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Recently, a father in Hebei province saw his daughter's "love letter" after the reaction was on the hot search.
After reading the little note, Dad joked:
"Hahaha, you can still receive a small note one day, indicating that you still have something worthy of appreciation!"
Dad's unexpected cute reaction poked at netizens, saying that such a family atmosphere is too good:
To be honest, the dad's reaction really surprised me, because many parents often only blame their children when they encounter this situation.
I know a parent who scolded her daughter some time ago because her daughter wrote "love letters" to her classmates.
The little girl suffered from a serious "communication barrier" in her mother's scolding that "I don't learn well at a young age and don't have a face".
In fact, where is the love letter of an 8-year-old girl true? It may just be a kind of admiration among classmates, but it is treated so roughly by the mother, which deeply hurts the child's self-esteem.
Such a practice will even affect the child's life, including being ashamed to fall in love at the age of love, not daring to confess, and so on...
We do not talk about "erotic" changes to children, only know criticism, reprimand, scolding, parents to do is not to roughly suppress the child's emotional growth, but to lead him to a healthy and positive direction.
Hu Ping, an expert in child education, divides the development of children's love into 3 stages:
Children between the ages of 3 and 6 have begun to experience the emotions of love, some sweet, some painful, lonely, helpless, which is a very important part of their emotional development.
In daily life, they will attract each other through some more childish behaviors such as "playing with the family" and "mischievous", but their cognition still stays in us as the best friends and can play together all the time.
Around the age of 6 to 11, children's expression of love is closer to that of adults, they will hope that two people can have time alone, will send gifts to please each other, and will express their love with words.
Next is adolescence, this stage of children are prone to a wrong view of love, parents should help children understand and manage their emotions, establish a correct view of love.
In the variety show "Teenagers Say", a girl bravely stood on the stage and loudly told her parents and classmates:
"I have someone I like."
She also hesitated before telling the story, whether she should tell her parents about the confusion and feelings when she found this emotion, and after all the entanglements, she still chose to confess to her parents.
What the girl did not expect was that her mother told her that this was a very normal thing:
He definitely has something worth liking and paying attention to, and you will appreciate him and pay attention to him.
Mom hopes that you will keep this beautiful emotion in your heart and take him as your role model and goal, so that in the future, more people will appreciate you and pay attention to you. ”
The mother first tells the child that this is a very normal thing, then affirms the child's emotions, and finally gives her the correct way to deal with it, guiding her to transform this liking into a motivator for active learning.
Doing so is the right thing for a wise parent to do in the face of their child's early love.
If you find that your child has a favorite opposite sex, scolding her regardless of the reason will provoke her rebellion. In the future, when the child encounters anything, he will no longer communicate with his parents.
In the face of children's "emotional" problems, parents can neither roughly interfere, nor can they turn a blind eye, especially now that children are affected by the Internet, games and other aspects, and the "love" information they receive is far beyond our imagination.
Therefore, as a parent, we should give our children the correct guidance in time and actively carry out emotional education.
The purpose of emotional education is to let children distinguish between beauty and ugliness, nobility and meanness in life, teach them how to transform this emotion into strength, motivate themselves to move forward, and help them establish a scientific outlook on life and love.
So, how should we parents face the problem of children's "early love"?
First of all, we must understand that there is a reason for children's early love, and under the influence of some romance novels and film and television dramas, it is difficult for boys and girls who have just opened their hearts to resist this huge temptation.
Therefore, when emotional problems are found, parents should actively communicate with their children and only unblock.
Parents can choose the right time, such as the evening when the child completes the homework, or after dinner, the quiet and pleasant atmosphere can ease the tension between the two sides, have an in-depth conversation with the child, and solve the troubles that the child may encounter, such as learning pressure, dissatisfaction with parents, reasonable appeals, and then talk about love problems.
If the communication is not smooth, it must be stopped in moderation to reduce the occurrence of contradictions.
The warm family environment will make children more assured to share the "little secrets" hidden in the heart with their parents, even if they have a love for the opposite sex, the children will take the initiative to communicate with their parents, and parents will be more aware of the psychological changes of their children.