The netizen letter said:
After graduating from college, I did not return to my hometown to find a job, nor did I find a relatively stable job through campus recruitment, but I started my own business. My thoughts at that time were: back to my hometown, the employment opportunities are more limited; finding a stable job in the school city, I can't afford to buy a house in my lifetime, and it will be difficult to marry a daughter-in-law; I will either succeed on my own, even if I fail, it is not a big deal to go back and forth from where.
I probably didn't have the worries of losing, so I started out as a cold drink shop and later had my own restaurant. During this time, I bought a house and a car, and married my wife. Maybe the people were a little greedy, so much so that I wanted to do a bigger business later, so I chose to cross borders, and in the end, I lost completely. In this case, my wife ran away with someone, and my former friends kept me away, and even the relatives in my hometown who had received my favor began to dislike me.
Just when I was in despair, my wife's former sister firmly came together with me, because her family was well-off, so, with her help, I got the opportunity to make a comeback, and in exchange for the effect of a successful career. At this time, my wife came back to me to remarry, my former friends began to get close to me again, and my relatives who had once disliked me began to flatter me in front of me. However, I have clearly defined these things. Now, I just want to run our happy life well with my current girlfriend, the girlfriend my wife used to be.
Tell me about my wife's girlfriend: In fact, we met first, at that time, she expressed her liking to me, but I did not call her, and after I married my wife, I introduced them to each other and became good friends. Over the years, she has also tried to contact other boys, but she has not met both parties who are satisfied.
Although in the new relationship, my gratitude to my girlfriend is greater than the emotional factor, but I have experienced ups and downs after all, so I know better what kind of people are more worthy of my cherishing. In the future life, as long as my girlfriend does not fail me, I will not fail her.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
From a secular point of view: a woman with a solid family can marry a poor man, and can only really like, of course, your current girlfriend also fully believes that after she helps you through the difficulties, you are still a good man. During the period, because you have experienced great ups and downs, you will understand that when you are poor, love, friendship, and family affection will show too cruel truth. So that people like you will have this idea: except parents, lovers, children, nothing else is reliable.
Once upon a time, your view of marriage and love was like this: try to make money yourself, fight for a good life for yourself, and marry a girl you like. In fact, you once dreamed of shining into reality: your ex-wife was the girl you liked. However, you only know that this girl can share happiness with you, but you don't know whether this girl will share your suffering. It's just that, after you've gone through the downfalls of your career, you've found the answer.
At this time, your current girlfriend can help you, in addition to her love for you, but also because she has the strength to help you. However, there is another phenomenon in life, where there is more than enough and not enough. Therefore, life will indeed encounter some helplessness, at this time, you can only control the scope of the control, let things develop in a better direction.
After all, you are lucky, after graduating from college, with a brute force, let yourself taste the sweetness of a successful career; in a more depressed time, your current girlfriend extended a helping hand to you in time. But don't forget the real reason for your career failure: the desire to be richer.
I remember one thing: I have been doing self-media for nearly twenty years, during which time friends and relatives around me also know. Maybe they think I can code words, so the content of the meeting, the content of the children's papers will come to me. At this time, I will also hehe. My reply to them was: I can't write. Their perception is: I don't want to help. In addition, now that short videos are relatively hot, I still haven't dabbled in them. To this end, I would like to say that sometimes cross-border operations are really not so simple. I'm not signaling to you to settle for the status quo. At the very least, when you want to get into a certain field, have a good understanding of the field. Because when doing big business, it is certainly not enough to have money, no wisdom, and rely on brute force. Because every industry has its own rules. It can also be said that there is no diamond diamond, do not take porcelain work.
There are many people who have changed careers to success in life, but there are very few people who blindly transform and eventually succeed. Therefore, in the future, when doing things, try to have some careful deployment, rather than thinking that it is a place.
Those who have experienced the good and bad things have passed, sometimes, do not be too resentful of the loss and let go of them, after all, this special experience has helped you recognize many people, and learn to think about some things, especially in your most difficult time, there can be someone to help you get through the difficulties, then, after the new life, you will inevitably be reborn.
Once, when you weren't going through a downfall, you would have felt that your ex-wife was much better than your current girlfriend, and now you certainly won't think that way anymore.
Warm tips: feelings are a two-way choice, so you also need to give your current girlfriend some time to understand you, after a year, if your feelings are still very stable, then, you have to find a time to propose to each other; if in the run-in process, she will feel that you are not suitable together, and propose to you to break up, at this time please do not entangle, do not remember hate, but rationally let her go, and remember her kindness to you, when she needs you to give back.
Editor's Note:
Sometimes, we want to be close to some people, not to get love, but to become friends with each other, but find that the other party is not willing to let you get too close to him. At this time, don't blame the other party for being too defensive, maybe the other party has experienced a big opening and closing, and it doesn't matter to the friendship part. A phrase about friends, often heard, there are no eternal friends, only eternal interests. Most of the time, friendships are presented in this way, but it does not seem to be entirely true in a very small number of people. Because there will still be some lifelong friendships in life.
In your own more difficult times, those who leave you, even if they come back to you one day, do not want it. Because these people, at least, don't show a posture of common suffering here. This means that they are not dealing with you with their hearts at all. Of course, we do not need to show high coldness in life, and perhaps getting by on the face is also an attitude to deal with interpersonal relationships. It's just that those who have a heart to heart with you, you must not easily fail.
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