The experience of the original partner: No matter how much you love a cheating man, you must also learn to be appropriately indifferent!
Women get along with men, all men have "little ninety-nine" in their hearts, no matter how much he loves you, he also has his own calculations.
If a woman doesn't, a man will pinch you, and if you can calculate more than a man, you can pinch a man.
So in a relationship, you can be affectionate to a man, but you must also learn to calculate, otherwise your affection can easily become a cheap product in the eyes of men.
You have to understand that sometimes you are a little more expensive, a little colder, a little more difficult to get along with, and you will be calculated, and men love it more.
A previous cheating original partner and Jiaxin said how she saved her marriage,
This original partner used to be true love for the cheating man, and she fell in love with the cheating man at first sight.
Although she was in contact with her and took the initiative for a while, she was very smart and didn't take the initiative all the time.
She also knows how to do tricks, and she knows that she can't be easily obtained.
So in the later stage, she guided the cheating man to take the initiative until she confessed together.
After two people start to fall in love, it is a very normal couple relationship.
She didn't start to be inferior because she was tempted first,
The cheating man was very kind to her at that time, and he was also kind to her in various ways, and soon took her to meet her parents.
The original partner has a good personality, a good family background, and an outstanding job, with high emotional intelligence and can speak.
The parents of the cheating man were quickly dealt with, and the two got married in less than a year.
After more than a year of marriage, she had her first child, and in the fourth year, she gave birth to her second child, and she had both children.
Her in-laws help two people take care of the children, and she will still do a good job.
The original partner thought that she was a double harvest in career and love, and her family had always been very stable, but she didn't expect a man to cheat.
The object of her husband's cheating is a girl she met in the game.
He has never taken care of her husband's games.
She thinks it's not a bad thing to play games as a hobby compared to going out to drink or something.
She is overconfident in the relationship between husband and wife, and she is also too trusting in cheating men.
I didn't expect men to find women on the Internet, and they actually cheated on online dating.
When she found out about her extramarital affair, she was also emotionally out of control for a while.
couldn't accept the love and marriage that I thought was very good, so I was ruined by the mistress,
I've also learned about the junior.,It's just a very ordinary female college student.,
She felt that there was no advantage other than being younger than her.
She began to try to win back the cheating man, all kinds of flattering the cheating man, wanting to prove that she was better than the mistress.
The result is that the more she does this, the more the cheating man clutches the mistress and dislikes her.
This original partner Jiaxin said that for a long time, she was deeply mired in self-doubt.
She wondered if it was a problem with self-perception and felt that she might not be good enough.
That's why the man cheats on the mistress, and he turns a blind eye to her efforts.
She also came to Jiaxin at this time, she is a woman with strong initiative and a strong sense of self-help.
Although she is very good in all aspects, she can be regarded as a strong person.
But once she found out that her situation was wrong, she couldn't adjust it herself.
It's still very neat and straightforward to choose to ask for help, rather than immersing yourself in bad emotions.
She came to Jiaxin and did emotional counseling.
She just needed someone to help her rebuild her faith and point out what was wrong with her.
It's not that she has a problem with herself, she has a problem with her thinking.
Because I love cheating men, and because of the desire to win, I went the wrong way.
She ignored her own advantages and was busy grabbing men with Xiao San. That's the biggest mistake.
The original partner did emotional counseling on Jiaxin's side for more than a week, and basically came out.
Later, she was also very proactive and began to change her thinking to solve extramarital affairs.
All she needs to do is show her strengths and become indifferent to cheating men.
showed no love, but was superior enough, and even had the possibility of leaving.
The cheating man found out about this, and it was the cheating man who started to panic.
Is it really stupid to cheat on a man? Does he love Xiao San so much that he has no reason?
No, the psychology of this cheating man probably feels that the original partner can't do without him.
After all, the original partner fell in love first, and the original partner has always loved him.
also has two children with a cheating man, and love and family affection are fetters.
Even if he cheats, as long as his wife does not leave, the cheating man has nothing to lose.
The original partner's handling method at the beginning also made the cheating man feel that he was right.
That's why a cheating man will be indifferent to his wife's recovery.
Now the wife is completely enlightened and has no love for the cheating man. It looks like you could leave at any time.
The cheating man is scared. will start to take the initiative to save the marriage.
What you can't get is always in turmoil, and what you will never lose is not easy to be cherished.
Women want to keep the marriage alive so that their partner will always value you.
Not only do you have to be good enough, you also have to have the possibility of losing.
You love yourself far more than you love a cheating man, once you feel the pain.
You will choose to leave the cheating man for your own sake, and he will definitely not dare to betray you easily.
This is human nature, you have to learn to see through human nature and solve problems according to human nature.
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I'm Jiaxin, a marriage defender who focuses on the separation of third parties.