We often hear parents of middle school students say this:
Children are very rebellious in adolescence, and their own ideas are right and not easy to manage
It seems that in families with middle school students, adolescence is the main conflict between parents and children
So what the hell is adolescence? Why don't animals have puberty?
The history of mankind has been more than a million years
The emergence of writing is also 70000 or 8000 years old
However, the concept of adolescence is less than a hundred years old
Due to the great changes in society, the social life cycle of human beings is different
Only then did a concept of adolescence emerge
In the previous farming era, people didn't need to spend that much time in school
As long as the body is mature, you can start a family
At that time, people were also very limited in their choice of occupation and way of living
Now, everyone has more free choices
We can choose to be the people we want to be and live the life we want to live
Choose one more, life is like a big candy store
It's full of candies
Why do parents say that the sweet one must be the one I think tastes the best?
Adolescence is born!
Psychological changes in adolescent children are usually increased independence and self-awareness
There is rebellion and resistance to the parental correctional church
Self-esteem is strong, and I am particularly concerned about what others say about me
So, what can parents do to get along better with their children? The following 3 points are very important:
First, let go of your stature and don't always educate as a preacher
Parents are often accustomed to measuring their children's right and wrong with their own experiences and experiences
However, the times are evolving, and some ideas need to be constantly updated
Therefore, it is very important to calm down and communicate with children on an equal footing
Second, learn to wait
When the child has rebellious emotions, parents must not directly confront the child
Wait until the child vents his emotions before solving the problem
In this way, the child can accept it, otherwise the child will not be able to listen to the parents under the guidance of emotions
At this time, silence is better than sound, and just the right silence is more powerful
Third, learn to chat with your child
Parents should learn to approach their children, and when their children come home from school, they should not rush to urge him to write homework
First sit down and chat with your child and communicate your feelings
Even if you don't agree with what your child says, maintain a good chat environment
Listen to the child finish speaking, so that the child can feel the love of the parents and the warmth of the family
In short, adolescent children's emotions flow quickly and need parents to deal with it rationally!