Although the life of the ancient people is a long time away from us, because there are written records, many ancient people's things have also been recorded and passed down to today. Among them, the story of Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun has been praised by many people, because in the era of three wives and four concubines, these two people really achieved one life and two people.
But as long as you carefully investigate, you will know that this so-called flawless love story is actually very problematic, and the problem lies in Sima Xiangru. Many people will add a thick layer of filter to Sima Xiangru's talent, but this person is essentially a phoenix man through and through.
He was not born tall, but he married Zhuo Wenjun, a rich lady, and after marrying Zhuo Wenjun, he fell in love with someone else. When his wife wrote a letter to question, he actually returned the poem to accuse his wife, but Zhuo Wenjun was not easy to provoke, and after receiving the reply, he also wrote a poem to him, and it became a song for eternity.
First, know each other and entrust them for life
Ancient people were very particular about social class, not only between good people and untouchables, but also between ordinary people and nobles. But Zhuo Wenjun lived in the Western Han Dynasty, although there were social classes, but people valued a person's talent. If a man is very talented, then there will also be dignitaries who marry their daughters to him.
Although the frequency of this marriage is not high, it can indeed be accepted by the world, and the story of Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru takes place in such a background. First of all, I want to say that Sima Xiangru, although he is very talented, his family is very poor, and because he is very young, he has no fame even if he has a full belly.
At the same time, because that dynasty did not yet have a system of imperial examinations, no matter how talented he was, he could not enter the army and become an official, unless someone recommended him. The person who can be recommended must be a high-ranking official and nobleman, who has no fame, no money and family lineage, so it is basically impossible to become an official through this road.
Just when he was worried, his good friend gave him an idea, since he had no fame, he should create fame for himself. This was indeed a method, and although his friend's official position was not high, he was an official, so after making up his mind, he ordered someone to spread the news that Sima Xiangru was a great talent.
It is estimated that people of that era did not use such a move, and Sima Xiangru's reputation soon spread. And Sima Xiangru himself is also very talented, so many people who come to see his talent have indeed seen his talent, and he has become a distinguished guest for many people to set up banquets.
One day he was invited to Zhuo Wenjun's home, and he was praised by many people for his free swing, but the two did not meet, but this famous talent was remembered by Zhuo Wenjun. Later, the two met at a poetry meeting and were immediately attracted to each other.
In Zhuo Wenjun's eyes, Sima Xiangru was as talented as rumored, and Sima Xiangru had never seen such a knowledgeable woman. The two soon fell in love, but before the two established a relationship, Zhuo Wenjun also told Sima Xiangru about his marriage, and he also said that he did not care.
Second, the father did not allow it, and chose to elope
In Zhuo Wenjun's view, Sima Xiangru accepted that she had once married someone, and the biggest obstacle between them disappeared, but she did not expect that this marriage was strongly opposed by her father. In her father's eyes, although Sima Xiangru was very talented, he had neither an official position nor a family background, and such a person could not really be regarded as a good match.
But Zhuo Wenjun was already deeply in love with Sima Xiangru at this time, so she could not listen to a word from her father,and her father had always maintained an attitude of opposition to this marriage. Zhuo Wenjun did not hesitate any longer when he saw the situation, and chose Sima Xiangru to elope. The elopement of the two people also greatly angered Zhuo Wenjun's father, and he announced in public that he would have nothing to do with Zhuo Wenjun in the future.
Zhuo Wenjun did not care about his father's attitude, and after the two eloped, they did not live a secluded life like in other stories, but opened a shop in the local area with a big wave. However, because Zhuo Wenjun's funds are limited in the end, the store they rent is not large.
The former Miss Qianjin was reduced to the matter of showing her face to do business, and Zhuo Father was distressed and felt very humiliated at the same time. However, the people around him were very distressed about Zhuo Wenjun's suffering, and they came to persuade Zhuo Wenjun, hoping that he could forgive Zhuo Wenjun, after all, everyone had already married, and if they were still grumpy, it was Zhuo Wenjun who suffered.
Zhuo's father was originally distressed about his daughter, and when he heard this, he immediately ordered someone to send a lot of money, which also meant that he recognized Sima Xiangru as his son-in-law. Sima Xiangru was already very talented, and with the recommendation of Zhuo's father, he was quickly appreciated by the emperor.
Third, the lover is empathetic, and the talented woman writes poetry
After being appreciated by the emperor, he naturally had a smooth sailing in the official arena, but in the process of a business trip, he developed a love for a woman. Having been with his wife for many years, he suddenly felt that although his wife was very knowledgeable, she was not gentle enough. After the change of heart, he did not hide it, but wrote a poem to his wife.
In the poem, there are numbers ranging from one to ten million, except for the absence of "billion", which is a hint to the wife that he has no affection for her. After Zhuo Wenjun saw the poem, she immediately understood her husband's meaning, and she quickly returned a digital poem to her husband. In the poem, she not only uses numbers appropriately, but also tells her own love, and hopes that her husband can think differently after reading it.
After sending the letter out, she suddenly recalled her own efforts for Sima Xiangru, her efforts to exchange for her husband's abandonment, and in addition to her grief, she wrote "Bai Tou Yin" and "Tips", which are two poems. In the first poem, after expressing her dissatisfaction with her husband, she also expresses her beautiful expectations for love.
The poem expresses her beautiful expectations for love: "May the heart of one person be won, and the white head is not separated", this poem has also become a famous sentence in later generations, and posterity often uses this poem to express their hearts. After expressing her good expectations, she firmly said in the "Farewell Book" that since her husband had no affection for her, she did not have to be nostalgic.
Although she expressed her determination to separate, she also expressed in the poem that she is still full of affection for her husband, and the most touching of which is "try to eat and do not think of concubines". Obviously, her husband had failed her so badly, but she was still worried about her husband's future life.
After Reading it, Sima Xiangru was also touched by his wife's affection, and after thinking about it, he decided to separate from the woman. After separating, he never liked others again, and finally achieved what his wife hoped: "Wish to win the hearts of one person, and the white head is not separated." ”
IV. Conclusion
Many people will scold Sima Xiang for being chaotic and abandoned after reading this story, but after reading the story, we should have a deeper level of thinking. In a relationship, there will definitely be a variety of such problems, among which many women are most angry, that is, the other half of the infidelity to the feelings, but as a woman, you also need to know that it is difficult to love someone all the time.
In the emotional life, both men and women will have the possibility of liking their partners, which is very normal, but when they find that they like others, they must think carefully about what they should do next.
Before making a decision, you need to consider your responsibility for the other half, if you are married, you need to know that you are responsible for the marriage, if you are only in love, you also need to be responsible for the feelings of the other half. Feelings are really a university question, but the ancients can also give us reference to a certain extent.