The little girl who goes to work and chats, whose parents are also in Tokyo, but she goes to live with her boyfriend. She works every month to get sixty or seventy thousand, his boyfriend takes one hundred thousand, the two together every month sixteen or seventy thousand, rent sixty thousand, water grid twenty or thirty thousand, commuting 10,000 or 20,000, the rest of the meal to make up. My colleagues and I both feel that this love talk is really humiliating, and this man really can't do it.
As a result, the little girl has been explaining to the object, saying that they have a good relationship except for money, and usually they don't spend anything. I asked her, then he will not spend money on you, but also want you to bear it together, let alone buy things for you, and then look at the normal people's small objects, go out to play and buy gifts every New Year's Festival, you tell me that you don't have a little feeling in your heart?
The little girl stopped squeaking, and then everyone was trying to persuade her, and finally she wiped her tears a little, and her mouth still kept speaking for his object. I said my family gave me money back, and I didn't work. Together, two or three hundred thousand a month dare not find a partner. Then another colleague said that he was the opposite, the woman was basically taken care of by him now, he was capable, and the money he made every month was quite moist.
I think, although I am also a girl, the mouth is to say that I don't like girls to worship gold, but girls can not want materials, can not without the ability to give girls material. Boys lie alone and poor days are like this, and there is a face to find girls to accompany you to poor days, so is not delaying girls?
I am a person who is easily insecure. My parents often quarreled, and I wondered why two people who were on a good relationship at first would become like enemies over time. After a long period of observation, I learned how to discern the eyes of others, and even sometimes over-interpreted. So I'm extra sensitive to subtle changes. The emotional life of a parent really affects the next generation's perception of love, marriage, and love.
Maybe I'm too sensitive, but whenever I perceive a hint of impatience with the other person, or even say that there is a bad change from when I was first together, I think of my parents and their bad marriage. Subconsciously, I would choose to escape, disguise myself with anger, and try to warn or remind the other person with "I'm already angry, I hope you don't do that."
Obviously, the other party can't grasp this point, and even uses "Why are you so angry" and "Am I not good enough for you?"? Why are you throwing a tantrum" words come to choke me. I don't understand, I did what a girlfriend should do: try to think for each other, not embarrass the other person, in life I often prepare what he needs as a gift, when he wants comfort, I will push away the matter at hand and give him a hug...
However, when I touch his lightning point, I will feel sorry, rather than trying to use my kindness to him to find some sense of existence, and use the other party's kindness to try to extinguish the anger when violating the principled issue.
In love, two people have "feelings", it must be the convergence of the three views, and the probability of the three views not being compatible is that they cannot go together; secondly, there must be partial complementarity, that is, to have some of the ideal state of the other party. "Having feelings" for a certain person, that is, having a good feeling for a certain person, such as appearance, such as talent, such as character, etc., this is a psychological preference.
Just like when we chase stars, we think a certain star is good, often because a star has something we don't have, but it's our ideal state. Of course, there are not only these, but also some environmental factors, such as in ancient times, people will prefer those who are strong, and then we will worship those who have wisdom, and then with the development of civilization, this "feeling" will become more and more complex, such as power, power, money, literary style, beauty, music, art, language and so on.
The so-called "feeling" is an emotional state learned by the combination of these various factors. This emotional psychological preference mainly comes from the "prejudice" generated by the social environment in which we live, the education we have received, the things we have experienced, etc.
Just like some people hate what is now called "small fresh meat", some people think that this kind of person is very attractive, but no matter which one, it is almost impossible to escape this framework.
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