When people reach middle age, it is like climbing over a hill, they cannot relax their strength, and there is no way to retreat.
I can only grit my teeth and desperately move forward.
Busy and tired, as long as someone loves, has something to do, has a little money, and is tired and tired, it is worth it.
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When people reach middle age, having a lover is happiness.
Middle-aged people, it seems that it is not suitable for talking about love.
What color is love? What is it like to be in love? For middle-aged people who are tired of running for their lives, it is really an "awkward chat" topic.
Different from the love of young people, it is you and me, it is the wind and snow. The love of middle-aged people is an incomparably realistic division of labor and cooperation, making money to support the family.
This lover, who stands in the same "trench" as himself, has increasingly become the closest "comrade-in-arms" and the most reliable "partner".
As the host Yang Lan said:
The bond of marriage, not children, not money, but about the common growth of the spirit, in the most helpless and weak time, there is he (she) to hold up your chin, straighten your backbone, make you strong, and accompany you around, bear the fate together, at that time, in addition to love, there is also the righteousness of the liver and gallbladder, the tacit understanding of not abandoning, the growth of common nurture, and the unforgettable kindness.
When a middle-aged person has a deep resonance with this passage, he has actually learned to cherish it. They understand that the lover around them who is out of shape and has changed his temperament greatly, as long as his sense of responsibility for this family has not changed, it is worth his love and sincerity as always.
In fact, in life, there is no shortage of such small luck:
The husband, who never cares about chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea on weekdays, suddenly took out the real estate certificate in the city and said lightly that this is an adult gift for the child
The wife, who is accustomed to broken thoughts, will always remember to prepare a hearty meal and speak softly on a special day that belongs to two people.
Happiness is hidden in the bits and pieces of trivial life, as the writer Bi Shumin said in "Reminding Happiness": "Happiness is a piece of cake that bubbles in poverty, and happiness is a look in the heart of the center of suffering." ”
Because there is a lover who does not abandon, all the ups and downs in life will pass, reflected in front of the eyes, is a brilliant rainbow.
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When people reach middle age, there is something to do, which is happiness.
Life is not a beautiful fairy tale drama, the protagonists are princes and princesses, and they live a carefree life.
When people reach middle age, regardless of whether they were once young girls who "did not touch the spring water of the sun with five fingers" or the wind-chasing teenagers who dreamed of "fighting swords and going to the end of the world", they had to rush for the livelihood of "three meals a day" and bear the burden of humiliation for the future of promotion and salary increase.
In the early years, I interned at a magazine company after switching careers from the teaching department, and every day I was either interviewing or writing, and my colleagues sitting across from me were just as busy. We often rarely even look up and say hello to each other. As for the window, when the tall camphor tree was changed into a new green outfit and when the leaves fell, we always had hindsight.
At that time, the person in charge of our two "recruits", in order to let us enter the role as soon as possible, after the daily submission, he let us stand on both sides of him like a primary school student and give us a comment. From the idea of the topic, to the layout of the article, to the creation of words and sentences, it is eloquent.
The days when I didn't work overtime day and night was a nightmare for us. But the drivers of the magazine often cast envious glances at us, and always said to us: "It's good to have something to do!" ”
At that time, he was also almost fifty years old, and had been a driver in the magazine for more than thirty years. The new leader thought he was too old, for a whole year, and wouldn't let him drive.
He had nothing to do, and he often counted exactly how many sparrows there were every day on the old camphor tree outside the window, and the idleness made him feel panicked.
In order to reflect the value of his existence, he took the initiative to take over the cleaning of the office building, the management of water and electricity and other chores, and became more and more thoughtful and kind to the leaders and colleagues, and finally, he was able to renew the labor contract and keep his job.
A writer once said, "People often think that idleness is happiness." In fact, idleness is the waste and atrophy of life force. Occasionally there is a chance to relax in the midst of busyness, that is, rest, but also harvest and enjoyment. But regular idleness is the rigidity of life, and what is felt is not idleness, but depression. ”
Therefore, middle-aged people, have something to do, busy, in order to make themselves live more steadily.
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When people reach middle age and have savings, they can be fearless and fearless.
Money is not omnipotent, but without money it is impossible.
From ancient times to the present, nothing can be done.
Sima Xiangru was a great talent in the Western Han Dynasty, and before he became famous and became a family, his family was actually very poor. However, he was appreciated by the county order, and under the matchmaking of the county order, he played two pieces of music at the banquet at the home of the rich merchant Zhuo Wangsun, and his superb skills and a table of talents immediately captured the heart of Zhuo Wenjun, the daughter of Zhuo Wangsun.
Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiang eloped overnight, which is "Qin Pick Wenjun".
However, sweet love could not fill his stomach, and in the face of Sima Xiangru's shyness, Zhuo Wenjun first had to pawn his own clothes and jewelry, and then opened a tavern. This has the allusion of "Wenjun Dangyuan, like a polyester vessel".
In the face of the realistic problem of life, money is the best antidote.
As in the highly praised answer to "why make money":
Work hard to make money, not because you love money! But in this life, I don't want to be inferior to anyone because of money, nor do I want to embarrass anyone because of money; I only hope that when my parents are old, I can have the ability to share; when the child needs it, don't let him down.
A person has the ability to make money, so that he will not panic, and he has a long-term stream of savings, so that he is not afraid of every day in the future.
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Conclusion:
When people reach middle age, don't sigh, don't get depressed.
Life always has to be bitter for a while, so that it will not be bitter for a lifetime.
Along the way, if someone loves, has something to do, and has spare money, they must be grateful, they must be content, and they must continue to stride forward bravely.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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