Beijing Child and Adolescent Psychological Counselor: Parents should pay attention to these problems when educating their children

Many parents always like to scold their children when they do something wrong, "Why are you so stupid?" I said it a few times, you don't remember. "

　　On the surface, this sentence is a manifestation of parents' hatred of iron and steel, which can be forgiven, but in fact, such words cannot help children at all except to vent their dissatisfaction. And such blindly blaming the child will only tell the child that he is not good, so in the long run, the child will become timid and inferior, and encounter obstacles in the process of growth.

　　Therefore, if the child does something wrong, do not deny the child himself, you can tell him that you did it wrong, and do not blame him for what, so that the child can really understand where the mistake is and correct it.

　　Some child psychologists have analyzed that many parents in China have brought them a lot of dissatisfaction when educating their children, but why should children pay for their emotions?

　　In fact, it is likely that anger is only triggered because children do something wrong. Perhaps parents themselves are treated this way at an early age, and some psychologists believe that how a person educates their children is related to their upbringing. As a result, children who have suffered domestic violence from an early age often also commit violence against their children as adults.

　　Therefore, if you really love your child, you should educate him properly. Don't vent your dissatisfaction on your child. Not speaking with a high posture or responsibility, you can try squatting down to talk to your child face-to-face, which will make it easier for your child to accept.

　　Many parents are the child's first teacher, when the child begins to learn, they always repeat it, but the educator aims at the understanding of preschoolers, clearly pointing out that at this stage, children have limited comprehension ability, so try to use simple language, so that children can easier to remember.

　　Many parents often nag when educating their children, but the child's attention span is limited, so the complicated words cannot be understood by the child, so when the child is enlightened, parents try not to say nonsense. When children learn simple common sense, such as colors and numbers, they can tell children concisely and concisely, making them easy to align.

　　Crying is probably normal for all children, so what to do? Guo Lifang, a famous child psychological counselor, pointed out that children before the age of 3 are difficult to control themselves, and there is no rational thinking, reasoning is useless, children crying is a way to vent emotions, when he finishes venting, he will vent.

Guo Lifang, a famous psychological counselor for children and adolescents in Beijing, is a national psychological counselor and family education instructor; he has accumulated rich counseling experience and excellent counseling effects for many years of case counseling. After the integration of humanistic as the center, combined with the adolescent's own school interpersonal, teacher-student, classmate relationship, parent-child relationship, school performance and other comprehensive all-round factors targeted psychological counseling, while giving parents professional guidance on psychological problems encountered in the growth of children, out of a unique and effective counseling path.