, and even many times they are very different from the children's own ideas.
Children who lose the game will definitely feel frustrated, but perhaps it is the stimulation of this frustration that motivates them to reflect and desire the next success. Using celebrity videos to soothe this frustration and even encourage another kind of pride, but let the children miss an important lesson in frustration education.
Everyone is not born to know and need someone to show the way, but children will never live exactly the same life as their parents. When they encounter problems that their parents have not encountered, they have no choice but to find a way out for themselves. Then instead of panicking after "picking seedlings to promote growth", it is better to give them space to grow freely as soon as possible.
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Text: Xiao Kang
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