When the child encounters difficulties, parents should not directly help him solve it, because this is a good opportunity. Cultivating children's ability to solve problems in adversity is what educators have always called "contrarian quotient". No matter what problems the child with high anti-quotient encounters, he can calmly and calmly solve it, so he is not afraid of difficulties and can be more successful. When the child tells you that he encounters a difficulty, first tell him how to do it, and use seven sentences to guide the child to develop the habit of thinking, planning, and solving problems by himself without being trapped by the problem.
First, you can ask "You tell your mother about the cause and process of this matter" to exercise your child's ability to describe the problem;
Second, you can ask "So what else needs to be solved now" to exercise your child's ability to summarize the problem
Third, you can ask "if you can solve this problem, what kind of effect do you want to get" to exercise the child's ability to assume that the future is thinking;
Fourth, you can ask "what do you think you should do to get this effect" This is the core of the problem; when he has clearly summarized the causal problem and the desired effect, he can think about what to do on this basis, and when he can't think of it or the method is not appropriate, you can also help him think together
Fifth, you can ask, "Then who else do you need to help you?" "He may need mom and dad or other classmates or teachers to help him."
Sixth, you can ask, "Then how are you going to invite them to help you?"
Seventh, you can ask, "What are you going to do if they don't want to help you?" "Think with him in advance about what changes he should make if the plan doesn't work properly."