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In the workplace, the higher the emotional intelligence of the person, the more able to "fish in the water".
As the saying goes, the snake line has a snake road, and the mouse line has a mouse road, each with its own number of roads. In the workplace, different types of people have different ways of standing.
For example, people who can work hard all day long, the more they work, the more they work; those who can speak the Tao, with "three inches of incorruptible tongue", let others "obey their own orders".
He Yan was a favorite of the Qianlong Emperor of the Qing Dynasty and a notorious corrupt official. But no matter how much he amassed wealth, the Qianlong Emperor never touched a hair of his sweat, because He Yan was a person with a high emotional intelligence.
First of all, He Yan was a good learner, and he not only mastered the Manchu, Chinese, Tibetan, and Mongolian languages, but also was also a good hand at poetry. Secondly, talking to Waka is always euphemistic and precise, and the praise is pandered to without revealing traces. Again, He Yan said nothing to Qianlong's instructions, and after gaining insight into the emperor's thoughts, he threw himself into his favor.
As a result, He Yan became the most convenient "tool man" used by the Qianlong Emperor, and naturally he was selectively invisible to his "bad deeds".
Although hezhen's way of being an official has been criticized a lot, people have to admit that in the workplace, constantly improving their emotional intelligence is often more important than improving their professional skills. The higher the emotional intelligence, the more "like a fish in the water".
And a person with high emotional intelligence often does the following points.
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Misbehaving, and "mingling" with the crowd.
There is such a scene in the Analects: Zilu, Zeng Hao, Ran You, and Gongxi Hua sit. That is to say, one day, Confucius and these students were in class, confucius asked everyone what they wanted to do in the future, and he asked everyone to speak freely and not to be taboo because he was a teacher.
So, the students spoke in turn. Zilu was the oldest, the first to speak, he said that he was going to be a qing doctor.
The ideal of Ran is to make a small country within a radius of sixty or seventy or fifty or sixty miles rich within three years.
Gong Xihua's goal is to be a celebrant.
Zeng Dian's last speech, his thoughts and the previous three people are very different, what he yearns for most is: "Mo Chun, the spring clothes are completed; the crown is five or six, the boy is six or seven, the bath is Yi, the wind is like a dance, and the song returns." ”
Confucius commented one after another, and finally expressed his ambition: he agreed with Zengdian's idea and wanted to go with him to walk, swim, sing, and embrace the spring breeze.
After reading this article, the Confucius in people's minds seems to be no longer a serious teacher who is high up and says nothing, but an amiable elder, an old man next door who also longs for a leisurely life.
How can such a teacher who misbehaves and "mingles" with his students not let people "kiss his teacher and believe in his way"?
People in the workplace, want to win recognition, in addition to excellent technology, ability online, more important, is with anyone can "mingle", up to the "first hand", down to the cleaner, can have something to say, can find their own emotional resonance with others topics or views.
When a person and most of the people around them have an emotional connection, the feelings they have paid will be rewarded, and once they encounter trouble, the people around them will come to ask for warmth.
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Burning incense in a cold temple will eventually get unexpected rewards.
Competition in the workplace is always everywhere, wave after wave. Relying on a person's "single fight" can only win a moment of scenery and stability. If you want to be invincible for a long time, you need to weave a strong network of contacts in order to "support" yourself.
How to establish such a network of connections is really troubling.
Some people try their best to integrate into the "network" of a higher class than themselves, always hoping that those who are already "powerful" can become their "backers" and get their promotion when the opportunity for promotion and salary increase comes.
However, it turns out that no one will help a "humble" person if it is not related to others.
Therefore, people with high emotional intelligence know how to "burn incense in a cold temple".
For example, for those who work steadily but are silent; for those who are very capable but not "social", they always have more sincerity and more support.
Whether it is to cooperate with the work or to communicate in private, they all use their hearts and feelings to let the other party feel the friendship of "feeling sorry for each other". At the same time, I also look at each other, make common progress in improving my ability level, and be willing to let myself "suffer losses" on the way to overcome difficulties, and over time, I will become a "friend of suffering".
Once the other party comes out on top, the first thing that naturally comes to mind is the person who has suffered together.
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The beauty of adulthood, they are willing to act as "paving stones".
In the workplace, there is such a saying: "Make up for each other' stages, good dramas and stages; dismantle each other's stages and collapse together." ”
A person with high emotional intelligence knows best that no matter how many unaccustomed practices and behaviors there are for leaders and colleagues, they must pay attention to "internal and external differences." If you have to make an evaluation, it must be the words of adult beauty.
The Western Han Dynasty minister Bingji originally arose from the prison law officials, but later studied "Poetry" and "Etiquette", and gradually advocated generosity and liked courtesy.
Bingji's subordinates had a person who was guilty and incompetent, so Bingji gave him a long vacation and let him leave his post by himself, but there was no investigation and implementation, so it was not done.
There are many people who have been favored by Bingji, so whenever they hear the slightest news that there is a possibility that Bingji is in danger, they will immediately report it.
With the help of everyone, Bingji's career was able to "end well", and after his death, he was posthumously recognized as "Hou" by the emperor.
It can be seen that a person who is good at "adult beauty" and a person who is willing to help others "difficult" behind his back will eventually reap more beauty.
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Conclusion:
In the workplace, don't be a person who will only bury his head in work. Many times, the "emotional card" played out seems to have no immediate effect, but it is like a seed, which will always blossom and bear fruit.
For those who deserve to pay sincerity, do not skimp on true feelings; for those who deserve to be kind, pay kindness; for those who exchange benefits, do not beat them to death with a stick, and leave their own roads wider and wider.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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