We are sometimes too anxious to find our perfect ending.
We don't learn how to read the cues, how to distinguish between who wants to be with us and who doesn't. To distinguish between those who will stay and those who will leave. Even after all the unanswered calls and sadness, all the hints of mistakes and misunderstandings, all the pain and embarrassment, you will never give up hope.
01.
The classic love movie "He actually doesn't like you that much", I believe many people have seen it, the movie little boy pushed the girl and said a hurtful line: "Because you smell like a dog poop", but the girl's mother told her: "The reason why he said this is because he likes you".
It's especially like when we were students and the opposite sex were playing with each other, and at that time we were having fun with these little flirts
In fact, we are often encouraged to believe in the fact that if a guy does something stupid, it must mean he likes you.
Source: The movie "He Doesn't Really Like You That Much"
At this time, once one party loses contact or suddenly withdraws, it will bring confusion to the other party: why didn't he call me? Why don't you ask me out? Why did we talk so well and suddenly lose contact?
Whenever girls ask this question, they often hear an answer like this:
"He's embarrassed", "He may not know how to talk to you", "Or he doesn't have your contact information", "Anyway, I believe that he must like me".
This is an explanation that many girls hear most often and also like to hear. You like him, so you're willing to excuse him, but is that really the case?
In "He Actually Doesn't Like You That Much", the example of the phone call is deeply portrayed.
The girl Gigi, firmly believes that the blind date Connor will definitely call herself, because because the blind date process is very pleasant, both seem to be very satisfied, so in the subsequent daily life, Gigi stares at the phone every day and waits for Connor to call, afraid of missing this fate.
Later, in order to meet Connor again, she went to the bar where Connor used to wait several times, but she never saw him.
In fact, throughout the blind date, Connor was only polite and enthusiastic about Gigi, giving Gigi the illusion that Connor liked himself.
At this time, Connor had already asked out other girls.
Later, the bar owner couldn't look at it and advised Gigi: "If a person treats you like he doesn't care, it's really not caring, there are no exceptions." ”
02.
Yeah, no one in this world is too busy to even send a message and make a phone call, and "I'm busy" is just an eternal excuse in intersex interactions.
After all, the mood of liking someone can't be contained.
If a person really loves you, no matter how busy and tired he is, he will take the time to contact you. If you don't love, why would you wake up a person who pretends to be asleep? There is a saying that goes well: those who want to send you home, the southeast, the northwest and the southeast are all on the way; those who are willing to accompany you to dinner love to eat; those who want to see you are free for 24 hours.
We've all taken up a topic that is: Does he really like me? ”
Colleague Xiao Q, there is a good relationship with a male friend, they are college classmates, after graduation and work in a city, the relationship between the two is also heating up, eat together and watch movies amusement parks and so on many times.
The two men almost broke through the window paper. Although Xiao Q had a good temper and did not say anything, he hinted that after many times, the boy was still like an elm knot, without a little expression.
Later, on a date, the boy actually came with a schoolgirl. The student sister likes him at a glance, the whole meal is glued to him, from time to time intentionally or unintentionally a petite, let the boy open a drink sandwich a dish, the boy did not refuse, a meal to eat a small Q is extremely embarrassing.
As a result, this awkward dinner ended the ambiguous relationship between the two, and Xiao Q never took the initiative to contact the boy again.
Another friend, Lele, met a boy when traveling, chatted speculatively all night and all night, and often ate together, and within a few Tuesdays, people reached the realm of "friendship above, love is not enough". On this year's National Day, the boy took the initiative to ask her to go to the beach for a vacation, and Lele also felt that travel was the most suitable test for a person and himself, so he agreed, and the two spent the whole holiday happily and harmoniously at the beach.
But after returning, the relationship between the two still did not go any further, and even began to slowly cool down.
Later, the boys resigned from the graduate school, and their contact became weaker and weaker.
Now, when asked about travel, Lele told me about him, and at this time, they had no "later".
In fact, just like the bar owner in the movie "He Actually Doesn't Like You That Much" patiently advised Gigi, if a boy does not take the initiative to contact you, it is not because he forgot, he is busy, his aunt is sick... Or you didn't get the call...
"Wake up, the boy didn't call you, he's not interested in you!" There are no exceptions! ”
Similarly, if a man has an idea for you, believe me, he will definitely act.
03.
From a psychological point of view, if you are not sure whether the other person likes you or not, but you are curious, you can judge from the perspective of intimacy.
Ask yourself, do you know each other, trust each other, and help each other?
I know what kind of person you say, and you know me just as well, and even I want to share anything with you.
I'm willing to tell you my secret. Also want to know your secrets.
I'm willing to help you with anything to worry about, and I'm sure you do too.
If the above conditions are met, then your intimacy has been established, and you can boldly try the next step.
But the problem now is that some people are superficially good to you, but they are just enjoying ambiguity; some people seem to have little interest in you, but in fact they want to chase you in their hearts.
In the relationship, the performance of both sides is very confusing, and learning to judge can be a good bad luck.
To this end, we have a professional psychological platform within the United Nations to recommend "True Love Recognizer" for you, this assessment will help you rationally judge your feelings about ta, help you deeply and meticulously understand, what is like, what is love.
- True Love Recognizer -
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Test questions: 27 questions, a total of 6 pages of professional reports
After the test is complete, the generated report is saved permanently
▌ What you will get ▌
"Part of the following presentation report"
01. Your likes and loves scores
02. Dissect your true feelings about ta
03. Your love development suggestions