Psychologists say children need four kinds of nutrition: a sense of security, a sense of presence, a sense of accomplishment, and a sense of well-being. And the sense of ritual contains every kind of nutrition, which can make children live more powerfully in the sense of love and security!
"The Little Prince" said: The sense of ceremony is to make a certain day different from other days, to make a certain moment different from other moments...
Many parents are very practical:
"What birthday is a child's birthday?"
"Strange festival, what a hilarity"
"Just go to school, wear clothes and shoes as you like"
For parents, doing these things or not, the love for their children will not be reduced, but for the child, the sense of ceremony is not pretentious, not a form, but through the details prepared by heart, let him feel valued.
For children, the sense of ceremony is not how much money to spend, but the parents carefully do one thing for the child, so that the child has a surprise and the child is satisfied. Children crave a sense of ceremony, but in fact they crave love and security.
The sense of ritual in the eyes of children comes from life:
Go to the photo studio on a special anniversary to take a family portrait, such as a child's birthday, so that the child knows that he has a stable and loving home.
Get up early and say "good morning" to each other, and say "good night" to each other before going to bed, so that children understand that they can also support their families.
Nightly bedtime stories and parent-child readings let children fall asleep with love and warmth.
Families sit around and turn off the TV and chat, talk about each other's affairs, let the children learn to listen and talk, learn to share and share.
The family prepares dinner together and eats dinner together. Let children understand in a subtle way: love is not only to say, but also to act.
Attend important activities in your child's development: birthday parent-teacher conferences, sports meetings, debriefing performances, etc. Let the child believe that the family has always been with him.
A surprise on an important day can make children learn to wait and cherish.
Every year, there must be a family trip, a long-distance family trip, or a weekend self-driving trip around, as long as the whole family goes out, you can feel warm and happy.
Write a letter to the child every year, the child draws a picture for the parents, puts it in a box, and opens it together after a few years.
My mother read this passage:
You celebrate your child's birthday and tell him he's a year older;
Be better than before, let him have a sense of mission in his life;
You accompany your child to the school's parent-child sports meeting and report on the performance;
Give him confidence and a sense of identity with himself;
You let your child on Father's Day, Mother's Day, Teacher's Day;
Send blessings to mom and dad and teachers, so that he knows how to be grateful;
The sense of ceremony given to children is never waited for, but created with heart. The child harvests the tenderness of his parents and passes on this love to others.
Love the child, just give him a little touch in ordinary days, become a dazzling light on his growth road!