My friend asked me, what is the greatest filial piety?
I thought about it for a long time and told him that the greatest filial piety for me may be to live through my parents.
The friend was surprised, and then silenced.
After reaching middle age, many people around them have heard about the difficulty of getting along with their parents and the difficulty of filial piety. I admit all this.
The contradictions caused by different concepts of life and habits exist in every family, it is difficult for everyone to change, it is understandable for children to be busy with life, and the inability to accompany them all the time is a reality for the vast majority of people.
But filial piety, is it really just obedience, care, food and clothing, and companionship? When your parents are old, what do they care about most?
It is up to us to live after them.
Before, I never looked at it this way, until a few years ago, when my brother left, I touched the mind of my parents from the details before and after. When I think about it, in the past ten years, how many clear intentions my parents have been thrown aside as nagging.
We drink, as long as our parents know, we must worry about getting angry, and we still have to prepare honey to send over.
I smoked, my parents knew there was no way to change, and the only requirement was to smoke better.
But whenever he is tired of speaking and sighs a few times, his parents will ask if his body can eat well.
If you cough a few times or feel uncomfortable on the phone or at home, be sure to stare at a result and ask over and over again for a long time.
You can't tell your parents about a medical examination, as long as you say it, you need to report safety item by item.
I had several injuries to my legs and feet, and as soon as the sky changed, my parents' phones would come.
The younger brother picked up his parents to live at that time, and within a few days, his parents felt that his brother was too much abnormal, and forced him to go to the hospital to check the early stage of diabetes.
I resigned at the age of forty-five, and my parents did not have a word of dissuasion, saying that they were too tired and just rested.
Rest at home, parents' phone calls are also the same, to exercise more, to go out and walk around more, to eat more good, not to save money, try not to stay up late.
Don't say uncomfortable, don't say accidents, don't say depressed, don't say stress, don't say illness, hide everything thoroughly, parents can still see the problems that make them unable to let go from all the disguised surfaces, from the details.
Now that we think of those contradictions, who dares to say that the temper we lose with our parents, the complaints in our hearts, the parents have changed? However, how can our parents' worries and intentions about us change a little? They deal with themselves to the extreme in life, but on top of food, clothing, shelter and transportation, have they ever dealt with us a little?
I have also said to my parents because of this clear and shaky difference, asking them to have a heart, they should put more on improving their quality of life, rather than putting it all on us, but parents have always been speechless: When parents don't worry about their children, is it still a parent?
Parents have also said many times on this issue that at their age, they have long been indifferent to any requirements, have long been not afraid of life and death, and the only thing that cannot be put down is their children.
According to them, as long as they are still alive and have a tone, it is impossible to watch their children have any problems. Willing to be impatient or impatient, wait until they are gone, and when they are gone, the children can be their own masters completely.
In fact, the parents' discipline and nagging, will the children listen? As parents' children, we all have numbers in our hearts.
But we are the whole world of parents, we are the destiny of our parents, we are the most important responsibility and spirit of our parents in their lives. As children, do we know it ourselves?
As a parent, when you are old, you will live completely in your children. As children, do we know it ourselves?
Although they are parents, in their hearts as they grow old, children are the pillars that support them to live. As children, do we know it ourselves?
Letting your child, and finally sending himself away, is the greatest wish of every parent. As children, do we know it ourselves?
In the hearts of parents, it is important for children to be able to exist healthily in their eyes, beyond the existence of this world. As children, do we know it ourselves?
We thought that if our parents were there, we had a home. But in the hearts of parents, the child is there, and the home is there. As children, do we know it ourselves?
As a child, if you know it from now on, if you love your parents, then try to live, no matter what, you must live indomitable, you must live past your parents.
Believe me, this is the greatest comfort and filial piety we can give to our parents.
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