A girl came to me crying, about a boyfriend who had been talking for a few years broke up and asked me to see how to get back together. This girl I don't call Leaf, Cancer
She has been with her ex for several years, the two have long lived together, the ex is a Leo, almost the best girlfriend in everyone's mind, usually goes out to work, clean up at home on holidays, do laundry, cook, feed the dog, walk the dog, be frugal and simple, remember the birthday of the boy's parents, and will regularly prepare gifts for the boy's parents, never spend money indiscriminately. Boys are usually good to her, and they should have emotional value, usually buy gifts, save meetings, and are also generous. She vaguely proposed to get married, but the boy avoided talking about it, and the timing was not suitable to delay, then she felt that the boy's current career was not very mature, and he could wait, anyway, the relationship was stable, life was dull, the two sides had almost passed the clear road, the boy was her person, and when she thought her life would come to marriage like this, there was a crisis in the relationship.
A female nobleman (said to be a nobleman, in short, in my understanding is to fancy a man) in the boy's career to give resources, projects, lists, the boy has made a lot of money in a short period of time, and has been promoted to manager for a period of time, and the money to buy gifts for her is getting more and more generous, from her point of view, this is a signal that good things are approaching, and she is also looking forward to when she will propose marriage.
She didn't wait for the proposal, she waited for the breakup. After giving her several expensive gifts in a row, the boy filed for a breakup one weekend because of personality incompatibility. She cried all the time, thinking it was fake, so she questioned where the personality was incompatible, the boy didn't say much, so he said goodbye, moved out of their former home, didn't ask for the dog they had together, and didn't even take a few more clothes. The parents of the boy she used to really treat only called and asked a few words when they first learned about the separation, and then never heard from again.
She cried for me, eggshell eggshell, what the hell is going on?
I helped her see [Explore the True Heart Card Array]
The answer is that the boy has already split his legs. When the boy met the noblewoman, he was no longer willing to live this dull life with her, the other party could provide more help in his career and family, and he had communicated with his family about this, and the family knew that his relationship with the noblewoman had developed for a year, and he was hiding from her, the boy enjoyed her goodness to him, while generously developing with the noblewoman on the grounds of work, in order to gag her mouth in the breakup, he spent some money to buy gifts, in order to one day separate, Afraid of her entanglement.
After Ye Zi read it, the whole collapse, she couldn't accept this result, and repeatedly questioned my results, then after asking someone and investigating in all aspects, she admitted that this matter was true.
She didn't die, and asked the two people if there was really no result? So I looked at [Composite Combination] then the result of the combination is not so good, the reason is that what the boy wants from the beginning is to be able to help his woman in money and career, the boy is very career-minded, and the pressure from the original family is too great, his ambition is also strong and knows how to be motivated, then the partner he hopes for is not the type of leaf from the beginning.
Ye Zi cried, then since this is the case, why waste so much of her time, why didn't she say it earlier?
I was silent, judging from the joint plate, did not say it earlier, of course, because, he did not find the right person, if you said it earlier, how could you serve for so many years like a nanny?
Finally, she said: "I was so good to him, he actually abandoned me." ”
Eggshell said, good to people, this matter must depend on the object, in fact, in many people's mental effort, to measure whether a woman can be a wife, are measured by the standard of a good wife and a good mother, but in fact it is not the same thing, this standard greatly hurts women, pleases men, and has a PUA nature, then whether two people can live for a long time, does not depend on whether you are virtuous, but in what kind of emotional model the other party needs, and what emotional model you can provide, and whether the two parties really match.
Like leaves, Leo boys themselves need not the emotions of Cancer's leaf virtuous wife and mother model, he needs a partner who can accompany him through thorns and help him upgrade and fight monsters, but the leaves are good for him as a good wife and mother, and this mismatch leads to the inability of the two to go on for a long time, because this good, for men, is poison, arsenic in the greenhouse. He will flee, then this boy does not have much responsibility, so he does not talk away.
In fact, in my opinion, boys should have shown signs of splitting their legs, but Yezi, thinking that she had paid enough, thought that she could be long-term, so she didn't see it, she ignored it, and separation was inevitable.