This article is a very deep story about a woman's life of suffering...
What first thought of you when you saw a sentence like this? Is it the tragedy in marriage and love, the sadness in the journey of life?
Idle at noon, a friend told me a marriage case. A not-so-glamorous relationship that makes a woman tired for a lifetime and bitter for a lifetime.
Until the day she left the world, her heart still carried a worry that she could not let go.
The marriage case spans more than 30 years and covers the second half of a woman's life. Like a script about marriage, love, and life, the logic is intricate and intriguing.
In the following, I will tell you about this marriage case. I'll tell it another way, just look at a story, and as for what it's about, the readers will understand it for themselves.
In short, there is a very deep logic of life here.
Life is called life for the living, and it has no meaning for the deceased. But in the end, "meaningless" is also the meaning of life. Life is to life as love is to marriage.
First, when the lover is gone, the heart is dead
More than 30 years ago, there was a very loving couple. They have been married for more than 4 years, the family is happy and harmonious, and there is a pair of dragon and phoenix fetal daughters.
If life is not a joke, the couple can stay together for a lifetime, or at least grow old together. However, fate made a completely sad joke and suddenly ruined the happy family.
That morning, before dawn, the man got up early and went to the construction site to work. The husband and wife parted in laughter, and none of them expected that the parting would become a lifelong farewell.
The man's job was manual labor, pushing a cart on a bridge site in the town.
The man went too early that day, it was not yet light, and the construction site had not yet been occupied. Maybe it was bad vision, maybe it was a slippery step under his feet, and he fell into the river. By the time his co-workers came to work, he was long gone.
Before he could say goodbye to his family, he left his young wife and 2 young children behind.
The woman was 25 years old and widowed at a young age.
This is a sad story, why is it a joke of fate?
Because this matter is not very honorable to say, it involves some obscure emotional topics in the marriage. That morning, along with the man who fell into the river, there was a young woman, who was also a small worker on the construction site.
The clothes of the two men were placed on the railing of the bridge, neatly arranged, but they were naked and hugged tightly in the river. When they were salvaged, the two were still clinging to each other, hugging too tightly to be separated...
Men have wives and sons, and women have husbands and a son.
The question is confusing: why do they dare to hug each other like this knowing that they have a home and a room, is there another story?
Not long after being salvaged, the man's wife came, and the woman's husband also came. The moment I lifted the spirit cloth, I was greeted by an unbearable scene. Under the persuasion of the crowd, they shed tears in silence and left in despair.
Maybe their hearts died at that moment.
Everyone present understood this kind of thing. I had long heard that the two of them had a leg, and even if the previous rumors had not been seen with their own eyes, they could guess a rough process at this time.
Maybe it was an appointment in advance, or maybe it was a coincidence, and they came very early that day. Seeing that it was still dark and there was no one around, they had the courage to do something they shouldn't have done.
Maybe it's being too busy, maybe it's exhausting. In short, they fell off the bridge, the people were gone...
Second, fate is something that no one can say for sure
How else can this kind of thing be said, and it cannot be seriously explained. Probably such a process, it is a disaster caused by not being able to swim.
That was more than 30 years ago, and it was not very honorable to say anything. Even if the woman chooses to face it silently, she still can't stop the leisurely mouth of outsiders. Her husband left in this way too fiercely, and the pressure in her heart was not insignificant.
A year after her husband's death, the woman entrusted her 2 children to her in-laws. She did not take any of her husband's money with her, and all of it was left to 2 children.
Her mother-in-law is still alive and slurred, but she can still express herself. According to the old man, the daughter-in-law left a few words when she left.
It probably means: I'm only 26 years old, and if I were 10 years older, I wouldn't have been bothered to leave the house. Don't blame me for being cruel, I don't have a face to live here. These sisters and brothers are almost 5 years old, and they will be entrusted to you from now on, and I will set up my own portal. In the future, don't go to my parents' house to find me, just when I am dead...
The woman left these words and left, fiercely abandoning 2 children.
Fate had other arrangements, and it wasn't long before she married another man. The two had children and started a new family.
Time flew by, and in the blink of an eye 28 years passed. As women married, the two families had hardly interacted for more than 20 years.
A pair of children who were once abandoned by a woman have long grown up, and the difficulties did not bring down the brothers and sisters, but made them more and more frustrated and courageous. Under the cultivation of grandparents herding sheep, the sisters and brothers are more contentious. They studied hard and were admitted to prestigious universities together.
Later, the sister married a very good man. Although the younger brother is not as good as the older sister, but relying on the relationship between the older sister's family, he is also mixed up, the family is happy, and the career is successful.
Thus, there is a dramatic scene in the story.
The two children who were abandoned by the woman at that time have come out on top, while the two children of the new family (also a pair of brothers and sisters) almost broke her heart.
The girl is naturally playful, and has already been divorced once at the age of 26, with a 1-year-old child. She didn't even want to take care of her children, and went out every day to socialize and throw the children to her mother to raise. The boy is even more unprofessional, he will only chew on the old, 27 years old has not yet worked, marriage matters have not been resolved...
You have to admit that sometimes life is like a tortuous drama. There are too many variables in life, and no one can say what step they can deduce after decades, and no one can say for sure...
Third, in the midst of suffering, I remembered family affection
According to friends, this woman's life was bitter. Only 10 years after remarrying that year, her husband died.
For the sake of her two children, she did not remarry. The family up and down, inside and out, all rely on her as a woman to work hard. She gets up early and works in the dark, and tirelessly takes care of her 2 children. But the children are not angry, and the more they take care of them, the more reluctant they are to work hard.
Women are also rudderless, family conditions are not good, and they are reluctant to let the children suffer. She could only make herself a little bitterer, a little more bitter.
Ever since her daughter divorced and left her children to her, she hasn't had time to work. The helplessness and suffering of life swept in, in her words, this is my life...
One day, the woman fell ill at home. Your brother came to persuade her, you suffered too much in the first half of your life. In my opinion, leave them alone and let them fend for themselves.
The woman was reluctant, and she cried heart-rending. Although the two children do not argue, they are their own children after all. When my husband (second term) died, he had an explanation, you can remarry, I hope you take good care of the children, I only have this one request...
Maybe it was deeply in love with the husband, maybe it was for the sake of the children, and the woman did not remarry. She struggled to support the family, and although she did not let the children get ahead, she had already tried her best.
The woman told her brother: This sister and brother are not angry, if I don't care, they will be really ruined.
After hearing this, my brother was very helpless and told her: Since this is the case, I will give you an idea. You also have a pair of capable children, have you forgotten them?
The woman was stunned, how could her own flesh and bones forget?
It's just that she feels guilty and doesn't dare to think about that past. Ever since she left that home that year, she hadn't thought about reviving the relationship there. Whether she regrets it or not, life can't be changed anymore.
She advised her brother not to bother over there, but he couldn't bear to watch his sister continue to suffer. One day, the brother took matters into his own hands and personally went there to see his nephew and niece, whom he had not seen for many years.
The sisters and brothers over there are very sensible, after many years, listening to grandma say on the phone that the uncle personally came to the door, the sisters and brothers are very happy. They dropped off their jobs and went to their grandparents' house to entertain their uncles.
Uncle straight to the point: Your mother is not in good health, she has not lived for a few years, and she wants to meet you both. I haven't seen you in more than 20 years, and she thinks about you every day...
I haven't shouted the word "mother" for more than 20 years, and the sisters and brothers cried a lot after hearing it. Although there was some hatred in her heart, she was her own biological mother after all.
They have seen the world and have long understood some truths. When her mother left, it was a kind of helplessness, and I don't blame her for being cruel...
Fourth, when I think of what happens behind me, I am afraid of death and will not be blinded
Under the matchmaking of the uncle, the sisters and brothers squeezed out time to visit their mother.
Even if I haven't seen it for more than 20 years, I haven't stopped this blood-thicker family affection than water. As soon as they met, the three of them burst into tears.
The sisters and brothers felt sorry for their mother and promised her that in the future we would give you a pension and go back with us, and not to continue to suffer.
My sister's family has 2 nannies, there is no problem in taking care of one more mother, she wants her mother to go back with her.
Although his brother's family did not have a nanny, he had a good wife who was kind and kind, and she also wanted the mother-in-law, whom she had never met, to move in and live with.
The attitude of the sisters and brothers is very clear, and it is better to go to anyone's house than to stay here. After so many years of suffering, it is time to enjoy the blessings.
Unfortunately, the woman finally has a mind that cannot be put down and is unwilling to leave with the two children.
Saying that you are not willing is actually against your heart. She also has bitterness in her heart, first, she does not want to add thoughts to the excellent children, and second, the children here do not agree to let her go at all, and it is useless to say more.
The sisters and brothers did not continue to reluctantly, and each left 10,000 yuan for their mother to live.
Before leaving, the mother told the brothers and sisters in a serious tone: I am very proud to have such an excellent child as you, if your uncle did not hurt me, if your aunt did not come to scold me all day, I would not leave you with a cruel heart. No one was protecting me, and all kinds of gossip haunted me. Now it is useless to say that those are no longer useful, I have a home here, I am a person on this side who is alive, and a ghost on this side after death. After a hundred years of my life, don't be embarrassed by your younger brothers and sisters on this side, count me begging you...
Why do women say these confusing things?
In fact, the reason is very simple, she has bitterness in her heart and has been hiding for 30 years. Until she clicks, the children themselves will understand why she left.
By her age, she had already thought about what was behind her. The gap in strength between the sons and daughters on both sides is too great, and in the future they may have contradictions and fall one-sided.
The brothers' father died nearly 30 years ago, and it has always been a lonely grave.
The former mother-in-law had already spoken thoroughly, and that day through her brother conveyed a message to her: I can't let my son always be a lonely grave, and in the future my grandson and granddaughter will take my mother home and bury her next to their father...
The implication is that after a hundred years of waiting for a woman, she must "go home", which is the only thought of the old man. If it is not possible to come in the open, then come in secret, and when the time comes, it will all depend on the ability, depending on which side of the child has the ability to snatch back the mother.
This is a very heartfelt reality, women have anticipated the aftermath and do not want the children on both sides of the future to cause tragedies because of themselves.
She clearly told the children: Your father should be a lonely grave, he asked for himself, I hated him for more than 30 years. Your great uncle will not have a good end, he and your father have a virtue, both are human-faced beast hearts. Even after I die, I am ashamed to be with your father. I will be buried next to my lover, and if you respect me, go back and set up a marriage tomb for him, and put up an empty place to replace me, it will be an explanation. Don't beat me up, or I'll die...
Seeing that their mother was so stubborn and thought so far-reaching, the sisters and brothers had to agree to their mother.
Fifth, there is no companion before death, and they will always be with each other after death
Time continued to pass rapidly, as if in the blink of an eye, another 2 years had passed. In the winter of this year (last year, 2021), because of overwork, the woman's body finally collapsed completely.
The illness came like a mountain, and it was caught off guard. When her children came on fire, she had only one last breath left. As last time, she once again confessed the aftermath.
Even if the sisters and brothers keep her at any cost, they are still powerless to return to heaven.
After the woman's death, the children on both sides did have a conflict because of her burial problem. If it were not for the uncle's mediation in the middle, tragedy would have occurred on both sides.
The good brothers and sisters wanted to take their mother back and bury her father, which was the only thought of Grandpa and Grandma. The brothers and sisters here do not agree, why did our mother let you take it away, your side is just a thing of the past...
The two sides lifted the table in front of their uncles.
In the midst of the quarrel, a scene of drama reappeared.
After all, the excellent brothers and sisters had money, ability and thought, and they changed their strategies and expressed their positions. We're here to take my mother home, and you can make a price. 100,000 no, 200,000, 200,000 can not add a little, just ask you agree or disagree? If you don't agree, we'll turn around and go, mother left it to you.
This trick really worked, and the pair of not-so-good siblings saw the money and softened their attitude on the spot. Brothers and sisters, you also know the market, 200,000 is too little, after all, she is also our mother, we also feel sorry for her. Well, add a little more, it's 250,000, you take it back and bury it...
For the sake of money, the brothers and sisters who saw the money forgot their mother's last words on her deathbed. After getting 250,000, they don't even want their mother, which is equivalent to "selling" their mother, and their father will always be a lonely grave.
With the efforts of that pair of excellent siblings, after more than 30 years, the parents were finally reunited, and the lonely grave became a double grave. This is Grandpa's wish before he dies, and it is also a thought that Grandma can't let go. On the day of the burial, the grandmother, who had not shed tears for decades, also cried...
The couple did not have much companionship before they died, but they were able to be together forever after death. Fate or destiny? No one can tell.
Before dying, the woman told her to give instructions to the children on both sides, never wanting to go back to the old place, only wanting to be buried next to her husband. But in the end, she still couldn't decide what happened after her death and was buried next to her ex-husband.
If she had known about it, I don't know how she would feel...
That's the end of the story, from a real marriage case. This is a woman's life of suffering, and I try to restore the original logical context of the case as much as possible.
There is deep logic in this case.
According to the friend, if you want to say deeply, this suffering woman can also be regarded as well-intentioned. Until the last moment of her life, she still had concerns in her heart.
She couldn't rest assured that the two children on this side had achieved nothing, and she was ashamed of the two excellent children over there, and she couldn't bear to ask them.
She knew that after she left, the sisters and brothers over there would definitely "rob" themselves away. She entrusted the affairs to her eldest brother and asked him to mediate from them. Perhaps only by "selling" themselves can the two children here not have a place to live.
Her eldest brother had no objection to her burial, and that was the best evidence.
But is it really the right thing to do? No one knows.
The root cause of all this woman's suffering stems from the disgraceful event more than 30 years ago. Her husband's misdeeds have bitterdened her whole life.
As the saying goes, all beings are suffering, and the world is impermanent. After walking through it, I found that life is all helpless, and blandness is the luckiest thing. Looking back on the past, marriage, love, and affection are all the creation of fate, don't ask why.
This is what people often call "fate", everything is determined by fate, and half by man. There is nothing right or wrong about it, just a powerless life and a feeling of the impermanence of life.