In life, it is often said that to love a person is to love the other person's whole, and you should not think about the past, such as when you are in love.
People who have this kind of thinking are still relatively common in today's society, and they are often called "love brains" by people around them.
Many women fall in love with a person, even if many people say that the man has a problem, the man is not worthy of trust, but women who are in love will often deceive themselves.
They will convince themselves to trust each other, and stubbornly believe that the people who prevent them from being with their lovers are "stumbling blocks" to their own love.
When they were hurt, some women suddenly realized that the wrong person was themselves all the time.
Of course, many women are not hopeless, as long as they love themselves a little more and are as rational as possible, they can avoid many harms.
As a person who has come over, I remind everyone that there are three kinds of men's love history that must be understood clearly, otherwise it is easy to suffer losses in the future!
1, almost do not provoke themselves to be angry, look too gentle and considerate men
Her friend Xiaobu is a very cute girl, she grew up in a very happy family, and her personality is also very simple.
During college, Xiaobu met the senior Ah Yang, who was gentle and considerate and took good care of Xiaobu. Therefore, when the senior confessed to Xiaobu later, Xiaobu agreed without hesitation.
The people around them also blessed Xiaobu and found someone who would hurt his girlfriend so much.
But when the two were together for less than 1 year, Xiaobu told everyone that she and the senior had broken up.
The reason is that the other party's love history is too rich, Xiaobu is often provoked by one of the senior's ex-girlfriends, and has a particularly bad life in school, although the senior comforted her, but she is very unhappy in her heart, so she simply separates.
Otherwise, when Xiaobu saw the gentle face of the senior, he would think that it was tuned out by a certain ex-girlfriend, and those ex-girlfriends were still very disrespectful to themselves, and they were somewhat diaphragm.
Love teaches many people to grow, no one in the world is a natural love master, many men have learned something in love again and again, and then they have become gentle and considerate.
Therefore, if the person you like is in contact with yourself, you rarely provoke yourself to be angry, and every time you lose your temper, it is like a punch on the cotton, you must be vigilant, and you may not be able to say that the other party is a person who has been "experienced in hundreds of battles".
Such men, it is difficult to understand their true feelings, when they know that they are angry, it is often easy to find the right solution.
If a woman's heart is relatively unstable, it is easy to be coaxed around by such a high-ranking man. Then he entered a different state, while feeling comfortable with his boyfriend's thoughtfulness, he was anxious because his boyfriend was too considerate, afraid that sooner or later he would become the person who taught him to grow.
Taking advantage of the fact that you are not yet in the mud, you can dig up the other party's love history, if you can accept it, you can continue, and if you can't accept it, you can leave in time, so that you can avoid falling into pain in the future because of your inner entanglement.
2. Older men
I've seen an emotional show before, where the female guest has been with her boyfriend from the countryside for several years and is already living together.
After living together, the boyfriend's "sister" often came to live at home, and the female guests also liked the little girl, and the two got along very well.
The female guest is ready to spend her life with her boyfriend, but before getting married, she accidentally learns that the little girl she likes is the boyfriend's daughter!
The female guest was difficult to accept for a while, and her boyfriend once told her that the reason why she was not married in her thirties was because she wanted to have a career and then get married, she also believed it, but she did not expect that the truth was not so.
Therefore, the female guest was particularly angry, not that she could not accept that her boyfriend had a daughter, but that she could not accept that the other party was so deceitful!
The boyfriend on the show also wants to save her, she must not be able to quickly convince herself, without any mustard and boyfriend reconciled, after all, the other party has so many opportunities to tell herself the truth, but still chose to hide.
Friends who grew up in the countryside are likely to know that many men from the countryside do not want to start a business first and then start a family, they often have people in their early twenties, and they have people to protect them.
Even people who have this kind of thinking, seeing that their friends around them are married, will have a "go with the flow" mentality.
Men in their thirties are easily looked down upon in the countryside, but in recent years, almost no women have been willing to marry, and even if they are willing to marry, most of them have been married once.
Two people in a relationship will definitely know each other's origins. If the boyfriend is in his thirties and says that he did not think about love in the early years, he should pay attention to it, which is generally not very valid.
At this time, it is necessary to understand each other's love history, otherwise in the future, I will inexplicably become a stepmother and regret it will be too late. I believe that many women have encountered this situation, thinking that the raw rice has been cooked anyway, don't toss it, but the heart will definitely be wronged.
3, from time to time to compare the current girlfriend and ex-girlfriend of the man
The small group of colleagues likes to tell everyone about her and her boyfriend, the other party has a good family, looks good, and is very tolerant of the small group. The only thing that the small group is dissatisfied with is that the boyfriend always likes to compare himself with his ex-girlfriend.
When she goes to the costume point, the small group of boyfriends will also choose clothes for her that do not match her style. Xiao Qun expressed his dissatisfaction, but the other party blocked Xiao Qun back with a word, which probably means that Xiao Qun's vision is not as good as his former girlfriend.
The small group is very unconvinced, but the more times it is, the small group will also have some ideas, thinking that they may really be able to change the style. After seeing the attitude of the small group, the small group boyfriend is even more inching forward, even the behavior and action, he has to manage.
Xiao Qun really loves her boyfriend too much, in order not to lose each other, Xiao Qun tries to meet her boyfriend's requirements as much as possible. Until one day, Xiao Qun was found by a sexy woman, who said that she was the ex-girlfriend of Xiao Qun's boyfriend, who had just returned to China and hoped that Xiao Qun would retreat.
As a result, Xiaoqun's boyfriend happened to come to her, and after Xiaoqun saw her boyfriend's expression, he knew that he had lost. Sure enough, it didn't take long for the small group to be dumped. After that, Xiaoqun vowed that after making a boyfriend, he must understand the other party's love history to see if the other party still has the possibility of reconciling with his ex-girlfriend.
It's okay to love someone, but you shouldn't lose your true self for the sake of the other person.
In this world, everyone is unique, and it is really dangerous to reluctantly do what you don't like and become another person you don't know.
Many men, when in love, do not like each other, but are lonely and lonely, so as to find a partner.
So if your boyfriend always compares himself with his ex-girlfriend, but also allows himself to imitate each other, must not be soft-hearted, which will deepen his love for his ex-girlfriend, once the ex-girlfriend turns back, the man may run to the ex-girlfriend without saying a word.
You can put yourself in the shoes of your current boyfriend and think about what kind of reason would it be for you to let your current boyfriend learn the dressing style, words and deeds, etc. of your ex-boyfriend? Can't it be because of hate, right?
epilogue:
The love history of the above three kinds of men is still necessary to understand clearly, do not feel that this will hurt the feelings between the two people. If you don't ask, the last sad person will most likely be yourself.
To love a person, you must love the other person's whole, this is a prerequisite, if you know nothing about your boyfriend, blindly love him, it is stupid.
When you know all the things the other party has done and still choose to love him, then there is nothing to say, even if you are injured, you will not regret it too much, after all, the road is chosen by yourself.
If the other half is really with themselves, most of them will not choose to hide, unless they have some destination to associate with themselves, this situation has to be prevented. No woman likes to deal with a mess for her significant other.
When it is time to get married, a mother who claims to be her husband's children, or the white moonlight of her husband, or a woman who has been scum by her husband, has found herself, and she is not ready to deal with it, and the future days will have to be tossed.
Will you ask about your boyfriend's love history? Feel free to leave a comment below to discuss.
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