One night I took my own children to play cassia in the square, and a small child ran over and stood on the side and watched, wanting to play.
The merchant used to tell the child to go in and play, and the child looked back at his grandfather.
Grandpa told the children that "talk should be counted, and before coming out, he had promised not to play entertainment facilities and not to buy toys", and clearly told the merchant not to play.
The child looked at Cassia and then at Grandpa, standing there very troubled.
Grandpa also stood there quietly with a smile, waiting for the child to make a decision.
At this time, the merchant "can't see it anymore", said to the child's grandfather, "Let him play for a while, 5 yuan is not expensive", and directly carried the child in.
The child was still doing a thought struggle, and as soon as he entered, he forgot all the promises and played happily.
Grandpa looked livid, said nothing, and walked away.
After a while, the child found that Grandpa was gone, panicked, put on his shoes in a hurry, and ran to find Grandpa.
The merchant realized in hindsight that the child had left and had not paid for it, so he ran to find someone.
After a while the merchant came back with a swearing grin.
Come over and give me a "complaint", saying that the little boy's grandfather played a rogue and did not give money.
"The reason is that he did not agree to the child's play, I carried the child into the play", the merchant looked "helpless".
A minor under the age of eight is a person without capacity for civil conduct, and his legally-designated representative represents him in civil activities.
The whole thing was clearly seen, so I recognized the grandfather's concept, but did not advocate his behavior, did not say anything more to the merchants, and never took the child to play with her again.
Now the children are the treasures of the family, holding in the palm of the hand for fear of breaking in the mouth for fear of melting, as long as the child wants, try to be satisfied.
Some merchants like this, coupled with the state's advocacy of the stall economy, the streets and squares are full of toys, inflatable mats, cassia, snares and so on.
Children are happy to hear it, and parents are troubled.
Because after the children see it, they can't walk, and it won't be a problem not to buy one or play for a while.
Coupled with the fact that some merchants over-guide children, children have no resistance.
Therefore, parents are very disgusted, but also very helpless, in order to stop the child from crying, in the end they all compromise to meet the needs of the child.
To put it another way, it's also a test.
Parents develop their children's self-control and guide their children to resist temptation.
My child is now nearly 4 years old, and his self-control ability is outstanding among his peers, and we agreed with my child like this:
First of all, discuss with children on an equal footing what can be done and what cannot be done.
Second, observe whether the child keeps his promise and does not intervene too much.
Finally, and most importantly, there are appropriate reward and punishment measures that must be implemented afterwards.