Do you want to look at your partner's phone? This is a question that many women are more confused about. Many women said: "Teacher, I feel particularly insecure in this relationship, I feel that he has been sneaky recently, I want to see his mobile phone, has anything happened?" ”
Others said, "I'm most afraid of the cases on the Internet, he's been with people for years, and I don't know it." So I've got to go and see if there's anything catty in his phone? "There are even some online raiders that will tell you that you can not only go to see WeChat, you can also go to see his positioning, navigation, Meituan order records, etc., you can understand his itinerary and so on." So is this way useful? I tell everyone, it really doesn't work, why? Today I bring you to a word called self-evidence prophecy.
Why do many women want to look at each other's phones? Because you go with a certain purpose, with one of your prophecies, for example, you start to suspect that the man is out there, something is wrong, you feel that he has not been right lately, you are carrying such a prophecy, you want to prove that such a prophecy is right, you go to see.
For example, if you turn over his chat history, do you have any ambiguity with others, go to see his positioning, etc., what troubles will this self-evidenced prophecy bring to you? It's that people don't like to be denied, and after you raise a doubt, you'll look for the answer. Think it might be like that, but what do you do when you're in his phone and don't find anything? Are you really so willing?
You will not willingly admit that my prophecy is wrong, I think it is wrong, I think more, no, what will you do? You will continue to search for answers. And the process of continuing to find answers will make the other party feel, do not understand, do not trust, do not respect, it is as if I have said before, no woman, can laugh out of the man's mobile phone, not because the man's mobile phone really has what, but you are not willing, see something, you must not be happy, did not see anything, you are not willing.
So, looking at a man's mobile phone is looking for an answer to your prediction, but your prediction is not necessarily right, which is why I don't recommend that you look at each other's mobile phones, because when you want to look at each other's mobile phones, it is precisely exposed that you are passive and insecure in this relationship, and you try to use the mobile phone to find a sense of security Is it useful? It doesn't work, it will ruin the relationship.
Some people said, I just want to see, I took pictures with him can't do it? It doesn't really matter, for example, me, sometimes I'm at home, I'm throwing my phone over there, all my phone passwords, my wife also knows, she may occasionally go to see what the photos are, but she never deliberately turns over anything, why not turn it over?
Speaking from the heart, from my point of view, I also don't want others to look at my mobile phone, to see my privacy or something, not that I have any cattiness, but what, it is like being stripped out, because people will always have a little privacy, for example, to discuss beautiful women with brothers, to spit on their wives with brothers, it is normal, or it is normal to brag with brothers. Sometimes, the mobile phone also belongs to some of our privacy, it does not hinder the other party, when you touch the privacy of others, what do people feel? What you feel is aggression!
Of course, if you really want to go to see it, I suggest to go to see it in a bright way, don't sneak it, he went to the shower to secretly unlock his password, don't do it, you can tell him, I just want to see what's in your phone? Just kidding to see, look at his attitude at this time, there is no big problem.