Zhongnian Nian | #Emotion#Movie Review Series
Movie | "Actually, he doesn't like you that much"
01.
A good movie is like an old friend who has known each other for many years, even if you don't think about it from time to time, you always know: she is not noisy, not noisy, always there, quietly accompanying time, but also with you.
This movie is called "Actually He Doesn't Like You That Much", I've seen it many times. It is mainly about several girls stumbling on the road to pursue love, gradually exploring themselves, and finally finding happiness.
GiGi is a girl with fantasies about love who longs to meet true love but receives disappointment after every date. She is kind and cute, easy to believe men's beautiful words, and will even take someone else's polite phrase "give me a postcard of yours" as an ambiguous signal that the other party likes herself.
She was impulsive and contradictory, acting freely in front of her friends, casually tearing the other party's business card to pieces, and when she returned home, she began to carefully paste the business card, hesitating whether to take the initiative to dial.
She dared to love and hate, in the face of Alex's repeated signal releases, GiGi decided to take the initiative to point out the relationship, and after seeing Alex's indifference, decisively left.
Why do you like GiGi as a girl in particular?
Seeing many similar shadows in her body, Alex clearly said when helping her analyze each date: "If a man seems to care nothing about you, there are no exceptions, he doesn't like you." ”
And GiGi is still making excuses: "Maybe he's called me, I turned it off and didn't get it, or he went out and got hit by a car, or his grandmother died, or I'm the exception you said." ”
After making all the excuses for the boy we like, waiting for a day or two or even a week without any expectations to happen, we can accept the reality: he doesn't like me.
A few years ago, there was a particularly popular saying: You are the person who wiped my hands when I was in the shower and had to reply to the message in seconds, and you were the one who I was going to sleep, but saw the message you sent and picked up the phone. People who like you will come to you in the rain, and people who don't like you will not think of you in the sky.
Boys are mostly proactive in the face of feelings, if he does not, there is no need to doubt whether he likes you or not enough to like you. Guys don't have to be so crooked, and when you don't feel liked is what he doesn't like.
02.
I remembered the hot search I saw two days ago: how boys who don't like you chat.
Many people posted chat conversations, girls hard typed a few lines of words, boys only plain "Oh", "don't know", "no interest".
I understand the mood of the girls in front of the screen too well.
It took a long time to make up my mind to talk to the boy. Take the initiative to find out the topic that he may be interested in, or secretly contact his good buddies finally asked the star he was chasing, and finally bought a watch for him after a long time...
And doing this, saying this, is worthless in the eyes of boys who don't like you.
I once asked a guy friend who was very good: "What would you do if a girl you weren't interested in was crazy after you and tempted you?" ”
He told me that according to the normal psychology of the average boy, if he does not have a target of interest at the moment, he is likely to play with the girl for a while. Don't confess, don't take the initiative to pay, just hang each other like this. Of course, this is irresponsible, and although a large percentage of boys know that it is wrong, they will still do it.
But there are also some boys who show obvious lack of attention, ignore it, or make it clear to the girl: I have no idea about you.
"Then if you are very clear and the girl tells you that we can be friends and I will not chase you, what do you do?" ”
- "Then be as polite as before, when confessing that this did not happen." The other party sends a message to reply normally, but if I am not interested in a girl, I generally chat with her and go to do something else, and when I am busy, I find that I have not replied to the message.
After all, the mind is not on this at all, the attitude will be perfunctory, completely unable to mobilize the passion of chatting, let alone teasing the girl to talk. ”
The attitude of friends can be said to be very common. Boys are lazy in thinking about girls they don't like, just like girls are reluctant to pay attention to boys who are not interested. Even if you have a good look, the best grade point, or a slim figure, these are completely unattractive to each other.
So girls, when the subconscious begins to doubt whether the other party likes themselves or not, or perceives that the other party's attitude is cold, don't continue to pay, stop, the boy does not like you, no matter what you do, no matter how good you are, how charming.
Learning to accept reality is sometimes not so difficult: he doesn't want to contact you, he just doesn't want to contact you; no confession, no strong hints, just doesn't like you so much; the outspoken breakup and inappropriateness is the choice to leave.
There is nothing humiliating about admitting not being liked, and unbridled blind consumption really hurts self-esteem.
03.
In the movie, GiGi's girlfriend Janine constantly encourages her good friends to cheer up in her failed love. But in fact, in the end, all the friends found true love, and only Janine lived alone.
Janine's marriage to Ben is deadlocked, janine begins to become sensitive, suspecting her husband of secretly smoking and lying to her; Ben also begins to feel powerless, and the life of the two people is not love, only plain.
So Ben will rekindle the spark of love after meeting the singer Anna, be attracted to this sunshine girl, and betray his wife. Janine couldn't accept it and chose to leave.
The husband betrayed in marriage, the feelings of the two people lost their passion, Janine stopped the loss in time, knew that the problems of the two people were too much, and could not be solved for a while, so he chose to leave, quietly and alone, pursued what he wanted, and created a new self.
This is a wise approach when a relationship is in crisis. When two people get into such an ending, it is a kind of courage to choose to accept that "I am no longer loved", and since I am no longer loved, there is no need to entangle each other.
At the end of the film, there is a monologue by Janine: Pack up your mood, then believe in yourself, release yourself, and start over for a better future.
Such a girl is shining, no matter where she goes, always embracing love and believing in love, but not succumbing to love, not losing herself.
GiGi has learned the experience of love in the failure of repeated dates, still has hope for the next date, she believes that there must be her own true love, she is eager to embrace love, regain self-confidence in each unappreciated, timely stop, stop fantasizing.
Janine could not enjoy being loved in her years-long married life, lost her passion, chose to stop the loss in time, no longer entangled, and then set off.
Believe in your own feelings, like your own life, cherish your feelings.
These are the words I want to give to all girls.
Maybe the so-called perfect ending does not include giving you a perfect lover; perhaps the so-called happy ending is to keep moving forward with the hope of never giving up, running with tears and trying to find.
Then even if you fall, you must remember: the sea of people, love while walking.
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