Whether in the past or now, "door-to-door" is often mentioned, but a marriage is only the economic basis of both parties is equal, and it does not mean that the marriage is complete. The family style, family training, spiritual cultivation and emotional dedication of both sides should also be "door to door".
The daughter ran away from home
Zhou Li (pseudonym), who lives in Yueyang, Hunan Province, has recently been overwhelmed by his daughter's lifelong events.
His daughter Xiaotong (pseudonym), who graduated from college, actually eloped with a poor boy who graduated from junior high school, which made him unacceptable, and what made him even more unacceptable was that his daughter now wanted to break off relations with Zhou Li for this man.
So where is Xiaotong now? What did Zhou Li do to keep Xiao Tong from contacting his family?
In a high-end neighborhood in Yueyang, the reporter came to Zhou Li's home, and Zhou Li said: Her daughter is now determined to marry that man, and she would rather break off the father-daughter relationship with me than separate them.
Zhou Li was not against his daughter being with that poor boy, but as long as that man's life could be lived, I would not stop her, but it was clear that his life was not good, how could I bear to watch my daughter suffer in the past?
The daughter has not called home for half a year, and has not even returned during the New Year, which makes Zhou Li, a father, both worried and anxious.
Zhou Li is 49 years old this year, engaged in engineering construction related work for nearly thirty years, living a rich life and a harmonious family, but xiaotong, a daughter who has been obedient and sensible recently, has a big change of temperament and actually runs away from home.
So why did Zhou Li oppose his daughter's love affair?
At first, Xiaotong told his father that he had talked about a boyfriend, and his father said that he was very happy after hearing it, and then the two sat together, and Xiaotong introduced himself to his father.
He also said that the man's home had a house in the town, and he was still outside doing business with others, etc., in short, the man's condition was not bad. However, the fact that Zhou Li learned after that was not the case.
Zhou Li has two sons and a daughter, from childhood to adulthood, he regards his daughter as a pearl in his hand, the treatment at home is also the best of the three children, and the education investment in high school and university is as much as 300,000 yuan.
What he never expected was that his daughter was now willing to be with a junior high school graduate, and the man still had no place to live, so where could Xiaotong and her boyfriend be now?
Subsequently, the reporter followed Zhou Li to the vicinity of a courier station, in an idle storage room, the reporter saw XiaoTong, the room was very stuffy, there was no air conditioning and no electric lights, only a small fan was rotating there.
Neither father nor daughter spoke, and Zhou Li's heart was full of bitterness when he saw that his daughter, who had been pampered since childhood, was willing to suffer outside. Next door, the reporter met Xiaotong's boyfriend Li Chengyi (pseudonym).
When Li Chengyi saw Zhou Li, he went forward and called out "Dad", but Zhou Li did not respond, looking a little embarrassed. Li Chengyi then said that the two were already engaged at the beginning of the year and planned to officially hold the wedding in January next year.
Hearing Li Chengyi's statement, Zhou Li immediately interrupted him: "Our whole family has been deceived by you, and conditions like yours simply cannot meet my requirements, and the engagement cannot be counted." ”
When hearing about the engagement, the reporter found that Zhou Li knew about this matter, and Zhou Li told the reporter: "In January this year, the two were officially engaged, and a grand engagement banquet was held. ”
In fact, Li Chengyi's house has not yet been bought, the car is not as full as said before, the work is unstable, and the most unacceptable thing for Zhou Li is that Li Chengyi, 32 years old this year, even borrowed 100,000 yuan from the engagement banquet. He felt that such a man could not give his daughter happiness.
Li Chengyi, from a rural village in Hubei Province, began working after graduating from junior high school, and now runs a post station, and there are parents in his hometown who are nearly 70 years old, and there are no relatives to rely on. Zhou Li saw no hope in Li Chengyi.
Hearing such a statement, Li Chengyi hurriedly explained: It is only now operating here for less than a month, and it takes more than half a year to see the benefits. According to the current situation, the monthly income can reach 6500 yuan.
Li Chengyi said that he used to work in educational institutions in Beijing and Henan, and his work was decent, so he came here to open a station in order to meet the requirements of his girlfriend's parents.
Seeing his father's strong opposition, Xiao Tong was also in tears on the side, and said: The two are fate together, and they can also see the efforts of their boyfriends, they do not care about each other's economic conditions, and value the character of this person.
Li Chengyi saw that his girlfriend was full of grievances, and also expressed his sincerity in front of the two elders, hoping that the elders could fulfill their relationship.
Zhou Li couldn't listen to a word of Li Chengyi's words, because he felt that it was precisely because of Li Chengyi's rhetoric that he seduced his daughter who had just entered society, and the daughter who had no social experience was too one-sided, and he did not allow anyone to deceive her daughter with any excuse.
Xiao Tong has been a well-behaved woman since she was a child, from childhood to adulthood, she listens to the words of her elders, and this abnormal approach makes Zhou Li angry and threatens her daughter by severing her relationship.
Is the father's desire for control too strong? Or is the daughter really seduced?
Li Chengyi's station has just opened for less than a month, working more than 12 hours a day, here, the reporter saw simple shelves and express delivery, and cooking pots and bowls, and a cat adopted by the two.
In addition to these things, there was nothing left, originally the two lived in Zhou Li's house, but after learning the real situation, they did not allow him to live, and they never expected that their daughter would also come out with him. For more than half a month, the two had no place to live.
Li Chengyi and Xiao Tong met when they were working in Beijing, from the first time they met, Li Chengyi fell in love with his girlfriend, and now he let his girlfriend come out with him to suffer, and his psychology was full of guilt.
He also knows that the financial conditions of his girlfriend and his girlfriend are very different, but he is still very reluctant to let him give up. He also hoped that the reporter could help persuade Zhou Li. Fulfill the feelings between the two people.
Zhou Li is doing engineering infrastructure, now there are two houses in the city, in his hometown is about to spend millions to build a two-story villa, his hard work is to create good living conditions for his children, but now his daughter herself insists on taking a road that cannot see the future, very cold.
Zhou Li once went to Li Chengyi's hometown, and when he saw the scene along the road along the way, he was very worried. After getting off the highway for twenty or thirty minutes, it was all mountain roads, and he was only 50 years old, and Li Chengyi's parents were more than 70 years old, and they felt that the ideological concepts between the two sides were relatively different, and they were worried that their daughters would have more contradictions in life when they married.
The daughter went home to show her attitude to her father
In the afternoon, Xiaotong returned home alone and made his position clear to his father: he would never give up on this relationship. At this time, the father also took out Li Chengyi's chat records.
Although Li Chengyi's tone is humble, this is also the place where Zhou Li should respond the most. My daughter has been out with him for more than half a month, and now she is still staying in the hotel every day, feeling that this young man does not know how to plan, not only is the current conditions worrying, but there is no hope for the future.
In Xiao Tong's view, he and his boyfriend let his father's face hang up, so his father opposed the two being together. The daughters of Zhou Li's friends around him are all married to the right door, and Li Chengyi is indeed slightly shabby in it.
Zhou Li did not object so much at first, but after the Dragon Boat Festival, the man's family's approach to etiquette really angered him, and he was even more certain that the two families were not the same person.
Xiao Tong feels that after two years of getting along, she is sure to meet the right person, although the economic foundation of the two is weak now, but in love, each other's innermost is the most important. During the relationship, the boyfriend always cares for himself, is diligent at work, and the beauty of love deeply attracts this girl.
Now That Xiao Tong is 26 years old, her decision to get married is also well thought out, and in her impression, this is what love should look like, and she will never give up this relationship. So on the one hand is family affection, on the other hand is love, how should she choose?
Xiao Tong felt that as long as the economy improved, seeing the efforts of the two, her parents would definitely approve of her choice, and she had long planned for the future.
Xiao Tong came to the downstairs of a certain community, opened the map and searched for a real estate, which showed that the nearby real estate house price was about 7,000 yuan and a flat.
It turned out that she and her boyfriend had already looked at the house in the city, found a real estate with a good environment, about 100 square meters, and hoped that at the end of the year, they could pay the down payment and give themselves and their father an explanation.
Then his father rushed to the station, and Li Chengyi said that he would do his best in his career and feelings, as to whether to give up this relationship, it mainly depends on the attitude of his girlfriend.
Zhou Li questioned at this time, with Li Chengyi's current economic conditions, the two people can not pay the down payment of the house in a short period of time, even if they buy a house, they will be in debt, Zhou Li did not give Li Chengyi the opportunity to speak, and then left.
- The two parties came to the neighborhood committee to mediate. The mediator believes that although Li Chengyi is diligent, he does not know how to persevere, nor does he choose to continue to improve his ability, resulting in not continuing now and having no fixed place to live.
And Zhou Li himself is also a self-made, before the age of 30 has bought a house and married, the career is getting bigger and bigger, in his cognition, Li Chengyi should achieve wealth freedom and career stability at this age. But times have changed, and it is not possible to generalize.
The mediator then tested Xiao Tong and Li Chengyi on the painting. Through this psychological test, the mediator suggested giving Lee some chances to continue his career.
In the case of Xiaotong, the mediator found that Xiaotong had been psychologically traumatized before. Xiao Tong also said that she had a very unpleasant relationship before, and after she was hurt, she met Li Chengyi and once again lit up new hopes.
She is very grateful for Li Chengyi's company, so this time she does not care about her boyfriend's economic conditions, but also cares more about the warmth in front of her.
For such a long time, his father and boyfriend have given Xiao Tong a lot of pressure, and Xiao Tong, who is sandwiched in the middle, has no previous vitality, which makes Zhou Li see that he is very distressed.
Under the mediation of the mediator, Zhou Li promised to give Li Chengyi a period of time to see if Li Chengyi could make some achievements, and Xiao Tong was also ready to regain his spirit to find a job.
Parents who love their children will live far for them.