The baby who cries at every turn and the baby who does not love to cry, the gap is obvious after growing up, and parents should pay attention to it
Every baby comes into this world with a cry, and the parents standing outside the delivery room will let go of their hanging hearts and think that the louder the child's cry, the healthier he is, but as the child grows up, it seems that "crying" is no longer popular.
And every time the child cries, if the parents do not stop for a while, they will be labeled as disobedient, crying at every turn, not showing up, etc., as if crying is a very bad behavior.
So what is the gap between crying children and children who don't?
1. Children who love to cry have strong emotional regulation ability
Crying is usually the way and channel for children to dispel negative emotions by themselves, children will vent their emotions by crying, and after crying, calm their emotions as quickly as possible and restore to the best state.
This is also the embodiment of emotional management ability, if the child does not cry, always hold the negative emotions in the heart, so that long-term suppression has nowhere to release, which is not conducive to the healthy development of the child's physical and mental health, and will not understand expression and venting when he grows up.
2. Crying children have higher emotional intelligence
American psychologist Susan David found through research that those children with poor emotional perception ability (commonly known as low emotional intelligence) seem to be wrapped in a diaphragm that blocks the nerves that extend outward. And not crying is one of the barriers.
On the contrary, people with high emotional intelligence are more likely to cry their noses, He Jiong, Xiao S, Cai Kangyong are often in the show, because they are moved to cry the host, because they have strong emotional perception, that is, high emotional intelligence, so they are more popular, and no one laughs at them because men cry.
3. Stronger empathy
We often say that Geng Zhi Boy, machismo is basically disguised to say that this person has low emotional intelligence, that is, he cannot empathize with others, behaves indifferently and cannot feel the emotions of others.
If the child is not allowed to express emotions from an early age, then the child is easy to become sluggish in his perception of emotions and cannot empathize with the emotions of others, then it is difficult for him to become a popular person, and it is difficult to live with himself in the group.
How to teach children to express emotions and cultivate emotional intelligence
1. Give your crying child a little more patience
The child's crying shows that he has collapsed emotionally, so give the child a little more patience, let the child vent first, and then ask him what's going on, at this time the parents do not need to say anything, give the child a hug, let the child calm down.
Parents should not rush to stop it, let alone compete with their children, and let the children eliminate negative emotions in order to better develop physically and mentally.
2. A child who does not cry encourages him to cry
Some children are very stubborn, that is, do not cry, they are angry and do not speak, how to ask do not say, parents will be very anxious, in fact, we know that he is not happy, directly tell him: really unhappy to cry out, will be more comfortable, or tell him to say it, see if the mother can help you? Wait a minute
Teach children to express emotions, perceive emotional changes, learn to communicate or take children away from sad places, so that children can release and soothe in the right place.
3. Maintain communication with your child
Every day at the time of eating, or bathing, walking can communicate with children, and this is also the time when children's psychology is most relaxed, chat about what happened to children in kindergarten and school during the day.
Parent-child feelings can be brought closer, and children can trust themselves, through long-term communication children will learn to express emotions correctly, and parents can also find changes in children's emotions in time.
Do not stop the child from venting emotions, do not force the child to express emotions, help the child learn emotional management, and let the child develop physically and mentally.