I never expected that there was a drama that could make the official media go down and publish an article criticizing "selling anxiety".
It is this film starring Qin Hao and Ren Suxi:
"Dear Child"
Opening the comment area of "Dear Child", Gao Zan is a pure affirmation of the play.
"It sells anxiety!"
"How does it sell anxiety?"
"It makes reality a drama!"
The comment area is so fragmented, but it is wonderfully intertextual with the contradictions shown in the play - those who come over sigh, those who have not experienced it are dazed.
These two schools of thought are like two sides of a coin, but "Dear Child" forcibly flipped this coin and put the shocking truth in front of everyone.
The first episode starts with N "Fertility Facts You Don't Know".
It turned out that the pregnant face would grow melasma.
Ren Suxi's expression of crying in front of the mirror was too heart-wrenching.
It turns out that when pregnant, the stomach will be so large, accompanied by stretch marks.
The upper body is skinny, but the stomach is abruptly bulging, which makes people almost a little chilling.
It turned out that pregnant women could not even lie down to sleep in the later stages, and could only sit and sleep.
Someone questioned the barrage: "Just sit and sleep? ”
Then a large number of people came over and replied affirmatively: "Just sleep like this." ”
Rao is that there are still people in these barrages who are "not satisfied", pointing out that pregnant women are unable to sleep until dawn because of the compression of their bladders, and they will definitely wake up at night.
At this time, Xiao Lu, played by Qin Hao, cut apples, pinched legs, and covered quilts for his wife, and the bullet screen was already praising "a good husband in the world".
In addition to the physiological changes, childbearing is more likely to be a process of "loss of dignity".
Yinuo, played by Ren Suxi, is a teacher who breaks the amniotic fluid on the podium.
Droplets of liquid dripped from between their legs in front of the students.
And she could only force herself to calmly arrange the things in the class, saying: "My husband and children are going." ”
The production process was extremely painful, and Ren Suxi's suffocation was felt across the screen.
Pregnant women also have incontinence after childbirth.
"What's this smell like?" As Xiao Lu casually asked in the ward, Yinuo's expression suddenly stopped, and then drove everyone out.
Xiao Lu was prompted by the old man to react to what had happened.
And the most clean Yinuo faced such a situation, except for pain, there was nothing he could do.
As for "it's your business after birth", that's even more fantastic.
Xiao Lu, the husband played by Qin Hao, has already shown unreliability when Yinuo is still in production.
Yinuo's amniotic fluid broke while waiting for delivery in the hospital when he received a call from his boss.
Yinuo intimately asked him to go to work first, but after Xiao Lu really left, he was disappointed and said, "Really go." ”
Even Yinuo's mother couldn't look past it: "How did you let him go?" ”
In fact, Boss Xiaolu didn't let him help when he saw his hard work, and he went home to watch the ball game and drink beer.
Even because she slept and missed sending Yinuo into the delivery room, only the mother comforted the frightened Yinuo at the door.
After Yinuo gave birth, Xiao Lu was not able to pick up Yinuo at the door and return to the ward.
Why did he go?
He was sneaking downstairs to hand his daughter's placenta to his mother.
The reason is simply that the mother said that she wanted to stew the placenta for the second son to make up.
Note that the second son, Xiao Lu's younger brother, is already such a big person.
Is it true that a man is a teenager until he dies?
Postpartum is even more unattainable.
Yinuo got up in the middle of the night to feed the child, and when he was thirsty, he wanted Xiao Lu to pour some water, but the child's father slept peacefully next to him.
Widowhood makes the postpartum process more like a lonely struggle for the mother.
She invited the sister-in-law but still worried about whether the sister-in-law would give the child milk powder, and did not do her best.
The child jaundice, Xiao Lu and Sister-in-law Yue felt that it was okay, and the result was that the total bilirubin of the examination was more than 280.
Even when Yinuo rushed over, Xiao Lu didn't even know where the child was.
He he was hospitalized to take blue light, Yinuo was worried about crying, Xiao Lu said: "The Internet said that children cry more when they are young, which is good for lung capacity. ”
This attitude was as if the daughter was not his own.
Even though Yinuo is a little overly nervous, Xiao Lu, as a man, is completely unable to understand the anxiety brought by postpartum depression to Yinuo.
After the dismissal of his sister-in-law and Xiao Lu's mother came to take care of Yinuo, the war situation further escalated.
The mother-in-law took the child out, patronized and watched people play mahjong, completely unaware that the stroller slid down the slope.
Yinuo's daughter Hehe fell from the car to the ground, and this scene was just seen by Yinuo, who went out to look for his daughter and mother-in-law.
Even the little uncle was still eating and drinking at home, and his mouth was yin and yang: "Our mother is sixty, is it time for the daughter-in-law to serve?" ”
The two families quarreled, and Xiao Lu also had some breakdowns.
On the phone, he heard his wife and his mother arguing, and his first time was not to go upstairs to persuade him, but to hide in the car to escape from reality.
Even cheating, but also let the little three make trouble at the child's 100-day feast.
Originally, Yinuo was a teacher of the people, and he was intellectually elegant on the podium.
But she was anxious and tense all the time.
People who didn't understand had to ask her why she was hysterical.
And those who have experienced it can only be silent, comforting her: "Endure." ”
People seem to have tacitly accepted that procreation is a mother's duty, and from the moment the child is born, women naturally complete the transition from ordinary women to mothers.
After giving birth, everyone's eyes were on the newborn, and Yinuo weakly tried to reach the water several times, but no one cared.
Finally, Yinuo's mother noticed and fed her daughter water.
In the program "Wife's Romantic Trip", Bao Bell described the scene after his wife Bao Wenjing gave birth.
The mother-in-law and the mother-in-law ran into the delivery room one after another, the mother-in-law covered her mouth and cried, and the mother-in-law was smiling.
Even such differences are reflected in the aftermath of divorce.
Xiao Lu's popularity in the marriage market has not decreased but has risen, he has money and housing ability, and he has also met Dong Fan, who is younger and more beautiful and sensible than Yinuo.
And Yinuo, who is divorced with a baby, has no confidence in the face of Lao Xie, a suitor who has liked her for many years, not to mention that after the second marriage, he will be harassed by the man's family.
Because of the physical and mental damage caused by childbirth, the stagnation of the workplace, and the sacrifice to the family, it is difficult to measure.
Now the plot has progressed to the point where Yinuo's daughter Hehe was diagnosed with leukemia, and Yinuo tried his best to save his daughter's life, and had to turn back to Xiao Lu to help with matching.
The two even plan to ignore the current family, have another child, and use the umbilical cord blood of the newborn to save Hehe.
Compared with the real birth of the first half, the story of the chicken feathers of the two families in the back has also been accused by netizens of being too dog bloody.
However, the dog blood in the play is even a glorified reality.
"Dear Child" is based on real events, and life is more helpless than the TV series.
But what is even more depressing may be the high position in the comment area.
If Xiao Lu is a representative of ordinary middle-aged men in China, even if he can be considerate of his wife on the surface, he cannot actually empathize with women at all; then the comment area allows us to see how much this part of the group is.
Just watching a drama is still like this, as if you can already predict what kind of attitude your wife will have in the future in the face of postpartum anxiety.
Showing the truth is not the same as selling anxiety, and the meaning of "Dear Child" is not to dissuade many women from having children, but to let them know the truth and consequences of childbearing.
Just like Yinuo, the last second he still said: "I can't give birth to her at such a big age?" “
The next second it hurt into a cold sweat, crying and saying to my mother, "It hurts too much, I can't give birth." ”
It's better to make a decision based on a clear understanding of the consequences than to be lured into a trap by a beautiful fantasy and never look back.