Today is the International Day of Not Playing Children, please treat children with more guidance and respect, more patience and tolerance, and children who are gently cared for can "have love in their hearts and light in their eyes".
Last summer, I got a call from the principal asking me to go to school and talk about work. When I arrived at the school, I learned that this semester the principal wanted me to take over the famous "special class" of the whole school. The reason why this class is called a special class is because one of the children in this class is more special.
This child has some mild cerebral palsy, coupled with cleft lip and palate, so it is not clear when speaking, and there is a problem of communication with others. It's also a bit crooked when walking. Saying that he is special is not mainly because of the abnormality of the body, the most important thing is because of his behavior, his emotional control ability is particularly bad, he will threaten the teacher with suicide at every turn, and the class teacher who has taken this class cannot stand such stimulation, so this class has changed three class teachers in the third grade.
I've been taking this class for almost a year now, and this kid is really a headache. When he is in class, he does not listen to the lecture at all, you let him take the book out, he will sit on the stool, raise his eyes to glance at you, when he is in a good mood, he will take the book out, but he will not read the book, nor listen to the lecture, do his own thing, when he is in a bad mood, he will ignore you.
In order to ensure the discipline of the class and the progress of the class, I can only go with him, if I don't listen, I don't listen, but I find that this is not over, he will read some comic books, and then laugh at himself in the class, the good class is interrupted, the attention of other children is also interrupted, and the key lesson is that he keeps doing this. When you angrily remind him not to make a sound, he will pay attention for a little while, but the good times are not long, and it starts to repeat again.
This is still when he can control himself, the class is generally not too much of a problem, the other students in the class have been with him for three years, and it is not strange. If he didn't know what happened to him one day, he would deliberately move the table and smash it, and he wouldn't listen to it. You can't pull him outside the classroom yet, on the one hand he's going to throw a stubborn temper, he's going to cry and roll on the ground, I can't pull him, and second, I can't pull him out and only pull him to the teaching office or the principal's office, because he's afraid of suicide.
He almost has no friends at school, it is not that everyone does not play with him, it is that everyone does not dare to play with him, obviously the rules of the game are formulated, he does not abide by them, when others accuse him, he will stare unconvincingly, he will be anxious when he talks, he will fight with other classmates, and he will be particularly cruel.
Last year, there was an event at our class meeting, he asked to participate, and I let him participate, but because he couldn't keep up with the rhythm and lost, he cried himself, and as soon as the other children saw him crying, they quickly told him: "It's okay, the round just now doesn't count, let's do it again." I also pulled him along and told him that everyone was welcome to play with him again, but he still didn't listen and walked back to his seat crying. One of the boys said, "Teacher, he's crying again." As a result, he launched another "crazy" attack, jumped on the table and chased and beat the boy, I went over to stop him, let the boy quickly hide, he saw that he could not catch up with others, he took out a pencil to make a move to "stab" people. I snatched his pen and ran out crying. I was so frightened that my heart was pounding because he didn't know where to go out, and I was afraid that he would do something stupid.
When I finally found out that the child had run to find a psychology teacher, I put my mind at ease.
There have been many, many things like this in the year, and I won't dwell on them all. Sometimes I think of this child unconsciously, and I always have a question in my mind: Why is this child like this? Why does he not distinguish between right and wrong, good or bad? Why can't I control my emotions? Why is there such a tendency to be violent? This child's nails are very long, so he can always scratch others, this child's clothes are always dirty and smelly, and I always wonder, why doesn't his mother clean up the child?
Every time something happens to him, as a teacher, I have to contact and communicate with his parents. I was very impressed, when I first communicated with his mother, his mother first told me: "Teacher, can you please trouble you in the future what happened to this child, do not contact his father." "His mother has a very good attitude, is very cooperative with the teacher's work, and knows what her child looks like." I understand why I can't talk to his dad, because when I took this class, I heard from his teacher who took him and the teacher who had given him psychological counseling that his dad also had violent tendencies. It is said that his father has a very good job and a high social status, but because of the birth of this child, he feels that he is very faceless, so he will throw his anger on this child. Once he was crying and making trouble at school, the principal, the security guard, me, his mother were all advising him not to make trouble, first go home calm and calm, suddenly he seemed to be frightened, his eyes widened, he looked out in horror, and his mouth was still saying: "He is coming, he is coming... Run, run, I'm going to run! "We all looked out and there wasn't a single person on the playground. I wondered who the "he" in the child's mouth would be, and why was he so afraid, afraid of hallucinations?
Deal with this child's things to deal with more, I also have some understanding of the attitude of this child's parents, usually, parents are also very good to this child, such as the mother said that the child's father will give the child 30 yuan every week, let the child spend casually. If the child's mistake is not very big, his mother can still be very rational and deal with the problem very correctly, if the child is in more trouble, his mother is also full of complaints about the child, such as "If throwing the child is not against the law, I really throw him away" such as "I recruit who to provoke whom, the child makes a mistake and let him bear it himself, when he grows up, he should be arrested, he should be sentenced, he should be shot, I can't die with her."
I don't know if his parents have ever mentioned such a thing to his face, but if a mother can say such a thing to an outsider, then the usual attitude towards her children I think more or less disgust can also be brought out.
Mention this child my heart is very complicated, on the one hand, in the teaching and class management, he is really a headache, every day to deal with his things, every day to chat with him, but also to think of The Fa'er to encourage him, let him get better and better, this child is very smart, when he understands things, the words spoken are also very warm, but there are really very few, very few times like this. I wrote an article "This Child Warms Me" before, which is the child who wrote about this child, and when he said to the whole class that I was a good teacher and wanted to keep me, I was really touched. On the one hand, he feels that this child has experienced pain that we have not experienced, and perhaps he can't understand why others are born well, but they are like this, why their parents will do this to him.
But for myself, I really used my heart to this child in this year, and this child is getting better little by little. But the influence of a teacher on a child is far less than that of a parent. A child is shaped by our parents and the family environment, if there are some unsatisfactory places in the child, if you want to let the child change, first of all, the parents themselves have to change ah!
Today is the International Day of Not Playing Children, please treat children with more guidance and respect, more patience and tolerance, and children who are gently cared for can "have love in their hearts and light in their eyes".