Wen 丨 Chen Mingyan
She said that after becoming a mother, there are only goldfish-like memories, spending money like flowing water, the past passes with the wind, unconsciously a year has passed, what has been done this year, in retrospect, it seems that there is only the shadow of the child, which confirms the lyrics of "full of children crying and laughing".
She also said that after becoming a mother, she seems to have become omnipotent, going to the workplace and getting into the kitchen; her memory is unprecedentedly strengthened, the children's clothes and shoes and socks hidden in the corners of the horns, she is also like a positioning device, she can search out; the ability to predict is upup, and the gold-devouring beasts know how much blood will be produced.
On the last day of 2021, let's take a look at what moms' annual bills look like.
Mom: @ Xiaoxue 25 years old baby: 5 months
In June this year, when linboy was approaching, when she was reunited with her friends, Xiaoxue patted her stomach and said, "Many people say it is a boy, but I prefer to be a girl, and a girl is a mother's intimate little cotton jacket." In July, the child was born, it was a baby girl, which made Xiaoxue breathe a sigh of relief, "The male baby fell to the ground, the house and the car ticket, all of a sudden you can see the head." ”
Raising a baby for 5 months, even if Xiaoxue has a large personality, it is inevitable to feel the "pressure mountain", the previous salary was enough to spend on themselves, and after giving birth to a baby, it obviously felt stretched, and the focus of consumption also changed. Before giving birth to a baby, "double eleven" "double twelve" and other consumption festivals, is the home of Xiaoxue solo, clothes bags, shoes and cosmetics, what to buy, after the birth of the child, her shopping plan has gradually tilted to this little guy, shopping cart, more than a lot of baby products, not like to calculate the gains and losses of Xiaoxue also learned to be careful, pay attention to more preferential activities, milk powder diapers are also a whole box of buy.
Like many post-95 mothers, Xiaoxue is also facing the contradiction between raising a baby and the workplace, and she worries about the future career planning, "As the saying goes, 'one pregnancy is stupid for three years', pregnancy in October, giving birth to a child for half a year, equivalent to pressing the pause button for nearly two years, which is a fatal injury for women in the workplace, and all career planning and promotion plans will be stranded." Is this an alternative expense? ”
Mom: @ Ms. Zhou 41 years old baby: 6 years old
"There are no annual bills, but in terms of experience, children's consumption, course fees, extracurricular fees, meals, clothing and other expenses are larger." Ms. Zhou posted a bill for December this year, which showed that the children spent a total of 7709.7 yuan in that month, accounting for 39.1%, which was the largest expenditure item of the month.
Mom: @Morning Dawn 51 years old baby: 17 years old
When she was a student, Chenxi's grades were very good, but due to poor family conditions, many brothers and sisters, she only read to high school, so after having children, one of her thoughts was: no matter how poor she is, she cannot be poor in education, and no matter how bitter she is, she cannot be bitter about children.
This year, the eldest daughter has come out to work, achieved economic independence, let Chenxi relieved, the son of the third year of high school, is a critical period, just the son's education costs, including tuition and miscellaneous fees, teaching materials, make-up lessons, living expenses, accommodation costs and other expenses, has spent about 50,000 yuan. Morning Dawn works in the taste house, the salary is not particularly high, and she has gone all out to provide the material conditions for the child.
Raising a daughter, a son, just to educate this one, it takes a lot of energy, but in the eyes of the children, their mothers are always silent, gentle, and have not blamed them for their unrealistic expenses. Son likes to play games, hundreds of dollars of game equipment, Chenxi has never stopped him from consuming, like sports, Chenxi will fully support his hobbies, as a woman who is not keen on sports, she also bought a Kobe commemorative bracelet for her child.
Mom: @ Ms. Wu 45 years old baby: 19 years old
"The biggest expense of the year should be the tuition and living expenses of children."
Ms. Wu counted them one by one with her fingers.
Children go to college in other places, the annual tuition fee of 5200 yuan is paid in one lump sum, the monthly living expenses are 2500 yuan to the card, the first semester of enrollment, Ms. Wu and Mr. Wu sent their daughters to school, and played for a few days, equivalent to a family trip. Since her daughter enrolled in school, the total cost spent on her is about 70,000 yuan...
Ms. Wu felt that since her child went to college, the number of times she used WeChat transfers has suddenly increased, "First-tier cities have high consumption, college students also have to have a social life, go to dinner, travel, go to research, to increase knowledge, she also learned makeup, clothes change non-stop, spring festival home for the New Year, tickets are booked again, two or three thousand is easy to disappear the shadow ... When a child goes to college, it is understandable that the cost is large. ”
How much does it cost to raise a baby? Ms. Wu shook her head and smiled and said: "From childhood to adulthood, her temperament is like this, she loves to buy things randomly, and she doesn't know how much money she wasted, Double Eleven bought a bunch of things for me and her dad, and down jackets, Hainan This weather where to use down jackets, she said she was cold there, she wanted to buy for us too." She sighed, "I hope that she can support herself when she goes out of society in the future, and don't spend money to make a big deal out of it." ”
Mom: @ Ms. Le Le 46 years old baby: 22 years old
"How does it feel to raise a baby? That is very tired, too much to worry about, afraid to give too little. LeLe said.
Le Le believes that the house is the child's bottom, but also the basic material conditions for girls to be independent, has always wanted to prepare a suite for the child, but because of the house that has not been favored before, but also because of the factors of the purchase restriction of Hainan commercial housing, the plan has to be stranded, this year is not nervous, there are also houses that are favored, and the family plan to buy a house for the child is on the agenda.
"When it comes to pressure, there will still be some, after all, it is not a small amount for us, because it is a loan, and the down payment plus miscellaneous expenses are also hundreds of thousands of dollars in advance."
"Buying a house for a child just wants her to have a little easier life and not put too much pressure on her." She smiled and said, "But she doesn't seem to have much pressure right now, so she lives a very leisurely life." ”
Mom: @ Ms. Liang 88 years old baby: 45+
Ms. Liang, 88, has no income and now lives in rural Hainan. She has no pension, the most in her pocket is only the most two thousand yuan, from a hundred to the corner, neatly stacked together, is the pocket money given by the children, she is reluctant to spend on herself, carrying it around, afraid that she does not know where to lose it. The children always told her not to be frugal, what to buy and what to buy, she shook her head, saying that she did not need to eat and drink, and the more bitter days had survived, and what was not satisfied with her life now?
Her money comes from her children, and always goes to them. This year's Spring Festival, children drag home to take home for the New Year, chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea always need to be prepared, the missing pots and pans need to be replenished, the old man pays for the goods at his own expense, no matter when, no matter how old the children are, she is silently worried about everything "Tian Luo Grandma"; two daughters go home to visit the door, the red envelopes always have to be ready, it is not easy to come back, there must always be some sense of ceremony, the red envelopes are not much, fifty-one hundred, always heart, but also to send good luck to the children.
In July this year, Ms. Liang, who was "cutting and searching", sent out a thick thousand yuan red envelope, she grinned, "Grandma is old, can't worry too much, you read good books, get admitted to college, come out later to have a good job, can support yourself, Grandma will be assured." "That's her hope for her grandchildren.