Celebrity parenting encyclopedia programs everyone should have seen, watched several episodes of "Incredible Mother", feel that the seriousness of star mothers with babies is indeed very admirable.
The one who was most impressed by this show was Hu Ke, who is recognized as a model couple, and the two of them have a lovely son. I have seen Sha Yi take the baby to participate in other variety shows before, and I like these two polite little warm men in their family very much, and after watching Hu Ke's program, I also understand how the warm man is cultivated.
Hu Ke is a wise and intellectual mother, which is vividly demonstrated in her path of educating her children. She often shares some of the feelings in the process of taking the baby, and it can be seen that she and the baby are growing up together, and in the process of educating the child, hu Ke's best thing is to truly accept and understand.
In one episode, Hu Ke took the small fish to eat a big meal. The child's mind is not on food at all, but has been thinking about his new toy, and asks his mother to immediately assemble the new toy into a robot.
Hu Ke naturally did not agree to the request of the little fish, the child is small after all, his reaction is the same as every baby in the process of growing up, not eating or drinking, and even throwing a tantrum, crying and crying, and exhausting the method to fight against his old mother.
Education expert Sukhomlinsky said: When a child finds that the parent unconditionally meets his arbitrary requirements, he will become disobedient, and connivance will make the baby's shortcomings more and more.
Xiaoyu'er is obviously an unreasonable way to make trouble, and Hu Ke did not take a completely ignored approach, nor did he immediately compromise with the child. After she waited for the little fish to vent her emotions, she said firmly and gently to the baby: I know that you would like to get the robot that turns into a weapon, and it takes time for the toy to turn into a toy, and you should wait until after eating to play with the toy. This is the most basic rule, and you have to follow this rule.
Xiaoyu'er had just finished venting her emotions, and when she saw her mother say such words, he did not continue to cry, but quietly accepted Hu Ke's suggestion.
When Hu Ke faces the child to vent negative emotions, we can carefully observe, and the most she says is the sentence "I know".
Xiaoyu'er was emotionally broken because he could not take away his beloved toy, and when he cried, Hu Ke quietly said to him: I know that you want this toy very much, but you can't take it home, your mood is very low, this is the rule.
The little fish came out of the water castle feeling a little scared, and when he cried silently, Hu Ke hugged the little fish. Gently and gently tell him: I know you are a little afraid, but you are very brave, you are particularly good, and the baby has persevered in the end.
I know that these three words, although very simple and easy to say, represent Hu Ke's empathy and acceptance as a mother.
Accept your child's emotions
Parents use accepting language to communicate with their children, which can make the baby open their hearts, and they are willing to communicate well with their parents.
There are many parents who see their children crying and making trouble, and when negative emotions appear, they will immediately reason with their children, and even loudly reprimand, if there is really no way, they will directly compromise.
If the child is in a state of emotional outburst, it is impossible to listen to any reason, and parents should let the child's emotions vent and then go to reason with them. If the child cries and makes a big fuss over there, and the parents reason on this side, there will be no effect at all, it will only play the opposite role.
The role of receptive language is very magical, as a parent, not only to have the will to accept the child, but also to have the ability to accurately express acceptance.
It can be seen that parents should make accepting behaviors, or speak the language of accepting the baby, so that the children know that you understand and accept him.
Like Hu Ke, parents should carry out rational acceptance expression, and they can try to use, I know, this expression to communicate with their children.
Understand the child and show empathy
Parents don't always use statements like this about how you do it. On the child's growth path, for the child's evaluation, most parents will say, you are really too naughty, you are not right to do this.
If I know and understand such a beginning message, it will make the child feel the parents' understanding and empathy for themselves.
Just like Hu Ke hangs on his lips, it is typical to use me to convey information, no matter what kind of behavior the child has, Hu Ke did not directly accuse him, but through the acceptive language and behavior, to express a mother's understanding and support for the child.
Xiaoyu'er will also experience his emotions, and his mother pays special attention to it and truly understands himself. With such an emotional foundation, after the child vents his emotions, it will be easier for the child to take the initiative to accept the mother's suggestion and cooperate with the next step.
Children are emotional, and it is very important for parents to listen. First of all, let the child have the right to speak, if the parents blindly criticize and accuse, it will only make the baby's emotions more angry. Give your child a little time, let them think slowly, express themselves in their own language, and fully vent their emotions, so that they can finally solve the problem. Let the child say their dissatisfaction, and the adult will go to comfort them, and the baby will accept the parent's suggestion.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
When children are emotional, parents should learn to solve the emotions first, and then solve the problem, use accepting language to communicate with the child, and believe that many problems will be solved.
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