The more I grow up, the more I understand that there is no immutable thing in this world, and there is no past that cannot be forgotten.
Love is the same, always sweet at the beginning, but finally to torture each other to the end, since then the two people who love each other turned away, we have all failed ourselves many times because of our feelings.
But because of the experiences, those experiences, whether sweet or sour, have become our most precious memories.
I saw a story of a girl who broke up with her partner on the Internet, and she said that she belonged to the kind of person who loved each other more the longer they spent together, but her love for him ended with the other half saying to herself: "I'm sorry, I'm tired, let's separate." I want to be relieved. ”
This sentence became a thorn in her heart, so that she could not forget it after many years, and she even constantly doubted whether she had put too much pressure on the other party in this relationship, and whether she made the other party feel uncomfortable.
Seeing these words, I really feel sorry for this girl, after all, feelings have always been mutual. If something goes wrong with a relationship, how can you blame yourself for everything? There is no way for us to stop the final direction of a relationship, two people not loving to the end, once promised not to be fulfilled one by one, these are the norm.
In the past, when chasing you, when saying I love you, I was willing to line up for hours to buy what you liked to eat, cook for you, warm your stomach when your stomach hurts, and say that it was because of love, everything was worth it.
But later, when he mentioned cooking together and walking together, he felt that these things were troublesome and not good at home?
When we first were together, you always had endless topics, and the phone could be played for hours on end, but now, even if you sit face to face, you have nothing to say.
The beginning of every relationship begins with the promise of the mountain menghai oath, the person who said that he would accompany you to the end is him, and the person who swears to love you forever is also him. But in the end you were separated.
Once the mountains and the sea vowed, now things are not human, when sweet love has become a burden, only to survive, there is no reason to support you to continue to love, and finally you will find that everything is just talk.
I find that the vast majority of lovers who have been in a relationship for more than two years and break up have a hard time loving someone else wholeheartedly anymore. We let ourselves live as a hedgehog, and after experiencing the rise and fall of this love, we walked alone for a long, long time.
Over time, we began to learn to enjoy the happiness that singleness brought to us, and we no longer look forward to feelings. It's not that no one chases, it's not that you don't want to love, it's just that it's hard to get into the life of two people from the days of being single for many years.
I was with my former lover for six years, and I met him when I was 18 years old, but then we still had different pursuits and went in different directions. But it is undeniable that after so many years, what he influenced me in his feelings in the first place still cannot be changed.
Sometimes I think of the happy times we used to be together. Thinking back to when I first separated, I thought that I would never forget him in my life, and without him my life would be bleak.
But in hindsight, I found that in fact, forgetting a person is just like this, when I am strong enough, then a person can also live well.
Gradually, I also began to understand that in each of our lives, there will be a person who accompanies you on different journeys, no matter how deeply we love and how badly hurt we are at that time, we will not be able to withstand the healing of time after all, and those days that have been remembered have also forgotten the past.
A lot of this world is constantly changing, no one will accompany you to the end, and the only people who can really stay with us are ourselves.
Now that I think about it, although I didn't continue to be with that person, there were traces of the love that both of us had, and that person had indeed given me a lot of care and happiness, and this love was also very meaningful.
We don't have to complain about the past, and we don't have to miss each other all the time. It's enough to just live your own life.
From now on, we can all live our own lives and will not feel lost or lost because of others.
After all, all security comes from ourselves.
As the saying goes:
"Your sense of security should come from getting better every day, the weight you want to keep on the scale, the enough balance in the bank card and the full battery of the phone, not from a man's two-word love words and commitments." 」
This sentence is addressed to all girls who are eager to love and be loved, and to encourage you.
Text: Little Star
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