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Some people say that a woman's IQ when she is in love is zero, so you can't imagine what kind of unbelievable things she will do.
A friend and a boy quarreled and got angry, but the man just happened to be particularly busy at work during that time, for the friend's crying, he couldn't take care of it at all, who knew that the friend seemed to have been greatly wronged, and deleted the man's WeChat in anger.
Later, the man finally took time out to comfort her, but she just refused to pay attention, the man actually still cares about this relationship, so under his perseverance, the friend finally spoke to him.
But every time she said less than two words began to complain about the man's not, although the man has made the greatest concession, but she still clings to the man's mistake, the man asked her what to do in the end to calm the anger in her heart, but she only cares about venting her emotions, excited and does not forget to throw out a few dirty words.
After an emotional release, she finally felt that she had a bad breath, but this time it was the man who deleted her.
Women will always take love as the focus of life, but for men, there are many more important things in life, love is just a dispensable luxury, how can he use all his energy and patience to accommodate a reasonable woman.
Some people say that only a child can cry and make trouble when they don't get something, and mature people have long hidden their emotions and are moody.
Of course, love should be more so.
Love arises entirely because of the mutual attraction of two people, just think, who will tolerate a woman's unreasonable behavior again and again, not to mention, this behavior is still very cheap.
A woman should understand the truth most that love can be without, but it cannot be without politeness and demeanor, and it cannot be done cheaply in front of men.
01 Of course, it is worth spending men's money
There is such a plot in the TV series "The Next Stop is Happiness", the beautiful salesman of the decoration company Cong Xiao went on a blind date and met the flower shop owner who made her fall in love at first sight, at the same time, the flower shop owner was also very satisfied with Cong Xiao, so he gave his credit card to Cong Xiao.
On the weekend, Cong Xiao and colleague He Fanxing went shopping at the mall, she bought a favorite dress, but when she paid, she used her own bank card, He Fanxing asked her, why not use the credit card given by the florist owner?
Cong smiled strangely and said that of course he could not swipe his card now, and the purpose of his credit card to the woman was to test the woman's consumption level, and then use this to judge whether the woman was suitable to be his wife.
Sure enough, it turned out that Cong Xiao's guess was correct, because the florist owner was dating several girls at the same time, and he also gave each woman a credit card, and his purpose was to screen out an affordable woman as a wife.
Some women think that it is natural for women to spend men's money, but this is a very cheap behavior in the eyes of men, and men always appreciate women with independent personalities, not people who will only be attached to him.
Shu Ting wrote in "To the Oak Tree": "If I love you, I will never be like the Ling Xiao flower climbing the edge, borrowing your high branches to show off myself; If I love you, I will never learn the birds of infatuation, repeat simple songs for the shade; it is not only like a spring, sending cool comfort all year round, nor is it just like a dangerous peak, increasing your height and setting off your majesty. Even daylight. Even spring rains. ”
In any relationship, the premise of maintaining balance is equality, and the basis of equality is economic equality, if a woman tries to exchange youth for money from men, then this seems to be an equal exchange, but in fact men will never respect such a woman, because she has turned this relationship into "exchange".
There is a saying that goes well: "All the gifts of fate have long been secretly priced." "You should have taken a man's money for granted, and one day you will have to pay the same price."
02 Pleasing flattery
Someone once said: "The person who can really appreciate you will always appreciate your proud appearance, not your pretending to be humble and pretending to be pleasing." ”
Men always appreciate confident women, not humble flattery for the sake of love.
Psychologists have pointed out that there is a kind of woman who infinitely lowers her bottom line and principles for love, this kind of person is called a flattering personality, and one of the characteristics of this personality is that no matter what happens in a relationship, she will blame herself for her mistakes.
So we will see such a plot, when two people quarrel, it is always the woman who confesses the mistake, even if the man makes a mistake of principle, she will find various reasons to persuade herself to forgive each other.
But can this really impress a man? On the contrary, the more a woman tries to please a man in this way, the more the man will treat her more harshly until he develops disgust and disgust.
Mature women may admit their mistakes when they get along with people, but they will not be humble and flattering. Because she knows that once a person gives up her dignity for love, then she will never want to be respected by men.
03 Emotional
Writer Zhou Guoping once said: "It is instinctive to be picky about people close to you, but to overcome your instincts and not be picky about people who are close to you is a kind of upbringing." ”
Men's appreciation of women is not only in talent and knowledge, but also in education.
A cultured woman will know how to control emotions and control emotions, and a woman who is not educated enough will let emotions play.
After reading such a story, the boy has a crush on the girl for a long time, but he has always been ashamed to open his mouth, so he secretly came to the girl's house, hoping to use this opportunity to meet the girl and create another encounter, but when he walked to the girl's door full of joy, he found that the girl was arguing with a middle-aged woman, and the girl's strength was no less than that of a middle-aged woman who would scold the street.
Seeing this scene, the boy froze, and then he turned around and sneaked away. Since then, his impression of the girl has been greatly reduced, and he no longer feels the same way he used to feel about her.
It turns out that no matter how good a feeling is, it will lose to a bad emotion.
Smart women have long learned emotional management, she will not easily reveal her bad emotions, and will not bring bad emotions to others, and those women who are emotional at every turn really need to further cultivate themselves.
Sometimes you really can't blame others for changing their minds too quickly, maybe you have done something that makes him look down on him, and he will turn away from you. So, if you want to keep a person and attract a person, you must first make yourself look worthy of being owned, and do more things that add value to yourself, rather than doing things that are cheap.
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