There are many kinds of feelings between people, friendship, affection, love and so on. When we talk about the love between the White Snake and Xu Xian, we also said that a thousand years of cultivation can be crossed by the same boat, and a hundred years of cultivation can sleep together.
In the middle of a sea of people, it is a great thing to be able to fall in love and get married smoothly. But the curiosity and impulse of the thunder and the fire of the earth when men and women meet each other, sooner or later there will be a day when time will be worn out.
When the initial impulse to love ceases to exist, what can sustain the marriage is to froth, mutual understanding and common language.
Many couples can't do this, so there is the idiom of the seven-year itch.
It is often said that marriage is the graveyard of love, and it is easier for couples to be exhausted by chicken feathers after marriage
。 But the protagonist of this article, Chang Shuhong, has other reasons for the failure of his marriage to his first wife.
We know Chang Shuhong because he was a conservator of cultural relics in Dunhuang, and his family was in crisis because of Dunhuang.
Because of personal pursuits, Chang Shuhong neglected to take care of his family. When his career and family suffered a double blow, how Chang Shuhong came to be, and what enlightenment did his two marriages give us.
Study in France and immerse yourself in art
Chang Shuhong was born in 1904 as an authentic Manchu. During the Xinhai Revolution, he and his family fled for a period of time because they were the object of the crusade.
Chang Shuhong's father was a patriotic entrepreneur, and in that era of being bullied, Chang Shuhong's father insisted that only industry could save the country, so he took a tough attitude and asked Chang Shuhong to apply for industry-related majors and schools.
Chang Shu Hongzhi is not here, he has a strong interest in fine art painting since he was a child,
He did not want to follow the path his father chose in life, but under persecution, Chang Shuhong could only retreat and choose dyeing.
During the period of learning dyeing and weaving, Chang Shuhong still did not forget his love of art. He used his spare time to study art and actively participated in painting clubs sponsored by famous painters of the time.
Finally, with the in-depth understanding of painting, Chang Shuhong felt that he was becoming more and more of a frog at the bottom of the well. He decided to study fine arts in France, the fashion capital of the world.
Naturally, such an idea was opposed by his father, who believed that Chang Shuhong was doing this without doing the right thing. But Chang Shuhong was unusually insistent, because of his son's intransigence,
Chang Father finally relaxed, so Chang Shuhong had this opportunity to stay in the Ocean.
After arriving in France,
It is imperative to study French and apply to French art universities
。 It is said that interest is the best teacher, and in just one year, Chang Shuhong can speak fluent French and converse normally with local residents.
In applying to universities,
Chang Shuhong was very successfully admitted to the University of Lyon and France, which made Chang Shuhong's study abroad career much easier, and after graduation, due to excellent results, Chang Shuhong was able to continue his studies with a scholarship.
In just a few years, Chang Shuhong grew up rapidly.
Green plum bamboo horse, a match made in heaven
The first half of Chang Shuhong's life was smooth and proud, he was well fed and clothed in terms of living materials, and successfully developed his hobby into a career in his career.
Not only that, chang Shuhong when he was a teenager also ushered in a lover with his own green plum bamboo horse.
Chen Zhixiu is a little girl adopted by Aunt Chang Shuhong
。 After she came to live in the Chang family, Chang Shuhong took good care of this strange cousin.
Chen Xiuzhi is influenced by traditional education and Western education, and she has both the gentle knowledge and dali of everyone's boudoir and the boldness of a new-style woman. Coupled with Chen Xiuzhi's good looks, this made Chang Shuhong can't help but be moved.
Chang Shuhong's appearance and family talent are all good, and in the face of his pursuit, Chen Xiuzhi soon fell. The two men naturally came together.
At that time, Chang Shuhong's family also introduced Chang Shuhong to the blind date, but after seeing Chen Xiuzhi and Chang Shuhong talk about love, the family did not have too much opposition, and they were happy to enjoy this matter.
Chen Xiuzhi and Chang Shuhong soon held a wedding ceremony under the control of their relatives.
After marriage, Chang Shuhong proposed it
beat
The idea of studying in France, as his wife, Chen Xiuzhi naturally had to go with her husband.
During the couple's joint study in France, the customs and customs of France deeply influenced and changed the way of life of the two people.
Chen Xiuzhi also danced and socialized like French women. Chang Shuhong found a lot of creative inspiration in his wife.
Academically, Chen Xiuzhi is majoring in sculpture, which is similar to Chang Shuhong's oil painting. The two swim together in the ocean of art.
The husband and wife who have a common pursuit of art have endless words every day, and in the eyes of outsiders, this is a typical pair of fairy lovers, which is very enviable.
The newspaper was divorced and the old age was bleak
By chance, Chang Shuhong browsed a picture book
All the cultural relics published on it are from Dunhuang, China, but due to the war, these cultural relics have been abducted by foreign countries and forced to live in a foreign country.
Chang Shuhong was first shocked by the artistic achievements of Dunhuang cultural relics, and then regretted. afterward
Chang Shuhong decided to return to the motherland and go to Dunhuang to engage in cultural relics protection.
Chen Xiuzhi persuaded her husband not to move
Although she did not want to leave France, she came to Dunhuang with Chang Shuhong.
The yellow sand in the sky replaces the lights and greenery of France, and Chen Xiuzhi loves beauty, so even if the wind and sand are full of sand, she still maintains the habit of wearing a cheongsam and high heels.
This made the isolated locals gossip a lot about the couple.
With the increasing workload of Chang Shuhong, he also neglected to take care of his family more and more, and the sharp decline in material life made Chen Xiuzhi feel panicked and confused.
At this time, a man named Zhao Zhongqing walked into their lives.
Zhao Zhongqing was a student of Chang Shuhong and was also personable
。 When Chen Xiuzhi was lonely, Zhao Zhongqing often entered the teacher's home to comfort her.
Gradually, Chen Xiuzhi fell in love with Zhao Zhongqing, and she hoped that Zhao Zhongqing could take her away. The two men made an excuse to see a doctor and both eloped.
Chang Shuhong knew about this and rushed to ride a horse, hoping to find his wife and make her change her mind. But Ma zhiyumen also did not have a wife.
The next time I received news from my wife, I saw the news in the newspaper that Chen Xiuzhi had publicly severed her relationship with herself and divorced her.
This made Chang Shuhong discouraged, and he had to devote himself to his work to soothe the pain.
Chen Xiuzhi did not expect that Zhao Zhongqing, who had recently eloped with her, would go to prison and die for political reasons. Chen Xiuzhi, who has lost her source of livelihood, is forced to marry a worker, and the evening is desolate and only relies on her daughter's relief
whereas
Chang Shuhong, because of his outstanding contribution to Dunhuang cultural relics, is known as the protector of Dunhuang,
He also met lovers who really understood him and supported his work all their lives.
In her later years, Chen Xiuzhi watched Chang Shuhong's news, and she was very sorry for her selfish actions.
Whether a marriage can go on for a long time, whether the husband and wife can progress together, and it is very important to find a common language.
The failure of Chang Shuhong and Chen Xiuzhi's marriage is due to the discord between the two people's opinions. The three views are appropriate, the like-minded are like-minded, and only when each other is a spiritual matching partner, can the marriage go on for a long time.
And sometimes, the change of life's destiny is often between a thought, so every choice you make must be cautious and careful.